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Posted: 8/19/2010 1:40:59 PM EDT

How many "second chances" do you give a girlfriend? Never cheated, just stupid arguments. Frequently asks if I think we will work out. Almost every little argument ends with "do you think we should just break up?" Then the next day acts like its no big deal. We will be fine for a day, then have a dumb argument about why I didn't call when I was out with my friends, then tells me to just forget about her and enjoy my life. Then the next day asks if I'm coming over or not... I really like her, but I just don't know if I should keep trying to work through it.

What say you arfcom?

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:42:10 PM EDT

[#1]

I don't feel there is a set rule. It all depends on how comfortable you are with it.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:43:49 PM EDT

[#2]

Life is short. Don't spend it with someone you are not happy with. If it is not ment to be then don't try to force it.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:44:05 PM EDT

[#3]

Sounds like some kinda dual personality BS.

Life is too short mess around with people who treat you like a yo-yo. Move on if you have any respect for yourself.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:44:55 PM EDT

[#4]

she has doubts and wants you to pull the trigger so she can bitch about it.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:45:12 PM EDT

[#5]

I went through the same thing with my girlfriend. We were both stubborn and opinionated.
Been married 10 years now after dating off and on for 5.
You never know, it really depends not so much on how much you fight but how you are when your together.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:45:32 PM EDT

[#6]

The "Do you think we should just break up?" comments can tell you something about her personality.

She is unwilling to compromise. She wants it her way, all the time, "or else" ("else" being a break-up).

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:47:35 PM EDT

[#7]

All women under 25 have trouble putting emotions into words,

Just relax and hang on or tell her to gtfo.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:48:44 PM EDT

[#8]

Quoted:
How many "second chances" do you give a girlfriend? Never cheated, just stupid arguments. Frequently asks if I think we will work out. Almost every little argument ends with "do you think we should just break up?" Then the next day acts like its no big deal. We will be fine for a day, then have a dumb argument about why I didn't call when I was out with my friends, then tells me to just forget about her and enjoy my life. Then the next day asks if I'm coming over or not... I really like her, but I just don't know if I should keep trying to work through it.

What say you arfcom?

It sounds to me like she is trying to create drama where none need be created. Do you see this relationship as a long term –– might lead to marriage?

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:51:07 PM EDT

[#9]

Quoted:
Sounds like some kinda dual personality BS.

Life is too short mess around with people who treat you like a yo-yo. Move on if you have any respect for yourself.

+1
She may have a case of the Crazy.
Pics? You know the rules!

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:54:34 PM EDT

[#10]

Quoted:
All women under 25 have trouble putting emotions into words,

Just relax and hang on or tell her to gtfo.

mines 29 when will she come around ?

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:55:23 PM EDT

[#11]

Quoted:

Quoted:
All women under 25 have trouble putting emotions into words,

Just relax and hang on or tell her to gtfo.

mines 29 when will she come around ?

Yeah, but your maturity level brings the average to 16 at your house

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:55:32 PM EDT

[#12]

"Honey, I don't do crazy. Good luck in life."

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:55:52 PM EDT

[#13]

Sounds like the question is how many 2nd chances is she going to give you and how many times are you going to take them.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:56:41 PM EDT

[#14]

Need pics of g/f to better ascertain the situation.

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:57:16 PM EDT

[#15]

Quoted:

Quoted:
All women under 25 have trouble putting emotions into words,

Just relax and hang on or tell her to gtfo.

mines 29 when will she come around ?

Yeah, but your maturity level brings the average to 16 at your house

Posted: 8/19/2010 1:59:25 PM EDT

[#16]

Quoted:
How many "second chances" do you give a girlfriend? Never cheated, just stupid arguments. Frequently asks if I think we will work out. Almost every little argument ends with "do you think we should just break up?" Then the next day acts like its no big deal. We will be fine for a day, then have a dumb argument about why I didn't call when I was out with my friends, then tells me to just forget about her and enjoy my life. Then the next day asks if I'm coming over or not... I really like her, but I just don't know if I should keep trying to work through it.

What say you arfcom?

If you are interested in a long-term relationship, it sounds like there are a lot of underlying issues that need to be brought out: control, feelings of self-worth, and knowing how to disagree without being disagreeable.

Perhaps couples' counseling is in order there. YMMV.

Posted: 8/19/2010 2:03:31 PM EDT

[#17]

Quoted:

Quoted:

All women under 25 have trouble putting emotions into words,

Just relax and hang on or tell her to gtfo.

mines 29 when will she come around ?

Yeah, but your maturity level brings the average to 16 at your house

Posted: 8/19/2010 2:05:20 PM EDT

[#18]

Realize that if you marry her, these episodes usually become more frequent.

Every couple argues. You set your own limits.

Posted: 8/19/2010 2:59:12 PM EDT

[#19]

The older you get, the less tolerance you have for this stuff.

At 57, I will put one to the curb for THINKING about starting some stupid shit!

Posted: 8/19/2010 3:14:57 PM EDT

[#20]

Quoted:
Need pics of g/f to better ascertain the situation.

what he said

Posted: 8/19/2010 3:19:25 PM EDT

[#21]

Quoted:
Sounds like some kinda dual personality BS.

Life is too short mess around with people who treat you like a yo-yo. Move on if you have any respect for yourself.

This.

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