[ARCHIVED THREAD] - What if??? (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 11/13/2011 6:48:44 PM EDT
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What if your wife says to you, " I think you should get rid of your guns. What do you need them for anyways? If you don't, I'm leaving you."
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I have married crazy before, so crazy in fact, I never gave her the code to open any of my safes. They did, however, pass the pre-marital screening of weapons are your friend. I have around 200 knives of various sorts, she would take a long time picking out which one she would carry with her to church on Sundays. Hopefully pre-marital screening would keep me far away from anyone that would turn anti-gun. If she had of, though, I still would have divorced her, just a bit sooner. 
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This won't be the last ultimatum. She'll keep going until you are effectively neutered and sniveling. Then she's going to leave you because you aren't the man she remembers.
Tell her they are important to you, and she can accept that or move on. It's important to compromise. It's a whole lot more important to not get neutered. ETA Try explaining your position to her. Perhaps she doesn't understand the joy you get from shooting? Sit her down and chat about it, take her to the range, explain why they are important to you. Have fun with it. It could be a case of misunderstanding. |
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Quoted: What if your wife says to you, " I think you should get rid of your guns. What do you need them for anyways? If you don't, I'm leaving you." I'm sorry to here that, I really am. There's no sense in you leaving right now. Why not get a good nights sleep, and get a fresh start in the morning?  |
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What if your wife says to you, " I think you should get rid of your guns. What do you need them for anyways? If you don't, I'm leaving you." first i would tell her she has to get rid of hers .... after that i would say - our daughter stays, you can leave any time you like  ...... i chose wisely, not something i'll have to worry about
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The hypothetical situation is so absurd it's hard to answer.
But putting aside the fact that I wouldn't marry a girl who would do something like that in the first place, I would first try reasoning with her, and if she doesn't respond to reason, I would accept that we must part ways. I would then be unable to focus on anything else for the next two days because I can't understand why my wife would suddenly have such a psychotic episode. Ultimatums don't belong anywhere near a loving relationship, so either something is seriously wrong with her mental health that has suddenly manifested, or I made a serious error in judgment when I married her. ETA: It would have nothing to do with guns either. I would have the same response if she said "You need to get rid of your video games, or I'm leaving you" or "You need to get rid of that shower curtain, or I'm leaving you". Ultimatums just will not fly. ETA #2: It means there's an extreme lack of respect in the relationship. To make such a demand means that only what she wants matters, and there is no room for me in the relationship –– only my submissiveness to her. |
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My girlfriend and maybe future wife knows that guns are more than just my favorite hobby/posessions. She also knows that I value my independence and that her asking that would be a control issue which would not be acceptable. As much as I love her I would tell her that it would be her choice to leave, but the guys are staying. |
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Been married 7 years. She was fine with the guns before but she thinks I care more about my guns than her. Its about 60/40. Her then guns. Well that's a lie. Depends on the day. Bout 50/50. She may be right who the hell screws around with guns 50% of the time. I love my guns but sounds like no woman would stay with you with those percentages. |
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Been married 7 years. She was fine with the guns before but she thinks I care more about my guns than her. Its about 60/40. Her then guns. Well that's a lie. Depends on the day. Bout 50/50. You left out this important part of the equation to start off with. If guns are as important as your wife, there is something seriously wrong. Consider if your wife was into painting... and her brushes were as important to her as you are. There may be a major problem with your relationship, and not just her. Perform a major inventory on your life, and if you can't work out the problems yourself, seek marriage counseling. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Been married 7 years. She was fine with the guns before but she thinks I care more about my guns than her. Its about 60/40. Her then guns. Well that's a lie. Depends on the day. Bout 50/50. You left out this important part of the equation to start off with. If guns are as important as your wife, there is something seriously wrong. Consider if your wife was into painting... and her brushes were as important to her as you are. There may be a major problem with your relationship, and not just her. Perform a major inventory on your life, and if you can't work out the problems yourself, seek marriage counseling. guns are considerably more important than paintrbrushes; they arent just a hobby |
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Been married 7 years. She was fine with the guns before but she thinks I care more about my guns than her. Its about 60/40. Her then guns. Well that's a lie. Depends on the day. Bout 50/50. You left out this important part of the equation to start off with. If guns are as important as your wife, there is something seriously wrong. Consider if your wife was into painting... and her brushes were as important to her as you are. There may be a major problem with your relationship, and not just her. Perform a major inventory on your life, and if you can't work out the problems yourself, seek marriage counseling. guns are considerably more important than paintrbrushes; they arent just a hobby So do you really think that guns should be as important as your wife, or are you just picking on my analogy for the sake of argument? The concept of self defense, and the will and ability to carry it out, is extremely important, yes. But when the tools for that interfere with your intimate relationship, there's a problem. |