Posted: 2/12/2012 7:37:20 PM EDT
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So my wife and I moved in with my brother and his wife, a transitionary between-jobs period for both of us, in which we decided to split the cost of renting a house. We get along pretty well, and the house has an upstairs and downstairs, separate living spaces. It's all cool.
Except there's only room for one kitchen table, and only a small one at that. We have had a Duncan Phyfe leaf table, with two leaves, that can expand to seat around 15 people. Complete with 6 matching Duncan Phyfe chairs. All in good condition, though the legs were a bit wobbly on the table. Everything had the original finish. With nowhere to store it, my parents offered to keep it at their house, in their attached garage. My wife said no, your mom will give it away. Having nowhere to put it, there wasn't much of an option. So we made sure that my parents knew we wanted to keep the table, and that they could not give it away - we just needed them to store it for a year. A year later, lease is up, my brother is moving out to a new job, and taking his table with him. We want our table back. I call up mom and dad... and they gave away our table, because they both remembered us telling them we didn't want it any more. And, get this, it needed to be refinished anyway.  They didn't even call and ask.
It's okay though, because my mom said she'll find us a table... it should only cost $50 or so to buy an old table, right? Anybody know where I can find a Duncan Phyfe 2-pedestal 4 brass claw foot drop-leaf mahogany table with two leaves, and six matching chairs? [/rant] P.S. no profanity because it's a rant about my mom. |
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I went off to college,(30 years ago ) ALL of my radio gear .... is gone.
Transmitters, receivers, power supplies,VFO's, linear amplifiers, lot of spare tubes, and other parts. All gone... garage sale or dump, dont know. several hundred pounds of military radio gear, all functional, and all GONE. |
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Are both your parents suffering from dementia and/or Alzheimer's?  Both in early 50s. My mom gave away our car once because someone stopped by with a sob story, and they really needed a car. That was back when I was in high school, so she was in her late 30s? My wife is more angry at me than them, because I'm the one who trusted a scorpion to sleep in my shirt to keep warm. |
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I feel for ya, Man. Really. I left our ferrets at my in-laws for several days while we were out of town. She used to refer to them as 'Her Grandchildren'. Get back home, the mother-in-law had sold them. Refused to tell us who she sold them to because she was afraid I'd embarrass her in front of the people by trying to get them back. I got calls for weeks from people who read ads she posted Gods knew where asking about my Burmese Python for sale. She wasn't. Mother-in-law said 'I didn't know you still wanted the snake'. I almost miss my Ex, but there was that whole 'apple not falling far from the tree' stuff..... and I just couldn't take the chance. |
My dad's employer sent him out of state to get his masters degree on their dime, so he left his '50-something Buick in his parents' driveway (this was in the '70s, so the car was probably 20 years old), gave his dad the keys saying he'd be back in X months and asked for a ride to the train station. He returned with his fancy sheepskin, only to find his Buick missing. Grandpa thought Dad wouldn't need it once he got back and gave it away. Dad still can't figure out how they imagined he'd travel the five miles to his office job without a car. 
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Thing is, it was my mom's brother (my uncle) who gave us the table and chairs. He told my mom to tell us that we only got the table on the condition that we keep it in the family. It had been a family heirloom for a few generations at least. Then she's the one to give it away. 
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Key detail: Your wife suspected they'd give it away. This means prior habits of doing such things, which you confirm. Which means if you put it over there, with those prior habits, that you gave it away. If you give your beer to a drunk, and he drinks it, you gave your booze away...it's semantics to blame the drunk...he's just doing what he does. |
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Are both your parents suffering from dementia and/or Alzheimer's? Both in early 50s. My mom gave away our car once because someone stopped by with a sob story, and they really needed a car. That was back when I was in high school, so she was in her late 30s? My wife is more angry at me than them, because I'm the one who trusted a scorpion to sleep in my shirt to keep warm.
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Key detail: Your wife suspected they'd give it away. This means prior habits of doing such things, which you confirm. Which means if you put it over there, with those prior habits, that you gave it away. If you give your beer to a drunk, and he drinks it, you gave your booze away...it's semantics to blame the drunk...he's just doing what he does. I don't think it could have been put any better. |
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Quoted: I don't understand the thought process of giving away someone else's property. Without even asking. I don't understand the thought process of asking someone to store your shit for a year. That's what storage units are for. Want it safe? Don't just dump it at the parents house and walk off for a year. Store it properly if it's important to you. But yea, if they agreed to store it they shouldn't have given it away without warning. That's not right.
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Key detail: Your wife suspected they'd give it away. This means prior habits of doing such things, which you confirm. Which means if you put it over there, with those prior habits, that you gave it away. If you give your beer to a drunk, and he drinks it, you gave your booze away...it's semantics to blame the drunk...he's just doing what he does. I don't think it could have been put any better. Well, that's how my wife put it. |
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I don't understand the thought process of giving away someone else's property. Without even asking. I don't understand the thought process of asking someone to store your shit for a year. That's what storage units are for. Want it safe? Don't just dump it at the parents house and walk off for a year. Store it properly if it's important to you. But yea, if they agreed to store it they shouldn't have given it away without warning. That's not right. Storage unit would defeat the purpose of living with family to save money. They offered to store it, I accepted against the wishes of my prescient wife. |
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I don't understand the thought process of giving away someone else's property. Without even asking. I don't understand the thought process of asking someone to store your shit for a year. That's what storage units are for. Want it safe? Don't just dump it at the parents house and walk off for a year. Store it properly if it's important to you. But yea, if they agreed to store it they shouldn't have given it away without warning. That's not right. We think alike. |