[ARCHIVED THREAD] - IM GETTING A DIVORCE (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 4/30/2012 7:56:30 PM EDT
| So after three years of marriage, and many long arguments its over and I am relieved, I haven't felt this good in a long time! Complete and utter relief. So far we have agreed that its the best route for both of us. so far no bad feelings for each other and no ill-will.She is so far more level-headed than she ever was during the relationship. hopefully it doesn't turn into a pissing match. |
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She is an immigrant from germany Visa or green card? If it is visa, oh oh, just wait for the abusive spouse charge so she is eligible to convert to green card. There are enough slime ball divorce attorneys out there that will recommend she do this regardless of no abuse. |
I'm done with them all! (yeah right)
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Oh.... it will be more than a pissing match. Hang in there. Yep. Wait till her girlfriends tell her to get an attorney. This is why you need to remind her that a divorce is something to keep quiet about. You don't want any shame from the community. 
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You will get all sorts of replys saying it's gonna explode. Don't listen to it OP. If you can both be level headed and act like responsible adults, it can all be done civil. My ex wife and I went to the courthouse together to file the paperwork. It CAN be done. Stay away from the stupid petty bullshit games, and it will be the best route for a difficult situation. |
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Links to BOTD thread
No naughty pics cant sink that low look for my user name |
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My divorce kind of started that way. Stand the feck by..... Yup. I never married but I have lots of ex girlfriends. Every one of them started talking smack to our friends when my back was turned. Smart, dumb, educated or clueless. They all feel the need to comiserate. That's when they get ideas. Plan for it. |
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I'm sorry to hear that, because I'm sure at one point you loved and cared for her very much as she did for you. Maybe you should consider counseling and try to work through this rough period? No way would this ever work. She is German. Ever been married to a German woman ? I was. 
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I'm sorry to hear that, because I'm sure at one point you loved and cared for her very much as she did for you. Maybe you should consider counseling and try to work through this rough period? No way would this ever work. She is German. Ever been married to a German woman ? I was. Do they blitz you? |
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I'm sorry to hear that, because I'm sure at one point you loved and cared for her very much as she did for you. Maybe you should consider counseling and try to work through this rough period? No way would this ever work. She is German. Ever been married to a German woman ? I was. Do they blitz you? With Stuka's, tanks, artillary and infantry. That's just to soften you up. |
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So after three years of marriage, and many long arguments its over and I am relieved, I haven't felt this good in a long time! Complete and utter relief. So far we have agreed that its the best route for both of us. so far no bad feelings for each other and no ill-will.She is so far more level-headed than she ever was during the relationship. hopefully it doesn't turn into a pissing match. "Jubilation Day" Steve Martin and the Steep Canyon Rangers. 
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No kids Everything I value is out We rent a house together Two cars in both of our names She is an immigrant from germany Green card? Serious question, not making fun of her or you. Green card for two years now with all due respect she has her 'time in' to keep her green card. LPR marriage fraud is a big business. And if it is any less than two years be careful, she may claim you were abusive to keep her green card. |
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I feel bad for you, all of you guys where your marriages have turned to shit. It sucks counseling couldn't help, but you can't force somebody to want to change. I was married to a German broad for almost 5 yrs but thanks to Uncle Sam, we were apart over 3 yrs of that time, grew apart, she strayed on me, and you know the story. No kids........that was mine at least. It still pains me how marriages are considered disposable just like everything else in the world. Nobody wants to put effort into it, its all about "me", what "feels right to me", thanks to Oprah and other bad influences. Well, I pray things go smoothly for you, you have peace of heart and mind that you at least tried your best. I pray that God would have something else better for you in His plans. |
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So after three years of marriage, and many long arguments its over and I am relieved, I haven't felt this good in a long time! Complete and utter relief. So far we have agreed that its the best route for both of us. so far no bad feelings for each other and no ill-will.She is so far more level-headed than she ever was during the relationship. hopefully it doesn't turn into a pissing match. Perhaps I am a cynic, but I don't trust people that make an obvious departure from their normal views. My gut would tell me that there's a snake coiling up to strike there. Congratulations on the freedom, and best wishes. No kids I take it? |
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I feel bad for you, all of you guys where your marriages have turned to shit. It sucks counseling couldn't help, but you can't force somebody to want to change. I was married to a German broad for almost 5 yrs but thanks to Uncle Sam, we were apart over 3 yrs of that time, grew apart, she strayed on me, and you know the story. No kids........that was mine at least. It still pains me how marriages are considered disposable just like everything else in the world. Nobody wants to put effort into it, its all about "me", what "feels right to me", thanks to Oprah and other bad influences. Well, I pray things go smoothly for you, you have peace of heart and mind that you at least tried your best. I pray that God would have something else better for you in His plans. All my friends think Im nuts for sticking it out with my wife. We had a separation 2 years ago for stupid reasons. Neither really tried after we got back together (5months separated) and now we just went through a major bullshit incident in Jan. We're now in counseling and Im seeing light somewhere off distance. Amazing what you can do and take when you know the marriage is important. We have talked about a vowel renewal in a year or more if we can stick it out, which we both intend to do. |
| Having these thoughts about Divorce as well I mean shit stay for another 17 years be miserable and stifled since my wife is an irrational Lib or say fuck it pay the bitch CS for the next 17 years and move to do me while turning into the better dad I know I could be. Since after working a 12-14 hour day to find my wife home on the couch asleep whiel our 1 yr old is in his crib hollering because he is up and no one has retrieved him yet does wonderful things for my disposition |
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Quoted: So after three years of marriage, and many long arguments its over and I am relieved, I haven't felt this good in a long time! Complete and utter relief. So far we have agreed that its the best route for both of us. so far no bad feelings for each other and no ill-will.She is so far more level-headed than she ever was during the relationship. hopefully it doesn't turn into a pissing match. Good stuff, that's the best way to do it. Where both parties have no grudges. That's how it went for me and my wife a few weeks ago. |
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I would very quickly and very quietly get anything out of the house you prize or want to keep. DP QFT - very quietly move stuff over to your parent or brothers house. Especially small stuff that would not be easily missed. Collectables from your youth(baseball card collection, comic books etc). Also anything that you brought into the marriage and don't want to "split" that stuff too... maybe see if your brother or best friend will rent a storage space in their name for a few months if you have too much stuff.... you pay the bill in cash and they put their name down. warning you can lose your stuff outright if you don't pay the rent, so this might not be the thing to do if money is tight. best wishes and CYA. i did not read to the end of this thread, but some of the early comments are right.... watch out for her getting a lawyer, etc... CYA,CYA,CYA! S |