IM sent....
$56k will be an OK starting salary. The freedom of VA is pretty priceless.
Your housing cost depends on how you live now I suppose.
Figure on rent being $900+ for a nice place, in a nice place. Figure $700+ for a nice place, in a marginal place.
45 minute commutes are likely about 15 miles away from Alexandria.
15 miles won't get you to the country.
You could do Front Royal, Winchester, etc....those commutes are in the 1+ hour range, but cost is a little lower and you get a little more land.
If she is pulling $56k, $75k will be EASY to make for a household of two. You can make $10/hour as a cashier at Home Depot.
Just remember that H&K, Leitner-Wise and NRA are all HQ'ed here. I'm sure you can find a niche somewhere.
Quantico Arms just bought another location, and I bet they could use some EXPERIENCED Armalite/AR10/firearms industry help.
I am convinced that from an opportunity standpoint, NoVA is about as good as it gets in the country.
HTH.....