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Posted: 9/17/2010 11:22:41 AM EDT
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If it goes bad or she turns you down it doesn't matter as you won't have to ever see her again. If it goes good then well, it goes good and was worth the shot. In a situation like that (approaching a stranger), what do you have to lose? No friendships, etc. are at risk like in some other scenarios. |
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Here's some good advice on this subject: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6h6uvOY3kFs |
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Went to lunch today at a sandwich shop and sitting in the corner was this amazingly cute younger girl with glasses sitting there doing what appeared to be college homework. She was completely my type. She had a little dog with her too on the floor. I sat down near her and I noticed she kept looking over at me. She was wearing this really low cut top. Then she kept bending down to mess with the dog and her top would hang down and I could see everything!  Geez. She got on the phone and was talking to what seemed to be her parent about how she had car trouble and was waiting for her car to get fixed.
Unfortunately I have no experience with girls and at 24 i've never even approached a girl. I've always been pretty much the loner type. I kept thinking man this was a good chance to talk to her so many topics I could ask about her dog, her homework, her car... but I did nothing, chickened out and left. I just don't have the nerve to approach a stranger I feel like they will think I'm a creep or weirdo for talking to them. What am I supposed to do, say "hey lets hang out sometime" to a complete and total stranger at a sandwich shop? Oh and NO I don't have any pics that would make me really look like a creep. How do you guys build up the nerve to a approach a girl in this situation? I just can't bring myself to do it. I get so nervous. I think you need to change the slogan under your name, because you did nothing with what you had. |
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Ask her if she wants to see your Star Wars collection. Chicks dig that shit. ETA- Serious answer, you just need some confidence. The worst thing that could happen is she says no. She isn't going to try to embarrass you or be mean about it. Girls get hit on all the time, they are used to telling guys no. |
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. She knows your motive. Unless your type has a pronounced forehead, excessively narrow eyes, and can count to potato. |
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Went to lunch today at a sandwich shop and sitting in the corner was this amazingly cute younger girl with glasses sitting there doing what appeared to be college homework. She was completely my type. She had a little dog with her too on the floor. I sat down near her and I noticed she kept looking over at me. She was wearing this really low cut top. Then she kept bending down to mess with the dog and her top would hang down and I could see everything! Geez. She got on the phone and was talking to what seemed to be her parent about how she had car trouble and was waiting for her car to get fixed.
Unfortunately I have no experience with girls and at 24 i've never even approached a girl. I've always been pretty much the loner type. I kept thinking man this was a good chance to talk to her so many topics I could ask about her dog, her homework, her car... but I did nothing, chickened out and left. I just don't have the nerve to approach a stranger I feel like they will think I'm a creep or weirdo for talking to them. What am I supposed to do, say "hey lets hang out sometime" to a complete and total stranger at a sandwich shop? Oh and NO I don't have any pics that would make me really look like a creep. How do you guys build up the nerve to a approach a girl in this situation? I just can't bring myself to do it. I get so nervous. So what if she shoots you down. If you shoot enough even a blind man is going to hit the target sooner or later. Would you rather sit and sulk and be a looser or at least be a looser that gets laid once in a while. You have nothing to lose. |
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. Easy bro, YOU think that SHE thinks that, that there is the problem. Your perception of yourself is too low. Go in with confidence. Think you are the shit and thats how you will be perceived (without being cocky of course) |
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. no she would be thinking this guy wants to sit next to me because he likes me... if she says yes you are good to go, if she says no then she is not interested. |
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. She's a chick. Chicks expect guys to approach them. If she keeps looking at you, she's either interested in talking to you, or she thinks you're creepy. Approaching her will tell you which it is. As to the next things to say, just relax and talk to her like you would talk to anyone else. You've already got two topics, her dog and her broken down car (assuming you didn't go to extraordinary lengths to eavesdrop). Relax and just talk to her. It will pay off, if not with her, then with another one. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Went to lunch today at a sandwich shop and sitting in the corner was this amazingly cute younger girl with glasses sitting there doing what appeared to be college homework. She was completely my type. She had a little dog with her too on the floor. I sat down near her and I noticed she kept looking over at me. She was wearing this really low cut top. Then she kept bending down to mess with the dog and her top would hang down and I could see everything! Geez. She got on the phone and was talking to what seemed to be her parent about how she had car trouble and was waiting for her car to get fixed. Unfortunately I have no experience with girls and at 24 i've never even approached a girl. I've always been pretty much the loner type. I kept thinking man this was a good chance to talk to her so many topics I could ask about her dog, her homework, her car... but I did nothing, chickened out and left. I just don't have the nerve to approach a stranger I feel like they will think I'm a creep or weirdo for talking to them. What am I supposed to do, say "hey lets hang out sometime" to a complete and total stranger at a sandwich shop? Oh and NO I don't have any pics that would make me really look like a creep. How do you guys build up the nerve to a approach a girl in this situation? I just can't bring myself to do it. I get so nervous. I think you need to change the slogan under your name, because you did nothing with what you had. Ouch. Give him a break. Next time you're in that situation OP, go way the fuck out of your comfort zone. It's easy to not do anything. |
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Went to lunch today at a sandwich shop and sitting in the corner was this amazingly cute younger girl with glasses sitting there doing what appeared to be college homework. She was completely my type. She had a little dog with her too on the floor. I sat down near her and I noticed she kept looking over at me. She was wearing this really low cut top. Then she kept bending down to mess with the dog and her top would hang down and I could see everything! Geez. She got on the phone and was talking to what seemed to be her parent about how she had car trouble and was waiting for her car to get fixed.
Unfortunately I have no experience with girls and at 24 i've never even approached a girl. I've always been pretty much the loner type. I kept thinking man this was a good chance to talk to her so many topics I could ask about her dog, her homework, her car... but I did nothing, chickened out and left. I just don't have the nerve to approach a stranger I feel like they will think I'm a creep or weirdo for talking to them. What am I supposed to do, say "hey lets hang out sometime" to a complete and total stranger at a sandwich shop? Oh and NO I don't have any pics that would make me really look like a creep. How do you guys build up the nerve to a approach a girl in this situation? I just can't bring myself to do it. I get so nervous. Paxil... |
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Well, peering down her top for a cheap look isnt the best way to break the ice. All the confidence isnt going to help you if you get caught in that situation.
Im not sure what to tell you just.....go, do it. Youd be surprised what a simple "hello" "how are you today" can do for breaking the ice. Or an introduction. Then again, you could go nuclear and tell her "excuse me, but I couldnt help but notice your tits from across the room. Id die a happy man if I could motorboat them sum bitches!" your choice 
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. Dude, unless shes butt ugly she knows exactly why your comming to talk to her. You have a penis (right?) and she has a vagina (hopefully). If she acts like a total bitch and blows you off its not because she does not understand what your doing...shes a bitch. |
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Offer the dog some chocolate!!
When I didn't care about crashing and burning I'd try the line "Hi, I'd like to get to know you in the biblical sense of the word".
I was surprised how many women had no clue what that meant and a few that actually had a sense of humor when I explained. |
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The dog was an easy in. You need to work on your self-confidence. This! Go back to the shop, ask if she's a regular, and if so, heres what you need to do: - Proceed to local shelter ASPCA, adopt a Pitbull - Head to said sandwich shop around the time you met her there today. - Wait for Pitbull to attack the little dog, and use this as your in? 
Offer to pay for medical bills, or maybe you could try offering her a sensual massage to help with the stress caused by the incidient?? Disclaimer: of cocurse I'm kidding about the Pitbull attacking the small dog, as it's more likely the small dog would attack the Pitbull. 
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Quoted: Went to lunch today at a sandwich shop and sitting in the corner was this amazingly cute younger girl with glasses sitting there doing what appeared to be college homework. She was completely my type. She had a little dog with her too on the floor. I sat down near her and I noticed she kept looking over at me. She was wearing this really low cut top. Then she kept bending down to mess with the dog and her top would hang down and I could see everything! Geez. She got on the phone and was talking to what seemed to be her parent about how she had car trouble and was waiting for her car to get fixed. Unfortunately I have no experience with girls and at 24 i've never even approached a girl. I've always been pretty much the loner type. I kept thinking man this was a good chance to talk to her so many topics I could ask about her dog, her homework, her car... but I did nothing, chickened out and left. I just don't have the nerve to approach a stranger I feel like they will think I'm a creep or weirdo for talking to them. What am I supposed to do, say "hey lets hang out sometime" to a complete and total stranger at a sandwich shop? Oh and NO I don't have any pics that would make me really look like a creep. How do you guys build up the nerve to a approach a girl in this situation? I just can't bring myself to do it. I get so nervous. "Hi. I was going to grab a [coffee/drink/smoke/whatever], would you like to join me?" IF "Yes" THEN "Hi, my name is Kevin. Whats yours?" ELSE <Ritual Seppuku>
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Be two-beers confident. I don't drink Jesus, this is going downhill in a hurry
Seriously, she's just another person, talk to her, ask her about the dog, or ask if she needs help with her car or whatever. Whats the worst that could happen?? She might say FOAD, but who cares, you'd probably never see her again. Then again, I'd probably be all nervous too, but really though learn to calm down... |
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"Hey, my name's Kevin993. Mind if I sit down?" You're on your own from there. She would be thinking, why is this guy talking to me and what is his motive for wanting to sit here, I don't know him. Unless she is a complete moron she knows why you are talking to her and want to sit down. If you're not sure she's going to know why you want to talk to her just start off your conversation by asking her, "Are you some kind of a moron?". |
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Quoted: Well, peering down her top for a cheap look isnt the best way to break the ice. All the confidence isnt going to help you if you get caught in that situation. I wasn't "creeping a look" it was very obvious trust me. It was there what was I supposed to do. |
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The dog was your in, in this situation.
"What a cute dog you have there. Mind if I pet it" Make nice with the dog and start a conversation. Here is what I've learned in my almost 15 years of trying to score pie: You have to play the odds. If you talk to zero girls you will score zero pie. The more women you talk to the greater your chance you find one that doesn't think you're an idiot. Sure you will get shot down some of the time but who cares. It happens to everyone, get over it and find someone else to start a conversation with. Having a girl turn you down isn't the end of the world. Just go for it. |
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A chloroform soaked rag and duct tape have usually worked for me.
Seriously, just go over and start up a conversation. If she's reading a textbook, and you know anything about the subject matter, make a comment about how you remember taking that class because your professor made it so difficult to understand. Or, compliment her on her dog. Something as simple as "That's a cute puppy. What's his name?" That breaks the ice and requires her to say something. When she says the name of the dog, make a comment on how the name fits the dog, or some other bullshit. Hell, tell her how the dog reminds you of a puppy your grandma had when you were younger or something. Of course, if your grandma never owned a puppy and the conversation leads to a relationship where she gets to know your grandma, i'm not responsible for her finding out that you lied to her. |
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Look her in the eye, smile, ask her if you can join her.
If she says yes, sit down, ask her name, make small talk. If she likes you it won't matter what you are talking about, she knows why you sat down in the first place. If she says no, smile and leave gracefully. Believe it or not, women want you to approach them. Do it at least once per day, every day. You'll be surprised at how willing most girls are to talk to you, a stranger, in a non-threatening environment. Profit. |