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Originally Posted By Cestratton85: Aren't you the guy that lives in Mexico and pays for hookers? If so then just keep doing that. If not then I apologize because there is a guy here who openly brags about paying for hookers in Mexico.  How much does he pay? I just assume Tijuana hookers are pretty gross. |
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I am actually married to a friends ex wife, been married for 25 years, raised a child, built a house. He wasn't that close of a friend. |
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I suggest we trade a question mark in for a maybe.
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Ignore ethics for a bit, look at common sense. Why is she his "ex"? If itstbecause of something she did to him, she'll do the same to you. That said, be prepared to lose a friend. She's his ex because whatever the reason, it was best she no longer be in his life. If you hit it off with her, spending time with you means he spends time with or near her. |
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Originally Posted By lokifox: Friend’s ex-wife. Off limits? wouldn't go anywhere near it. the potential drama alone makes my head spin |
It takes hatred to compulsively denigrate something.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
| I wouldn't if you want to remain friends. Have one of those going on right now in a divorce over relatively little money that's now going to cost 4x what they're fighting about. I stayed out of it but the wife picked sides and that kind of forced my hand so now I don't get to hang out with that group anymore. She probably would have dated anyone in the orbit including me if weren't married lol. She couch surfed at our place for a long while even though she's worth 7 figures but is one of those people who really needs someone to tether her down because of her mental state. Fun times. Thankfully she's fundamentally a good person so the wife and I have been happy to help. |
| It's worth adding this in also. Knowing how a woman's mind works its possible the ex-wife would be using O.P. for " revenge sex " to get back at her ex-husband and make his life even more miserable |
It takes hatred to compulsively denigrate something.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
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Originally Posted By Aimless: Worker: "You and your wife split up? She was kind of hot." coworker: "Go for it! She's great. If she shacks up I can get out of spousal support* I'll front you money for first date if you're serious." *this was long ago  There was a woman at work a few years back.... thin but average looking. She was banging over a dozen different co-workers. Everyone knew about it and it was hilarious. Finally, one decided to marry her and they had a kid. The left the company shortly thereafter. |
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Originally Posted By OregonShooter: There was a woman at work a few years back.... thin but average looking. She was banging over a dozen different co-workers. Everyone knew about it and it was hilarious. Finally, one decided to marry her and they had a kid. The left the company shortly thereafter. Originally Posted By OregonShooter: Originally Posted By Aimless: Worker: "You and your wife split up? She was kind of hot." coworker: "Go for it! She's great. If she shacks up I can get out of spousal support* I'll front you money for first date if you're serious." *this was long ago There was a woman at work a few years back.... thin but average looking. She was banging over a dozen different co-workers. Everyone knew about it and it was hilarious. Finally, one decided to marry her and they had a kid. The left the company shortly thereafter. I simply cannot imagine dating or banging someone from work. There was a manager that was dating one of his direct reports where I work, they started seeing each other while he was married and his wife worked at the same company at the time. That manager and his direct report were caught having sex in one of the labs after hours when they thought no one would be around.. There are many, many beautiful women where I work, some have clearly shown an interest in me but I can't imagine following up on any of that. It just simply isn't worth losing your career over. |
It takes hatred to compulsively denigrate something.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
That’s gayer than Elton John and George Michael dueting on their hit song Don’t Let Your Son Go Down On Me.
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Originally Posted By marlinfan: lol. Why would you care who your EX wife is fucking? Originally Posted By marlinfan: Originally Posted By macro: Fuck no. Some friend  lol. Why would you care who your EX wife is fucking? This was my first thought, but ARF poll results and replies seem to lean toward most people caring. Sort of surprised. |
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Originally Posted By lokifox: Friend’s ex-wife. Off limits? Ask him? If he’s like “Go for it!” then there’s your answer. |
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Originally Posted By NoStockBikes: That seems like a pretty solid guideline. ETA: I think it might be a bit light on the low end. Let’s say your friend dates a girl for a year. That’s long enough to be a pretty serious relationship. That formula puts her on the market 18 months later. That’s maybe a little tight. expansion on the formula: 1/2 of the time they were a couple + 1 year rounded up to the next full year of time Ex: Dated for 6 months = 3 months + 1 year = 15 months rounded up to 24 months |
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Originally Posted By lokifox: This was my first thought, but ARF poll results and replies seem to lean toward most people caring. Sort of surprised. Generalize, if mom is no longer living or someone was adopted that is irrelevant to my point... Imagine you are a teen living at home with your divorced mom. Your mom dates men that ain't your dad. If your 18 year old "friend" banged your mom you might not like it, that might damage your friendship. Your "friends" EX is the mom in this situation and despite that other people may bang mom (his ex) it might piss him off if someone he considers a "friend" does it. Trying to use an analogy as to why the "friend" might care. |
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Originally Posted By LeadBreakfast: Why complicate things? Go have a drink with him, tell him what's up just so he knows. A real friend will tell you what you need to know and why, and probably tell you to go hit it and quit it. This. When I divorced a buddy began pursuing my ex with the restraint of an alley dog after a piece of meat. It just felt disrespectful. If he'd approached me and said "hey man I want to pursue your ex" I'd have been like "yeah man go for it! Get me outta spousal support!" But the quickness of it and the lack of any discussion with me just felt disrespectful. Like I realize she's not my woman anymore, but give me the opportunity to be gracious here. We are no longer friends. I'm unsure if they ever hooked up. |
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Originally Posted By CapedCrusader: Give him your ex-wife's phone number so it's fair. Heck, maybe even make it a game - first to fuck the ex wins!  Originally Posted By CapedCrusader: Originally Posted By lokifox: Friend’s ex-wife. Off limits? Give him your ex-wife's phone number so it's fair. Heck, maybe even make it a game - first to fuck the ex wins! I like the direction you’re thinking. Instead of a challenge though, group date night. Someone floats the idea and sees if everyone is cool with it. |
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Originally Posted By Deuskid: expansion on the formula: 1/2 of the time they were a couple + 1 year rounded up to the next full year of time Ex: Dated for 6 months = 3 months + 1 year = 15 months rounded up to 24 months Originally Posted By Deuskid: Originally Posted By NoStockBikes: That seems like a pretty solid guideline. ETA: I think it might be a bit light on the low end. Let’s say your friend dates a girl for a year. That’s long enough to be a pretty serious relationship. That formula puts her on the market 18 months later. That’s maybe a little tight. expansion on the formula: 1/2 of the time they were a couple + 1 year rounded up to the next full year of time Ex: Dated for 6 months = 3 months + 1 year = 15 months rounded up to 24 months Who the fuck uses this formula? At a certain age you have to worry about breaking a hip before you can break off a piece. |
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Originally Posted By lokifox: Funny you mention that. Few years ago had the same exact shit happening but told her she was off limits for war buddy code. Originally Posted By lokifox: Originally Posted By Capt-Planet: The appropriate time to wait is 1/2 of how long they were together, plus a year. So if they were together for 10 years you'd have to wait 6 years from when they broke up until anything happens, assuming you actually give a shit about your friend. The girl of your best friend or a guy you went to war with are off-limits for life. Funny you mention that. Few years ago had the same exact shit happening but told her she was off limits for war buddy code. So you understand right from wrong, but it’s based on an imaginary emotional voluntary coworker code
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Originally Posted By YourAlterEgo: So you understand right from wrong, but it’s based on an imaginary emotional voluntary coworker code Originally Posted By YourAlterEgo: Originally Posted By lokifox: Originally Posted By Capt-Planet: The appropriate time to wait is 1/2 of how long they were together, plus a year. So if they were together for 10 years you'd have to wait 6 years from when they broke up until anything happens, assuming you actually give a shit about your friend. The girl of your best friend or a guy you went to war with are off-limits for life. Funny you mention that. Few years ago had the same exact shit happening but told her she was off limits for war buddy code. So you understand right from wrong, but it’s based on an imaginary emotional voluntary coworker code I’m nearly certain it was a revenge fuck. Maybe. I was banging her friend at the time too so who friggin knows. |
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Originally Posted By shack357: If it’s because of something she did to him, she'll do the same to you. That’s a concept. I’ve done some extremely questionable things in my life to put it nicely. Am I capable of all those things, and more today, absolutely. Am I those things, or is it situation dependent? I think many of us can think back to moments we have regret about, do those moments define our future? |
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Originally Posted By Gingerbreadman: Ex for a reason. Why invite that into your life? Wrong reasoning and I voted no … Every woman is somebody’s ex eventually… so unless we’re dating virgins who’ve only been kissed by their mothers, we’re all just working with pre-owned inventory 
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