Posted: 5/12/2015 8:50:08 PM EDT
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conversation with the wife, paraphrased
why do you need supplements and need to go to the gym, you can just walk or run and get the same effect. you buy into the hype of the labels. 
after begging to get our diets into check, i now face my migraines that i have not had in a year and my quality of life is dropping. do i just fuck it, tell her to buy the foods she will eat and i will go back on my diet. i refuse to stay curled up in bed wanting to get sick from headaches and wasting away. I don't thin women get but tell me I am not the only one whose wife nags about this please |
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conversation with the wife, paraphrased why do you need supplements and need to go to the gym, you can just walk or run and get the same effect. you buy into the hype of the labels.
after begging to get our diets into check, i now face my migraines that i have not had in a year and my quality of life is dropping. do i just fuck it, tell her to buy the foods she will eat and i will go back on my diet. i refuse to stay curled up in bed wanting to get sick from headaches and wasting away. I don't thin women get but tell me I am not the only one whose wife nags about this please My wife has learned to except that I am going to workout. And most supplements are BS. |
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"But why won't you just spend time with me?" I get that one a lot. Then remind her that I wait until 9pm to go to the gym to make sure the baby is asleep, all the chores are done, and that we have had at least a little time together one on one.
All you can do is take care of yourself man. Good luck. |
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#1 rule.... You have to take care of yourself FIRST because nobody else will.
That said, you need to work together for solutions to make sure you are taking care of yourself. If you need a strict diet, that she doesn't like, no problem. You fix/eat different meals. If she doesn't like it, tell her tough shit. You can fix your own meals if needed, and honestly, that's probably for the best. -ZA |
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Without knowing the specifics of your relationship or history, the fact that you're getting healthy and she doesn't like it, sets off major alarm bells.
If money is tight and she's just upset that you're buying supplements, that's a different discussion. The simple answer based on your OP, is that you have found someone that has no issue pulling you into their morass of suck and wants you to stay firmly mired there with them. |
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Without knowing the specifics of your relationship or history, the fact that you're getting healthy and she doesn't like it, sets off major alarm bells. If money is tight and she's just upset that you're buying supplements, that's a different discussion. The simple answer based on your OP, is that you have found someone that has no issue pulling you into their morass of suck and wants you to stay firmly mired there with them. This. It's learned behavior. Take my coworker, 5'10" 300lbs+. His biological mother and father, both slender. His step dad who he spent the most time with however, 300lbs+. Stepdads father, also large all his life. Now my coworkers wife is also obese, but her sister and mom, both very slim. His wife imitates his habits, which he learned from his stepdad, which was taught to him by his father. So it's grandpa's fault. 
Hopefully she will imitate you and both of you can become better together. |
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Your wife sounds like my Ex. I got into weight lifting and eating clean and she nagged me incessantly. She told me I was obsessed, blah, blah.
I remember a very strange look from her when I told her I had gotten down to my high school weight. I realized later that look meant I weighed less than her and she was 6 inches shorter than me. The final straw was when I accidentally put her pants on one morning. Somehow her pants ended up in my closet, I don't know how, it wasn't intentional and they fit. She went off. It wasn't intentional but you know you might be getting big when your husband accidentally puts your pants on. She just wants to lay on the sofa and eat a bag of potato chips with a 2 liter of coke and a pint of ben&jerry's chunky munky chaser with american idol on the TV. You won't change her. Just lift, eat healthy and be happy as you can. |
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Your wife sounds like my Ex. I got into weight lifting and eating clean and she nagged me incessantly. She told me I was obsessed, blah, blah. I remember a very strange look from her when I told her I had gotten down to my high school weight. I realized later that look meant I weighed less than her and she was 6 inches shorter than me. The final straw was when I accidentally put her pants on one morning. Somehow her pants ended up in my closet, I don't know how, it wasn't intentional and they fit. She went off. It wasn't intentional but you know you might be getting big when your husband accidentally puts your pants on. She just wants to lay on the sofa and eat a bag of potato chips with a 2 liter of coke and a pint of ben&jerry's chunky munky chaser with american idol on the TV. You won't change her. Just lift, eat healthy and be happy as you can. she even told me she wants to lose the weight but lacks the motivation to do. her health issues should be a wake up call to get healthy and my own is a wake up call too. my goal is to get to 15 body fat as i am at 20 right now |
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she even told me she wants to lose the weight but lacks the motivation to do. her health issues should be a wake up call to get healthy and my own is a wake up call too. my goal is to get to 15 body fat as i am at 20 right now Quoted:
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Your wife sounds like my Ex. I got into weight lifting and eating clean and she nagged me incessantly. She told me I was obsessed, blah, blah. I remember a very strange look from her when I told her I had gotten down to my high school weight. I realized later that look meant I weighed less than her and she was 6 inches shorter than me. The final straw was when I accidentally put her pants on one morning. Somehow her pants ended up in my closet, I don't know how, it wasn't intentional and they fit. She went off. It wasn't intentional but you know you might be getting big when your husband accidentally puts your pants on. She just wants to lay on the sofa and eat a bag of potato chips with a 2 liter of coke and a pint of ben&jerry's chunky munky chaser with american idol on the TV. You won't change her. Just lift, eat healthy and be happy as you can. she even told me she wants to lose the weight but lacks the motivation to do. her health issues should be a wake up call to get healthy and my own is a wake up call too. my goal is to get to 15 body fat as i am at 20 right now I got my wife with a simple approach of why don't we just cut down (and eventually out) the processed carbs like pasta and pop tarts and sugars and see how we feel. The results will speak for themselves if you put any effort into it whatsoever. Once the weight started falling off she was sold and now she lifts with me and races me to the protein shaker when we're done. Also, avoid the super high dollar proteins and find something budget friendly if you wanna keep your supplements low on the radar. |
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conversation with the wife, paraphrased why do you need supplements and need to go to the gym, you can just walk or run and get the same effect. you buy into the hype of the labels.
The one thing I have found since in the two years that I've been serious about fitness and nutrition, is that people will be critical of you for many reasons. Sounds like your wife just may want you spend more time with her... Supplements...I used to think they were a waste..but the past 6 weeks I've been taking a pre-workout (C4), and use post workout protein mixes. I am pretty sure I notice a difference...Workouts are more focused and I feel more energized. |
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she even told me she wants to lose the weight but lacks the motivation to do. her health issues should be a wake up call to get healthy and my own is a wake up call too. my goal is to get to 15 body fat as i am at 20 right now Quoted:
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Your wife sounds like my Ex. I got into weight lifting and eating clean and she nagged me incessantly. She told me I was obsessed, blah, blah. I remember a very strange look from her when I told her I had gotten down to my high school weight. I realized later that look meant I weighed less than her and she was 6 inches shorter than me. The final straw was when I accidentally put her pants on one morning. Somehow her pants ended up in my closet, I don't know how, it wasn't intentional and they fit. She went off. It wasn't intentional but you know you might be getting big when your husband accidentally puts your pants on. She just wants to lay on the sofa and eat a bag of potato chips with a 2 liter of coke and a pint of ben&jerry's chunky munky chaser with american idol on the TV. You won't change her. Just lift, eat healthy and be happy as you can. she even told me she wants to lose the weight but lacks the motivation to do. her health issues should be a wake up call to get healthy and my own is a wake up call too. my goal is to get to 15 body fat as i am at 20 right now My recommendation - keep going to the gym, but if she wants to walk or run, make the time to do it with her, even if it screws with your lifting schedule. Squeeze the lifting in where you can. |
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i actually just take protein powder and a pre workout, either gnc puredge for pre or dymatize pursuit rx line. i also will take isonatural when it's cheap as i don't do well with too much of chemical based protein What do you mean by "chemical based protein"? Whey protein is from cows milk. It's similar to, but different than cheese. The good stuff like Optimum Nutrition Gold Standard or Myprotein is pretty pure. -- This sounds similar to my current situation. Wife is unwilling to make changes or even admit that she is in bad shape. |
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I run into people all the time who critique lifting and fitness. Never mind they couldn't fight their way out of a bag.
There will always be people who try to pull you down to their level. Finding those who want to pull you up to theirs is a lifelong process. Looking for those willing to be pulled up is all of our responsibility. Just got to find a way to get your wife to start climbing. |
| mine comes to the gym with me now. She actually buys too much into supplement BS as she is very new to the game and hasn't sorted out what is BS. My friend's gf is like your wife, she'd rather sit at home and eat than go to the gym. So no, you're not the only one. |