Posted: 6/6/2010 5:36:34 PM EDT
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Have any of you ladies been hit with this? Guys- any of your wives dealt with it? What did you/they do to overcome it?
I'm hitting a real low right now and trying to work my way out of it. I'm going to call the doc first thing Monday morning because it's just getting worse. I don't want to do anything or talk to anyone. My best friend annoys me and all I do is cry like someone just ran over my dog. I'll be ok one minute and the next, just weeping like crazy. My husband keeps telling me I need to quit zoning out, but I don't even realize I'm doing it. With my first daughter, it came and went relatively quick...but this time, it's hitting pretty hard. I thought I might have been able to just deal with it, but I think I need to talk to someone about it. I am curious to know about other alternatives that you all might have used to help. I feel like a failure for having to go to the doctor to admit that this thing is taking control, but I know it's not really something I can totally control. It's mostly hormonal. The weirdest thing about it is that my daughter is a little over two months old now. I was feeling fine up until a couple weeks ago. |
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TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR!!! this. and as far as feeling like a failure - you are NOT. your body is going through a TREMENDOUS ordeal right now, and recognizing that you need some help is a HUGELY great thing. trying to deal with it on your own when you KNOW it's too big is when "failure" happens. the second baby is usually very different from the first, and so are the changes your body goes through. think about it - during your first pregnancy, you didn't have another wee one to chase around, so you probably were able to rest a little better, but this one, you're a little more drained... and yeah, sometimes the hormones take a few weeks (like 8-9) to build up to the "unreasonable" level. is hubby home tonight with you? having helpful hands that understand you don't feel like Chatty Cathy really make a difference. for tonight, if you need to be a puddle in the corner, go be a puddle. it's ok, I promise. but make sure the babies are taken care of, and then 1st thing tomorrow, get on the phone and don't take no for an answer. IM inbound. |
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Thanks. I'm calling the doc first thing in the morning and scheduling and appt. I know this isn't something I can control, and it's killing me. I really hate feeling like garbage. I've had to take anti depressants in the past so it was a given that I would be more inclined to be affected by PPT. I told my husband I'm going, he still doesn't completely understand but is ok with it. I sent him some links with info on PPT.
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Get on some medicine... pay no attention to the Tom-Cruises of the world, who say that psychiatry and psychotropic drugs are a fraud. Scientologists aren't who I'd consult for mental health issues.
It also gets worse with subsequent pregnancies... just like Andrea Yates PPD (the woman who drowned her five children). But it's treatable. Get on some medicine. |
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It is REAL. Get help from your support group w/ the baby so you can have a break. You need to baby yourself a little so you can baby a baby. Also, get to the doctor. For me, I suffered greatly after my first child. In my case, it was probably the thyroid. They say up to 10 percent of women struggle with thyroid problems postpartum.
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daydreamer pointed out that it can also be medical and well as emotional
That is overlooked sometimes. You find dr's who look for one or the other and not both. If you don't get results with the first doc or med you try: it isn't "just you". Not every doc is the right one to handle every situation and it frequently takes multiple tries to get one that is the best fit for you. Don't be worried if one doesn't work or has side effects that are too simply too much for you. This is about you being the person you are and want to continue to be..... |
Hope eveything's well with you and the doc visit went well. 
You are NOT a failure for needing to see a doc. You have to take care of yourself to be a good Mom. My entire pregnancy and recovery was a hormonal nightmare. Research hormones and you'll see why it has such an affect on us. Pregnancy throws everything into a state of flux and afterwards it's no less chaotic. I can tell you that talking to a therapist is a good idea and is likely to speed up your recovery time, even if your doc recommends pharmaceuticals. Good luck. This too shall likely pass. 
Another random thought, has your thyroid been checked recently? Even borderline results may warrant attention. my .02 |
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I am divorced now because of my wife's postpartum depression. She's a brilliant woman - Master's in Psychology, speaks five languages, teacher . . . but after the birth of my first son she had issues that went unaddressed. She REFUSED to get help. It only got worse. Please, please get help.  -p. |
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Hi everyone. I saw the doctor today, and she gave me a prescription for Wellbutrin. Along with some meds for my migraines. I'm hopeful. She said it could take a few weeks for the meds to really kick in. So we'll see how it goes. I really appreciate all the words of kindness!
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist.
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist. Ummm... I'm quite sure the physician would have asked about breast-feeding when treating POSTPARTUM depression. 
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist. Ummm... I'm quite sure the physician would have asked about breast-feeding when treating POSTPARTUM depression. Not necessarily. I had to remind my doctor on two occasions. I need two hands to count the number of times a doctor has failed in this area regarding a loved one (my grandmother and mother) almost killing my mother. On two occasions, the pharmacist caught the error. I was being nice by assigning this kind of mistake to being busy... |
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist. Ummm... I'm quite sure the physician would have asked about breast-feeding when treating POSTPARTUM depression. Not necessarily. I had to remind my doctor on two occasions. I need two hands to count the number of times a doctor has failed in this area regarding a loved one (my grandmother and mother) almost killing my mother. On two occasions, the pharmacist caught the error. I was being nice by assigning this kind of mistake to being busy... You were being nice? What other motive were you going to intimate... greed? Malice? The OP's physician may be perfectly competent. Let's see how the actual visit went, shall we? |
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist. Ummm... I'm quite sure the physician would have asked about breast-feeding when treating POSTPARTUM depression. Not necessarily. I had to remind my doctor on two occasions. I need two hands to count the number of times a doctor has failed in this area regarding a loved one (my grandmother and mother) almost killing my mother. On two occasions, the pharmacist caught the error. I was being nice by assigning this kind of mistake to being busy... You were being nice? What other motive were you going to intimate... greed? Malice? The OP's physician may be perfectly competent. Let's see how the actual visit went, shall we? I think it is likely that the OP's physician is doing a FINE job. It doesn't hurt to follow up and inquire of your doctor. |
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If you are breastfeeding, drugs can pass through the milk. Since doctors are so busy and are especially prone to prescription errors, I'd look on-line to verify that the two medications he prescribed are compatible. You can also verify this with the pharmacist. Ummm... I'm quite sure the physician would have asked about breast-feeding when treating POSTPARTUM depression. Not necessarily. I had to remind my doctor on two occasions. I need two hands to count the number of times a doctor has failed in this area regarding a loved one (my grandmother and mother) almost killing my mother. On two occasions, the pharmacist caught the error. I was being nice by assigning this kind of mistake to being busy... You were being nice? What other motive were you going to intimate... greed? Malice? The OP's physician may be perfectly competent. Let's see how the actual visit went, shall we? I think it is likely that the OP's physician is doing a FINE job. It doesn't hurt to follow up and inquire of your doctor. This is true. |
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Hi everyone...I am going to get a second opinion on the meds from a different doc. After doing some research and talking ot some people, it turns out Wellbutrin isn't all that great for breastfeeding. My husband doesn't want me taking them while I nurse.
In the meantime, I've been trying to be more active during the day and stretching more, so far it's helped. I've also had a few meltdowns, directed at my husband (helped tremendously!) and I think just crying and getting it all out took some of the pressure off too. I will update you once I see the other doc. |
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Quoted: Hi everyone...I am going to get a second opinion on the meds from a different doc. After doing some research and talking ot some people, it turns out Wellbutrin isn't all that great for breastfeeding. My husband doesn't want me taking them while I nurse. In the meantime, I've been trying to be more active during the day and stretching more, so far it's helped. I've also had a few meltdowns, directed at my husband (helped tremendously!) and I think just crying and getting it all out took some of the pressure off too. I will update you once I see the other doc. The one thing I've learned from being a single mom, DO NOT HOLD BACK YOUR TEARS. Now I am not saying just give into a hissy fit. Go to a safe secluded area and let yourself cry. Cry it out, then get up, remind yourself about everything you love and work hard for, and go hug your babies (kids/hubby) My place is the shower. When I just cannot take it anymore, I let my boys play with Nanna and PaPa and fold myself into a ball and cry it out. I feel so much better after and I can see/think clearly again. I think I'm averaging about 4 times a year. My boys are better when I'm better. I didn't have PPD, but I get dragged down by the pressures of doing it alone. I also started a regular workout routine which has helped tremendously. At the beginning it was all about getting in shape for my birthday cruise in a few months. Now, it's about ME. I don't say "I can't" I say "I'm worth it" You're doing a great job. Continue what you're doing and accept help when you know you need it. (this is the hardest for me) We're here for you. |
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Hi everyone...I am going to get a second opinion on the meds from a different doc. After doing some research and talking ot some people, it turns out Wellbutrin isn't all that great for breastfeeding. My husband doesn't want me taking them while I nurse. In the meantime, I've been trying to be more active during the day and stretching more, so far it's helped. I've also had a few meltdowns, directed at my husband (helped tremendously!) and I think just crying and getting it all out took some of the pressure off too. I will update you once I see the other doc. The one thing I've learned from being a single mom, DO NOT HOLD BACK YOUR TEARS. Now I am not saying just give into a hissy fit. Go to a safe secluded area and let yourself cry. Cry it out, then get up, remind yourself about everything you love and work hard for, and go hug your babies (kids/hubby) My place is the shower. When I just cannot take it anymore, I let my boys play with Nanna and PaPa and fold myself into a ball and cry it out. I feel so much better after and I can see/think clearly again. I think I'm averaging about 4 times a year. My boys are better when I'm better. I didn't have PPD, but I get dragged down by the pressures of doing it alone. I also started a regular workout routine which has helped tremendously. At the beginning it was all about getting in shape for my birthday cruise in a few months. Now, it's about ME. I don't say "I can't" I say "I'm worth it" You're doing a great job. Continue what you're doing and accept help when you know you need it. (this is the hardest for me) We're here for you. she just said everything I was going to say. 
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