[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Age differences when dating (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 2/10/2011 6:52:36 PM EDT
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I'm sure it's come up before, but this is suddenly relevant to me, so I thought I'd start up a thread about it.
I met a young woman at a party last month: cute, smart, funny, etc. I befriended her on Facebook, but didn't talk to her much. I saw her again last weekend -she was just as cute, but even funnier (seems to have become more comfortable with our crowd), So <snip> I chat with her online a bit this week, ask her out, and we're going out tomorrow night. Turns out, she's 10 years younger than I am. I feel a little odd about that, but we have a lot of things in common, and I like what I know about her so far. So- for the peanut gallery: is 10 years too much? What's too much? |
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I'm sure it's come up before, but this is suddenly relevant to me, so I thought I'd start up a thread about it. I met a young woman at a party last month: cute, smart, funny, etc. I befriended her on Facebook, but didn't talk to her much. I saw her again last weekend -she was just as cute, but even funnier (seems to have become more comfortable with our crowd), So <snip> I chat with her online a bit this week, ask her out, and we're going out tomorrow night. Turns out, she's 10 years younger than I am. I feel a little odd about that, but we have a lot of things in common, and I like what I know about her so far. So- for the peanut gallery: is 10 years too much? What's too much? In before the poll..... 
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I'm a very,very immature 34.She is a very,very mature 21 but I'd add to that Europeans do tend to be considerably wiser for their age than Americans,mostly due to being trusted with more responsibilities earlier but also there are just so many cultural differences.
It depends on the people entirely.That said,I wouldn't be willing to go any younger and I sure as all hell was not looking to fall hopelessly for a 20 year old eastern European girl at the time we met.Hell,I didn't even talk to her for a week after we first met because I thought it was just a dumb idea. Nobody has ever made me happier and that's really all that counts. |
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Here is the formula for this : The female must at least = [ (1/2 the male's age) + 7 ] Below this and you are open to all the "who's your little friend" stuff. Examples : Male age 18, [ (1/2 x 18) + 7 ] = 16. Male age 26, [ (1/2 x 26) + 7 ] = 20. Male age 40, [ (1/2 x 40) + 7 ] = 27. |
I am 39, the wife is 29. She thought it was great to call me "old man" whenever age came up. One day she pulled that and I told her: " you realise that I get to retire 10 years earlier than you right?" That shut her up!
Age is merely a number, and life is far too short to worry about such small details. If you two are com[patible and comfortable with the difference, then go for it. There isn't many things finer then pie 10 years younger than you.
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I married my wife when she was 21 and I was 34. Very usual and it won't work often. But sometimes it does. The woman has to be mature and not your typical American princess. We will celebrate our first child this summer and our 7th anniversery in Aug. Hey, congrats on the kid! |
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I've spent the better part of the last decade dating early 20-somethings. I had a relationship [more than a one night stand] with a girl 23 years younger than me which was the most. I dated a girl 21 years younger than me for a year and a half.
I'm 46 now. My current GF is 39 and I consider her "my age". However she says I'm an "old man"
That stupid fucking rule of half plus 7 maybe the most ignorant shit I have ever even heard of...... |
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Quoted: Who cares? It's just numbers. Very true, my current fling is 12, but she's honestly got the body of a 9 year old.  Actually, it's not just numbers. We are on an arc, and experience changes us all throughout that arc...where you are and where your partner is matters, especially for long term relationships. It's yet another hurdle we face, and can be one that many people can't get over. If you can? Great, but many people have a hard time making a lasting connection and maintaining it with disparities of age. For a one-night's stand? Meh....but it matters just like all things matter when you're talking compatibility. |
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Here is the formula for this : The female must at least = [ (1/2 the male's age) + 7 ] Below this and you are open to all the "who's your little friend" stuff. My ex wife is 9 years older than I. Her daughter was 13 when my son was born. My step daughter and I would take the baby shopping or out to McDonalds often as the ex and I worked different shifts. We used to have a lot of laughs with that. We would get the best looks and comments...Lots of muttering and raised eyebrows... 
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good rule of thumb is half your age +7 years So if you are 39 and you meet a chick that is 22 and is a SI swimsuit model [think Brooklyn Decker here], and she is dumb enough to like you.......you shouldn't date her because of some bullshit you read on the internet or heard at a mosque? That is a stupid rule. You should date people that you can get along with and have fun with. |