[ARCHIVED THREAD] - was i wrong? (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 10/22/2011 6:27:25 PM EDT
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i wont bore you with the past 7 years of back story on how my wife is a raging bitch, so ill just speak about tonight..
i ask her if she wants to go out to dinner for our anniversary last tues., she says no lets go sat. "today" so this morning she go's out for a hair appointment when she gets back, i ask her when she wanted to go... she says something that now she didnt want to go.. i tell her.. i am going, she can do what she wants... she thinks im talking shit and wont do it.. my buddy stop over at 3, and mentions the restaurant that we were going to go to, a hibachi place i have a gift card for ... after he leaves she says she dont like that food, i tell her to look at the menu, they have plenty she eats.. 6pm comes around and i asked if she is going to get ready... she says her mom just called and asked if we were going to drop my son over to watch when we go out, my daughter is all ready over there for the weekend.. she said we weren't.. i tell her i told you this morning i am going... you can chose to stay or go.. she decides to call my bluff and i go grab my coat and say BYE!.. she gives me a buch of shit that i only think of my self and no one else and dont blah blah blah.. at this point i tuned her out.. so i said fine, me and my son will go.. she says no.. he grabs his coat and we go.. hes 3.5 of couse she gives me more shit when i get home about what a dick i am.. i told her i warned her... not my problem.. insert EJECT photo here... but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. |
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i wont bore you with the past 7 years of back story on how my wife is a raging bitch, so ill just speak about tonight.. i ask her if she wants to go out to dinner for our anniversary last tues., she says no lets go sat. "today" so this morning she go's out for a hair appointment when she gets back, i ask her when she wanted to go... she says something that now she didnt want to go.. i tell her.. i am going, she can do what she wants... she thinks im talking shit and wont do it.. my buddy stop over at 3, and mentions the restaurant that we were going to go to, a hibachi place i have a gift card for ... after he leaves she says she dont like that food, i tell her to look at the menu, they have plenty she eats.. 6pm comes around and i asked if she is going to get ready... she says her mom just called and asked if we were going to drop my son over to watch when we go out, my daughter is all ready over there for the weekend.. she said we weren't.. i tell her i told you this morning i am going... you can chose to stay or go.. she decides to call my bluff and i go grab my coat and say BYE!.. she gives me a buch of shit that i only think of my self and no one else and dont blah blah blah.. at this point i tuned her out.. so i said fine, me and my son will go.. she says no.. he grabs his coat and we go.. hes 3.5 of couse she gives me more shit when i get home about what a dick i am.. i told her i warned her... not my problem.. insert EJECT photo here... but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. OP I challenge you to read that and make sense of it. |
| Good for you! You gotta live for yourself. I mean, take care of your children too, but you dont want to be on your death-bed looking back and wondering "Why did I give up so many things in my life for that person, and they're not here with me in the end?" You did what you said you were going to do. Good job! |
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Before you come home be sure to go to the perfume section at Walgreen's, spray some women's perfume on yourself, then smear some lipstick on your collar. And head straight for the shower....act like you are exhausted. I am sure this will get you on her good side as well -PC- |
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<snip> but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. Yeah, much better to have them grow up in an environment filled with hate, animosity and disrespect. Seriously, think about what is happening. |
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did you ever ask where she would want to go? This pic cracks me up, thanks for the opportunity to use it again. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v256/godsmack/reading.jpg Hmm, the most relevant information out of the OP that I could find says he asked her when she wanted to go. It never says that he asked her where. Edit: I guess you could creatively interpret "where we were going to go" to mean that they had both agreed to go to this place, but that's reaching unless the OP specifically confirms it. |
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<snip> but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. Yeah, much better to have them grow up in an environment filled with hate, animosity and disrespect. Seriously, think about what is happening. Bingo! |
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Sometimes women do not want to have to provide input or have to plan all social activities. Not knowing what your weekday schedule looks like, but
Maybe your should have known she would prefer to go out over the weekend Before Saturday morning already have made arrangements for your children to spend the night with Grandma Made reservations at a restaurant she would like (and do not tell her you picked it because you have a gift card) And as far as not being your "problem", you make up the man half of a man & wife combo that has a problem, so you have a problem. You ever play on a team? |
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did you ever ask where she would want to go? This pic cracks me up, thanks for the opportunity to use it again. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v256/godsmack/reading.jpg huh? I read it again. (Trust me it hurt to read it this time too.). Hubby didn't ask where she would want to go this time either.... I've been married three years. I know damn well that if she is not enthusiastic about going out, that I'm asking the wrong question. |
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did you ever ask where she would want to go? This pic cracks me up, thanks for the opportunity to use it again. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v256/godsmack/reading.jpg Hmm, the most relevant information out of the OP that I could find says he asked her when she wanted to go. It never says that he asked her where. Edit: I guess you could creatively interpret "where we were going to go" to mean that they had both agreed to go to this place, but that's reaching unless the OP specifically confirms it. Are you married? You have to ask where and when or you get the PMS zone. |
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IF and I do stress IF you ever do get into her mind and find out what set this whole thing off, you will be flirting with a realm of reason only known to them. So take heed my friend,. its a place you might not want to go to. remember this.. they marry us and almost immediately start working to change us by little nips and tucks here and there Trying to pussify us until we are walking around the mall with them, us wearing plaid shorts and birkenstocks holding a man-purse. then one day, they wake up, tell us that we are not the same man that they married and they love us but are not "in" love with us  BTW, I hope you and your son had a nice meal, I don't blame you for doing what you did
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<snip> but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. Yeah, much better to have them grow up in an environment filled with hate, animosity and disrespect. Seriously, think about what is happening. most if the time i ignore her.. but she likes to pull shit to piss me off, like when she came home and my jacket was hanging on the banister for the steps, she says put this away and picks it up and drops it on the floor, so i look at her and open the closet on grab a hand full of her coats and pull them off the hangers and drop then, and say have fun... |
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did you ever ask where she would want to go? This pic cracks me up, thanks for the opportunity to use it again. http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v256/godsmack/reading.jpg huh? I read it again. (Trust me it hurt to read it this time too.). Hubby didn't ask where she would want to go this time either.... I've been married three years. I know damn well that if she is not enthusiastic about going out, that I'm asking the wrong question. Fuck that in a healthy relationship there is no reason to have to tip toe around things just so she doesn't act like a spoiled bitch. Do you know how crazy it sounds that you have to ask your wife to go out in just the right way? That isn't reasonable. Don't get me wrong I've been there and it doesn't make any sense, if a man treated a woman the way women treat men they'd leave. We should learn from them not to put up with crap. |
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I was married to a psycho bitch for 9 years.
I tried to stay in the marriage "for the kids" but the cunt left me anyways. I paid child support for a year and a half before she OD'ed and I got custody of them. If I had to do it over again, I would EJECT before I waste allot of time being miserable. life is too short to put up with that kind of horse shit 
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| I may be the first, but I think you are in the wrong. 1. The point of an anniversary is for the TWO of you to plan and have fun together (yes, I understand that men are supposed to come up with stuff, but come on, a gift card!) 2. Assert your dominance over something more important...i.e. buying a kegerator or some crap like that, not on an anniversary dinner. |
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most if the time i ignore her.. but she likes to pull shit to piss me off, like when she came home and my jacket was hanging on the banister for the steps, she says put this away and picks it up and drops it on the floor, so i look at her and open the closet on grab a hand full of her coats and pull them off the hangers and drop then, and say have fun... That sounds like a healthy relationship you got going there. Be sure to maintain it just like that for the next 20 years, you know, for the kids. |
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<snip> but i refuse to give her a divorce since we have twins and i think that is a shit thing for the kids.. Yeah, much better to have them grow up in an environment filled with hate, animosity and disrespect. Seriously, think about what is happening. most if the time i ignore her.. but she likes to pull shit to piss me off, like when she came home and my jacket was hanging on the banister for the steps, she says put this away and picks it up and drops it on the floor, so i look at her and open the closet on grab a hand full of her coats and pull them off the hangers and drop then, and say have fun... Take a step (or three) back and read what you are writing. Seriously, think about what is happening. |
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most if the time i ignore her.. but she likes to pull shit to piss me off, like when she came home and my jacket was hanging on the banister for the steps, she says put this away and picks it up and drops it on the floor, so i look at her and open the closet on grab a hand full of her coats and pull them off the hangers and drop then, and say have fun... That sounds like a healthy relationship you got going there. Be sure to maintain it just like that for the next 20 years, you know, for the kids. No shit. OP, you're just trolling...right? |
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wow. just put up the damn jacket. It is much easier to just do whatever the hell she wants than to suffer the shit you will get from not doing it.
I mean I could fight my wife all week long on everything or I could just make her happy (quiet) by doing what she wants....then buy myself an ar10 for being a good husband. |
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wow. just put up the damn jacket. It is much easier to just do whatever the hell she wants than to suffer the shit you will get from not doing it. I mean I could fight my wife all week long on everything or I could just make her happy (quiet) by doing what she wants....then buy myself an ar10 for being a good husband. Look at what you just wrote brother. Passive/Aggressive. I obey my wife master and then buy myself a toy for being an obedient gelding. |
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This wasn't about what she wanted to eat, or where she wanted to eat, or even when to go out. She was trying to start a fight.
You need to watch for this and NOT play by her rules of engagement. Do not engage. Offer to take her out again Tuesday, any place she wants, she can chose where. Do not say, "Well, since you didn't want to go out Saturday..." Saturday is over. Do not mention it. Don't ask her if she wants to go out Tuesday. Just ask her where she wants to go. Buy her something. And a card. Always a card. For some reason, that's important to women. And watch for her trying to start something. Again, do not engage. And do not give her any ammunition to bitch about you to others. Take the high road. Then any bitching she does will only make her look bad. |
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My Anniversary is 23rd.
I'm running in contention for a UK shooting championship. I've won the nationals before and would like to win again......However it is our Anniversary, I spent all day shooting yesterday...... my wife is an Angel and has said I can shoot today for the Nationals. However it is my Anniversary. I WANT to be with my wife and son. The championship can wait 'til next year. I married my wife because I love her........ the Nationals can wait.......I won't make my wife wait. + I earn billions of brownie points.
Seriously....... you are in the wrong relationship......neither of you should ave to go through this shit. Sorry 
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Damn... Ithought Pavlov only had one dog not a whole fucking kennel !! All these dickless dudes posting about how they need to find new and interesting ways to grovel to keep the SO happy. What a crock. If you ask her in a decent, civil manner about something and she goes all psycho bitch about it then fuck her, only thing you get by placating that behavior is more of it. I applaud the OP for taking his balls out of the wife's purse and restoring them to their rightful place. If more guys would quit putting up with this shit there would be a lot less of it.
How's it go ?? Play stupid games ...... 
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wow. just put up the damn jacket. It is much easier to just do whatever the hell she wants than to suffer the shit you will get from not doing it. I mean I could fight my wife all week long on everything or I could just make her happy (quiet) by doing what she wants....then buy myself an ar10 for being a good husband. holy crap! make sure you get a pink AR10 |