Posted: 9/9/2010 8:10:38 PM EDT
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Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality?
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| Goes both ways. Facebook and text and whatnot have definitely depersonalized the actual social life, your "friend list" is often nothing more than a collection. At the same time, that same technology has enabled me to stay in touch with people and preserve valuable friendships that might not have been possible a few decades ago. |
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Quoted: Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? My take on it is that basic human instinct is an unchanging thing. Advanced social behavior can change at any point but it is largely dependent on culture. Relationships outside of the nuclear family are all a matter of degree which become progressively weaker depending on the quality & quantity of intra-personal exposure. This exposure is dependent on a myriad of factors (job, choice of free time and the constant variable of emotion) which produce a metered result. There is no one unifying answer to this that I can find. The further you look into it, the more of a tar baby it becomes. Just my take on it. |
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Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? what in the blue fuck are you talking about? |
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Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? what in the blue fuck are you talking about? ................Yup. I'm lost also........... |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? what in the blue fuck are you talking about? ................Yup. I'm lost also........... He's saying are you more likely to ditch your wife/girlfriend because you have access to thousands of others through internet, ease of travel, etc? Contrast this with the olden days when you had to ride a horse for 3 days to find a chick you weren't related to. You'd work harder to maintain the relationship out of necessity, because it was DAMN hard to meet another chick. Nowadays, kids have a couple dozen on their phone contact, and can be texting other options within 30 seconds of breakup. |
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Mr. Clean4Hire's rant is a ball of snot I don't want to get further involved in. However, I would like to see some experiences or thoughts on the trend of disposable relationships in America. Technology has allowed great advances in communication, bringing people together without limits. Does this seemingly larger pool of individuals have a negative effect on the relationships (romantic or otherwise) in our lives? Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? what in the blue fuck are you talking about? ................Yup. I'm lost also........... He's saying are you more likely to ditch your wife/girlfriend because you have access to thousands of others through internet, ease of travel, etc? Contrast this with the olden days when you had to ride a horse for 3 days to find a chick you weren't related to. what does that have to do with MC4H's thread? |
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Does the phrase "There's a lot of fish in the sea" essentially encouraging the disposable mentality? Yes. I have a theory that goes something like this: "Carpe Diem" is the worst philosophy to ever hit the modern world. "Seize the day", it says, and its taken to mean that you should "live life to the fullest". That's the philosophy that drives the current young generations. Are you seizing the day? Are you making the most of your life? The reason this is bad is well summed up by another famous quote: "the perfect is the enemy of the good". You have something good but you throw it away because you're trying to have something perfect. It could be your job, your car, your girlfriend, the scoop of icecream in front of you or whatever. You SHOULD ask, "Is this good?" If it's good, then enjoy it. Instead, people are asking, "Is this perfect? Is this exactly what I want? Am I seizing the day to its fullest extent or could I perhaps seize it a little better if I changed something here?" So, out goes the girlfriend. Out goes the job. They liked the strawberry ice cream but were plagued with unhappy thoughts on how the rocky road might have been better. The effort to find something PERFECT lead them to throw out a lot of good. And most people never find "perfect" anything. They just keep going through jobs and relationships and so forth because it's never perfect, and they think they need perfect. "There's a lot of fish in the sea" just means they keep throwing their current fish back, hoping for an even better fish. It's an endless pursuit of foolish, probably unrealistic goals. My counter-philosophy is that people should only ask "am I happy" or "is this good". If not, then by all means change things. But don't ask if it's perfect, especially when it comes to relationships. |
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Goes both ways. Facebook and text and whatnot have definitely depersonalized the actual social life, your "friend list" is often nothing more than a collection. At the same time, that same technology has enabled me to stay in touch with people and preserve valuable friendships that might not have been possible a few decades ago. Take ARFcom for example. How many people surf this site non-stop during their off time? |
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Relationships are going to be under constant assault from all the shit we have decided we need in our lives like TV, movies, Facebook, Porn, Junk, debt, selfishness, narcissistic behavior, and people just being assholes to each other.
Back in the day, people believed that you had to "stick with it" for all sorts of reseasons, religion, society, kids, whatever... People have just figured out, the if you aren't happy you can do something about it. The problem is that "not be happy" is a very subjective state of mind, and when whole generations of people are basically perpetual adult adolescents this is a recipe for disaster. Our society isn't going to get right until, they have to "go without". Where all the superficial shit is wiped away, and you have to rely on the person next to you for trust, love and companionship, through thick and thin, That just happened yet for us. |