[ARCHIVED THREAD] - How Parents Are Robbing Their Children of Adulthood - "Snowplow Parents" (Page 2 of 2)
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With our kids, dinner is dinner. Whatever my wife and I wanted, that's what's on the kids' plates. If they don't like it, well, tough shit. No child ever starved to death when food was available. And there's no snacks if dinner isn't eaten. It goes in the fridge for later if they get hungry. Some people actually find this horrific.  |
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its like these parents are trying re-do their own shitty lives through their children. |
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The thing is most of these parents are very wealthy, and becoming successful and wealthy isn't done by giving up and running away at the first sign of adversity. It used to be that parents would teach their children the same lessons that they (the parents) learned over their lives and the children would emulate the parents. Now it seems that the parents are raising the children to be completely opposite. It really is a strange phenomenon. And many of these "wealthy successful people" inherited wealth, or got it via acting, or other ways that aren't as strengthening as building a business. |
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My dad told me "when you turn 18, it's off to college or off to the Marine Corps. College or Corps." He taught me to repeat that on command: "at 18, it's College or Corps." I was 6 years old.
So I went to college, then joined the Army. I sure showed him!!  . I kid, I kid..........
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Stupid article.
Of course I am going to help my kids as much as I can . What the hell other REAL purpose do I have? BTW.....all my kids are thriving, and my youngest .......18YO and is a sr. in COLLEGE! How is that for plowing a bit while your kid is kicking ass ?! |
| Sadly my sister has done this to my nephew. He's 22 and has worked 3 whole days in his entire life. He was sent to a expensive and prestigious college, only to totally fold up and fail . My sister has nursemaided him to a point where he can't take care of himself. On top of that he's become a arrogant lazy disrespectful know it all. He doesn't have any friends because unlike him they've all moved on and made something of themselves plus they don't wanna hear about what a genius he thinks he is. It's really sad |
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About 10 years ago my dad started getting calls from parents. He had one student with a 0 because he never showed up to class and never took the tests. It was an 0800 class. The father told my dad, a Department Chair with a PhD and a list of awards, publications, patents etc., that it was his job to make sure this kid got up on time and got to class. My dad laughed at him and hung up. A few years he ago he retired and quit because the Dean, without my dad's signature and approval (he wouldn't give it), changed a student's grade from an F to a C so she could graduate. "Because her parents had already bought plane tickets" to come to graduation. Quoted:
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A while back, I went to my college's 25th reunion. We had dinner with the College President. One of his comments - In the early and mid-80's we never heard from student's parents. Absent an emergency or serious disciplinary issue, they only called or came to campus for parent's weekend and graduation. Now, we hear from them constantly. They call about everything. The food, their child's schedule, their child's grades, whether the campus will be closed due to weather. It never ends. Its like running an elementary school. A few years he ago he retired and quit because the Dean, without my dad's signature and approval (he wouldn't give it), changed a student's grade from an F to a C so she could graduate. "Because her parents had already bought plane tickets" to come to graduation. |
| 11 years ago, at the big law firm where I worked then, the HR director (a lawyer) and I had a conversation in which he was shaking his head over how he was getting phone calls from parents of law students who had worked over the summer, demanding to know why Johnnie or Suzie hadn't gotten a job offer after the summer job ended. |
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Stupid article. Of course I am going to help my kids as much as I can . What the hell other REAL purpose do I have? BTW.....all my kids are thriving, and my youngest .......18YO and is a sr. in COLLEGE! How is that for plowing a bit while your kid is kicking ass ?! Not how do we help blacks not be poor and suck at math, or help latino kids improve reading, just how do we remake the entire system so some jerk off "balance" is struck where more unprepared kids are put in and magically made better. |
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Affluent parents have always greased the skids for their children, and they always will. It's the way of the world. You can complain about it all you want, won't change a thing.
Money talks, and talks loudly. Why do you think more adult males from first class were saved than children booked in steerage when the Titanic sank? It wasn't a fluke. |
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Stupid article. Parents have always tried to give their kids a head start. Nothing new. I love my kids and would do anything for them, but I won't do everything for them, because they would end up helpless infants at age 20. |
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I'm reading a book called The Talent Code. The author has done a lot of research into people that excel at sports, music, writing and other disciplines. The people that really excel learn from a constant series of making mistakes and then correcting them. So the jokes on these parents, they are setting their kids up to be complete failures as adults. The only chance is they have is if mom or dad die while they're young. A significant number of politicians and .gov leaders have a parent die at a young age. |
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Stupid article. Of course I am going to help my kids as much as I can . What the hell other REAL purpose do I have? BTW.....all my kids are thriving, and my youngest .......18YO and is a sr. in COLLEGE! How is that for plowing a bit while your kid is kicking ass ?! |
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Stupid article. Of course I am going to help my kids as much as I can . What the hell other REAL purpose do I have? BTW.....all my kids are thriving, and my youngest .......18YO and is a sr. in COLLEGE! How is that for plowing a bit while your kid is kicking ass ?! |
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Quoted: Yeah, except they're going about it all fucked up. I'm trying to give my kid's a head start too. Through discipline, hard work, and controlled adversity. He joined the Army, got injured in AIT, then an ELS. Now in CC and trying to get a NG waiver. It's all on him now, has been for 2 years. |
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Quoted: Yep .....you did. 4 kids . 1. Dentist- .zero debt via scholarship money 2. Engineer - zero debt via scholarship money 3. Med Student- zero debt via scholarship money 4. Pre-Med Sudent - zero debt via scholarship money. Maybe we need more snowplow parents......if that is what I am. Did you throw a tantrum to turn a barely earned D grade into an A? Can your kids change a toilet paper roll without youtube? If not, the article wasn’t about you. If you deny the existence of such parents it’s out of ignorance. I see them regularly. They will be horrified at what grows from the seeds they’ve planted. |
My wife is a helicopter snowplow.....
 I think there are valuable lessons to be learned by failure, defeat, weighing decisions, making one and dealing with the consequences (good and bad), etc. Maybe even more valuable than what is learned from victories and success. |