Posted: 8/28/2019 5:41:30 AM EDT
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I am... was, his live in caregiver.He shot himself in the head with a snubnose .38. I was in the garage. Heard what I thought was him falling in the kitchen or living room. He was in his bedroom. Had to take the kids next door until the funeral home took him.
Burnt powder smelled like an electrical fire, so I called fire and ems. I thought he fell and hit his head, until 911 told me to lay him on his back, and I found the gun. Blood from a gunshot to the head sounds like a faucet running. |
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My parents were divorced, and my dad was who knows where. when I was 3, my mom was in a bad wreck. CPS showed up to my aunt's wedding with me. He took me in and raised me as his own son. That was in 1978. |
| I worked a suicide where the old man put a note on his front door to call the police and not let his kids inside the home. Found him in the bathroom leaned over into the tub with the shower curtain drawn around him. Another note apologized to the people that would have to deal with his body and the mess. Definitely the most courteous suicide I worked. |
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My parents were divorced, and my dad was who knows where. when I was 3, my mom was in a bad wreck. CPS showed up to my aunt's wedding with me. He took me in and raised me as his own son. That was in 1978. I knew of a similar situation. In that case, the old fellow was terminally ill and going down fast. He was getting in such a bad way that he lacked the stamina to leave the house. Best guess was he knew there were no better days coming and wanted to spare those around him the rest of his eventual ending. Sorry it happened in your home, but that might have been his only option. From your short description of this man, it is obvious that he loved you. |
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Mac,
I lost my Older Daughter the same way in March. If you need to talk IM and I'll get you my phone number. This is always tragic, no matter how it happens. Just know that it is not your fault. One thing I was taught in nursing school that has helped me a lot is that once someone has made the decision to end their life, the only question is when and how. We keep weapons for use to protect our families and ourselves, I have had to remind myself of that every day since March 17. I know we are all men here, but I would suggest some counseling for your Kids, and maybe you and your Wife, we do not want anyone to be affected by this any more than they already are. Again I hate to hear of your tragedy and hope the best for you and yours. |
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Sorry to hear that, Maccrage. I don't know you personally, but from what you've posted, it's been a rather rough couple of years for you. I know that feeling all too well, and am also in the PDX area if you need a hand with anything, or just need to hit the range sometime.
Seriously, if you want to hit the range, or just have someone to commiserate with regarding life's trials and tribulations, just hit me up. Meanwhile, please let me know if there's anything I can do to help, no matter how small. I mean it. |
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One of my friend and member of my shooting club was an armorer for the army.
He was a great shooter and a gun collector as well. Used to spend weeks in the the American west ever Summer. Anyway, when he learned he was suffering from a neurological degenerative disease that couldn’t be cured, he went at work, left a letter explaining it, put himself into a sleeping bag and shot himself. Think about it. He thought about not making a mess for the people who would find him. That really left an impression with me at the time Most people are too desperate to think about anything else but them when they end themselves |
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Edited: DV8 A friend of mine killed himself. For a long time I thought it was a selfish act. Then one day I asked myself how bad would it have to be for me to intentionally kill myself and leave the ones I love, that love me and depend on me. That's when I realized that person isn't in his normal state of mind. If suicide is the only answer he can find then he is in a very dark place. This man selflessly took the OP in at a young age and raised him and nurtured him. He must have done a pretty good job for the OP to be willing to selflessly care for him in his old age. OP, I'm sorry for your loss. |
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I am... was, his live in caregiver.He shot himself in the head with a snubnose .38. I was in the garage. Heard what I thought was him falling in the kitchen or living room. He was in his bedroom. Had to take the kids next door until the funeral home took him. Burnt powder smelled like an electrical fire, so I called fire and ems. I thought he fell and hit his head, until 911 told me to lay him on his back, and I found the gun. Blood from a gunshot to the head sounds like a faucet running.  |
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Sorry you have to deal with the outcome of his choices. Dont try to clean it up yourself, get professionals, see if home owners insurance will cover it? Kharn |