Posted: 1/5/2013 9:15:55 PM EDT
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I know GD isn't the best place to ask for life advice but here it goes anyways: I'm currently 21 and part way through a business degree at Kansas State. I have a job in the LE communications industry and I like it a lot. However, life just doesn't seem to have that zest anymore. Things are going great but I feel like I am missing out, living in Kansas is great career and school wise but not much else. I have lived in the Midwest and northeast (when I was very young) my whole life and quite frankly it just doesn't do it for me anymore. I have pretty much set my sights on moving once I finish here but i'm not so certain on where I want to go or do. I enjoy what I do now but I don't want to do it for the rest of my life. I would like to live somewhere warm with friendly people and possibly near the ocean. I have considered Houston, Atlanta, Miami and parts of North Carolina but the thought of just packing everything up and driving out of town seems insane. To people who have moved by yourself before: How do you develop new friends in your new locations? I would be essentially starting from ground zero. Granted I would be sure to have a job before I move, I don't want to rely on work to develop new friends. Going out by myself sounds awful. Where are some good places to live these days? I think I would like California if it weren't so liberal and expensive. The PNW seems too cold but I like how clean it is. Locales like Miami, Atlanta and Houston always seems to have things going on which I would enjoy. |
| I just recently moved to a new state and find myself in the same boat with having trouble meeting new folks. But I'm 31, married, with a two year old. So about the only advice I can offer is to do it and get yourself situated BEFORE marriage and kids. This would have been a hell of a lot easier if I only had to worry about myself. |
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You're 21 and have lost the zest for life? You're fucked. I'm bored The Absolute Truth is you can do alot Better than Kansas--My impression is most (all) of the State is a Shithole. Although I realize there are alot of Good People there. Do you have Friends or Family any where Nice?? Go to a College somewhere you would like to live(best way to meet friends and networks.) Very dificult to meet new people in a new place except through School and/or Work--I know this. Best of Luck! |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: You're 21 and have lost the zest for life? You're fucked. I'm bored The Absolute Truth is you can do alot Better than Kansas--My impression is most (all) of the State is a Shithole. Although I realize there are alot of Good People there. Do you have Friends or Family any where Nice?? Go to a College somewhere you would like to live(best way to meet friends and networks.) Very dificult to meet new people in a new place except through School and/or Work--I know this. Best of Luck! A little late on the college part, I am almost finished.  |
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Service fraternity at the University. Get involved with scouting, 4H, CAP, ham radio, shooting clubs, etc.
When you move, use your background in service to the above orgs as your resume to join Eagles, Elks, Lions, Jaycees, Kiwanis, Rotary, Optimists, the Chamber of Commerce, Masons or KofC. And go to church. If you demonstrate your worth, people will seek you out. |
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[/div][div]How do you develop new friends in your new locations? I would be essentially starting from ground zero. Granted I would be sure to have a job before I move, I don't want to rely on work to develop new friends. Going out by myself sounds awful.[/div][div]] [/div] [/div] Introduce yourself. Only way to do it. |
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Do it!
I've moved multiple times. 18 yrs old - 3 hrs north of my hometown for school 25 yrs old - moved to the US (mid-west) from another country 27 yrs old - moved to another city in the same state 29 yrs old - moved to another state (east coast) 31 yrs old - moved to another state (small new england state) 33 yrs old - moved to another state (west coast) My move to the US was the roughest since I knew no one in the entire country. However, it only took a couple months to form a good group of friends who I still keep in touch with. I think the biggest benefit of moving at your age is that you will prove to yourself you can do it and it will really expand your horizons. If a kick-ass job comes up in 3 years that's on the other side of the country, you won't hesitate to take it since you'll be comfortable knowing you can handle a big move. RF |
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You're 21 and have lost the zest for life? You're fucked. I'm bored Shit man Im 31 as of today and im pretty fucking bored with life Youre 21, when you finish school get out and enjoy life as much as you can before a career and a family show up.
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