[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Need Some Advice (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 7/24/2011 4:32:50 PM EDT
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Might as well cut straight to the chase. I have no reason to live. Not in a "I'm going to kill myself" kind of way, but in a "I have no reason to be" way. Finding out what will happen in the world tomorrow and not screwing with my family's emotions are the two primary reasons I'm still alive. Fortunately, the first is sufficiently motivating and open-ended that I'll never actually really feel compelled to off my self, but there's nothing in my life that motivates me to actually do anything. I wake up and go to work because if I don't I won't get paid. When I get home, I find something to waste time on until I need to sleep, at which point the entire process starts over. Weekends are the same, sans the going to work bit. Nothing interests or motivates me for more than a few hours. I do get out and hang with friends once or twice a week, but that tends to just leave me depressed when it's over. I look at my future and I honestly don't see one until my death. It's like there's a void between now and when I'm ~75 that my imagination just can't fill with anything other than me getting older.
So GD, what the fuck do I do? |
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You're not the only one here who feels that way. Sorry to hear that. Quoted:
Go talk to someone. Anyone. That's kind of why I came here. I'd rather not talk to anyone I actually know, because it's not really something I'd like them to have to worry about. It's not something you'd want a friend to tell you, you know? |
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That my friend is the million dollar question and I have asked that many times myself. Never have found an answer. You have depression, guessing you are in your 40's?? I'm 27, actually. Been feeling like this for the past couple of years, but it's gotten stronger over the past 6 months. |
I buy ammo. 
Reading helped for a while, but I don't seem to have the time anymore. I played MW2 for a while, but I lost interest. Kinda at a stand still on my firearms hobby, everything I seem to want is more than I have to spend. Thinking about building an adult go-cart out of an old Monte Carlo body I bought several years ago, but I'm not sure where the cash for that will come from. I hate my job, and have sent out numerous resumes, and applications to no avail. You're not the only one in this rut, I'm there too. |
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That my friend is the million dollar question and I have asked that many times myself. Never have found an answer. You have depression, guessing you are in your 40's?? I'm 27, actually. Been feeling like this for the past couple of years, but it's gotten stronger over the past 6 months. Does depression run in the family? |
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Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen. You'll feel much better about life after one lunch tour. Oh, I'm under no delusions that my life is hard or anything. By most standards, I'm doing pretty well. It's just this complete and utter lack of motivation or care. |
| the way this world situation is in, is enough to depress anybody. always remember,, a journey of a 1,000 miles starts with the first step. put one foot after another, find SOMETHING that interests you, and get on with your life. it sounds to me like a good shot of boodie, would do wonders for you. at the least, it would give you something to look forward to tomorrow...... |
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That my friend is the million dollar question and I have asked that many times myself. Never have found an answer. You have depression, guessing you are in your 40's?? I'm 27, actually. Been feeling like this for the past couple of years, but it's gotten stronger over the past 6 months. Does depression run in the family? My father gets depressed from time to time, but that's generally because he's had some serious health issues his entire life. Serious food allergy issues that keep getting worse and he's sick every few months, so I think he's entitled somewhat. Other than him, no one has shown any sign that I've noticed. |
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If you leave them feeling exhausted rather than exhilarated and smiling/laughing, you are spending time with the wrong people. They were your buddies from high school or college, weren't they?
I do get out and hang with friends once or twice a week, but that tends to just leave me depressed when it's over. Get out of your rut - do something new and you will be truly inspired by the amazing things you can offer the world (and, in turn, what the world is offering you to experience)! Where do you live (which state)? |
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I have no family and no girlfriend. All of my friends are in other states or countries. I have no delusions of god or a higher purpose. If I died tomorrow, I wouldn't give a fuck (I'd be dead afterall). I would kill myself in a heartbeat if I had a terrible disease that would significantly disable me or painfully kill me.
I LIVE TO DO COOL SHIT. I go backpacking, running, weight lifting, mountain climbing, fly planes AND helicopters, snorkling, skydiving, modeling photography, travel, graphic design, study quantum physics, etc..., etc... I want to use my life to do as much cool shit as fucking possible before I die. That's it. Go try a new hobby. Get on Meetup.com and join some groups that interest you and go find new stuff to do. Take a vacation somewhere exotic, like another country. Fucking live life to do cool shit. That's my "motivation." Don't be a typical blind american that never left their hometown, works just to feed their family and have babies, and watches the discovery channel saying "I wish I could do that." |
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Brother, I ask myself this every single day. I don't want kids, a wife, a family, etc. or any of the traditional things I guess I'm supposed to devote my entire existence towards attaining. I do my thing, I have plenty of money to support myself and my lifestyle, and this is as good as it's gonna get. Period. I guess the only motivating factor for me is that, well, whatever comes after this (probably an eternity of "nothing") might be even worse, so what do I have to lose by sticking it out? Ain't life a bitch?
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Quoted: That's why I recommend losing yourself in helping others.Quoted: Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen. You'll feel much better about life after one lunch tour. Oh, I'm under no delusions that my life is hard or anything. By most standards, I'm doing pretty well. It's just this complete and utter lack of motivation or care. Sometimes the only point you have in life is to help others. Try it. Go mow the neighbor's lawn. Buy some big gulps for the local road crew. "Pay it forward" a few times until you feel better about what and who you are. Trust me, it works.
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 So it sounds like the basic consensus is "if what you're doing now isn't working, you should probably try something else instead of doing the same broken thing over and over." Sounds like it's worth a shot. Thanks everyone. |
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Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen. You'll feel much better about life after one lunch tour. Oh, I'm under no delusions that my life is hard or anything. By most standards, I'm doing pretty well. It's just this complete and utter lack of motivation or care. Sometimes the only point you have in life is to help others. Try it. Go mow the neighbor's lawn. Buy some big gulps for the local road crew. "Pay it forward" a few times until you feel better about what and who you are. Trust me, it works.
That also sounds like something worth trying. My self-esteem has been pretty rock-bottom. You think helping others will help with that? |
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Guy, you need a personal relationship with Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Trust me here. ETA: How about http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lzbr6fPDmkE |
| And buddy, ARFcommers are some of the greatest people you'll ever meet in real life (some of my favorite "real" people post here!). Go check out your HTF! At the top of the site, see "Hometown" in between Outdoors and Industry. Then drill down into your Hometown Forum (HTF) for info on local meet-ups. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen. You'll feel much better about life after one lunch tour. Oh, I'm under no delusions that my life is hard or anything. By most standards, I'm doing pretty well. It's just this complete and utter lack of motivation or care. same here, its like if i have my bills paid off and a little spending money I'm golden, no real desire to climb higher. and it seems like no matter what i try and get into i get bored pretty quickly. |
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You need to get outside yourself.
As mentioned, be of service. There are plenty of people in this world who need someone to help. Find an old couple who need a ride to the store weekly Become a Big Brother Volunteer at ESL classes Become a volunteer cop/firefighter Take a CERT class Go to church, and ask what you can do to help Life is not to be squandered selfishly- go find someone to serve, and you will find happiness. |
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Buy an inexpensive '65 (or any early year) Mustang off craigslist and work on restoring it. It will give you something to do, it will be rewarding, you can sell it at any time (at least in my area), and you will learn a lot. Personally, I would love nothing better than to do this. |
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Go volunteer at the local soup kitchen. You'll feel much better about life after one lunch tour. Oh, I'm under no delusions that my life is hard or anything. By most standards, I'm doing pretty well. It's just this complete and utter lack of motivation or care. Sometimes the only point you have in life is to help others. Try it. Go mow the neighbor's lawn. Buy some big gulps for the local road crew. "Pay it forward" a few times until you feel better about what and who you are. Trust me, it works.
That also sounds like something worth trying. My self-esteem has been pretty rock-bottom. You think helping others will help with that? The secret is to stop worrying about yourself. For me, having kids turned my life around. Suddenly it wasn't all about me and I was never happier. Give of yourself. |
| I am not sure if I know the answer or not but I have the same thing. From what I understand it is called depression. I was taught how to get around that and the guy that taught me (a psycologist) made me realize that there is so much out there to explore. He taught me several methods but the one that really worked for me is my pets. I have a lot of them and they won't survive if I'm gone. So I can't leave. And those guys constantly shower me with love. You have no idea how much it means to me. And I return the favor. I am almost always happy when I go to work these days because I know I can take care of them because of that. |
| Brush it off, I get like that after deployments, all the on the edge stuff is over....now what? no one gets it unless they were there. Fast bikes and faster girls ftw. Find a hobby or 3, or buy a puppy. Stop looking for a purpose to live, the purpose will find you. |
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Quoted: Quoted: That my friend is the million dollar question and I have asked that many times myself. Never have found an answer. You have depression, guessing you are in your 40's?? I'm 27, actually. Been feeling like this for the past couple of years, but it's gotten stronger over the past 6 months. Wow, that's odd. I'm 27 too and feel exactly the same way. Are you my troll account? |
| I'm sorry, but you're just fucking bored. Too may good people who want to and have reasons to live are dying for me to be concerned about your lack of interest. Go help someone out by donating an eye or kidney or lung or something so they can live. Or if you are going to do something stupid make sure you are a organ donor. |
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Don't kill yourself. Dont kill anyone else. No worries on either of those. I want to thank everyone who's given me advice and responded. Just talking about it with someone has helped and the advice I've read seems pretty good and worth at least trying. Thanks again everyone. |
| Spend some time helping to better this planet and help the people on it with all that spare time you have. I felt like you once but one day I just decided to quit my shitty Corp job and go work for a non profit that helps children and remove all the stupid drama from my life. Now I see what my 8 hours a day does , it gave my existence meaning and purpose to help these poor kids who are lucky to eat even once a day . I have about 12,000 kids that depend on me doing my job every week. When I'm not at work I pursue the things that make me happy , like reloading and making music or other nerdy things. A Buddhist monk once said 'only the insane are sane in an insane world' . This world we live in is crazy , but so am I . I truly think there is no higher purpose than that of alleviating others suffering , even if it means you must suffer in the process. Go take a trip to some shitty 3rd world country like India for example and your soul will wake up. find a positive interest and follow it 110%. |
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..Go find something to do. Volunteer at an animal shelter, walking abandoned dogs. They are usually friendly, in fact overly friendly. And you might pick up a cute animal shelter chick (human I mean). Learn a new skill and put it to use. Get your ham radio license, then go to the Red Cross and volunteer with them. If you have no meaning in your life it is because you have put no meaning in your life. Put some in there and you will be rewarded. |
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Every man needs a purpose and a passion. You need to find your purpose and pursue it. Stop feeling depressed or pathetic about life. It isn't going to help you find that thing which makes you happy and defines you and your existence. Man up and fight with everything in your being to find out what will define you and give your life purpose. If you don't this world will eat you alive and you'll be to blame. Now go watch all the Rocky movies and get motivated.   |
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welcome to reality.
This is life. It is not a eutopic never ending party where you stay the popular kid in high school. Its a little thing called responsibility...I know...school and parents sheltered you from that terrible burden. Now get the fuck over your spoiled ass self indulgence, go back to work, pay your taxes and have a nice day!  .
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You're not the only one here who feels that way. Sorry to hear that. Quoted:
Go talk to someone. Anyone. That's kind of why I came here. I'd rather not talk to anyone I actually know, because it's not really something I'd like them to have to worry about. It's not something you'd want a friend to tell you, you know? Would you want your friend to come to you if they had such a question? I would, because they're my friend and I'm theirs. Are your friends...friends? |
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Echo what a lot of people say, you need to find something that interests you and that you look forward to doing. Do something to help others while expecting nothing in return. That's a good one for me. I like to volunteer at our church's weekly meal. A mix of elderly, people down on their luck, and also some people who are just lonely. I actually volunteer to wash dishes most of the time and it cracks the little old ladies up. Thank you, KP experience.
Or volunteer at a hospice, that'll put a new perspective on your life. Good luck and be safe! |
I know where you're coming from. I've been that way for the last couple of years. My life was pretty good until my wife decided she wanted a divorce after 25 years of being married. I really don't have much of a life any more, it's more of an existance than anythihg. I went through some really bad shit back in march and met quite a few people who have had it much worse than I have, i tried to let that help me to over come what I am going through, but to no avial, I get up, go to work, put in my 8 hours, go home, take a few shots of southern Comfort, eat, take a few more shots, take the dog for a walk, take a few more shots, go to bed and do it all over the next day. Life realy sucks sometimes.
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