JSIG,
1. The "open" end of the recoil spring goes towards the muzzle end. Are you going to use a buffer? If you are, check your recoil spring length with the slide in full recoil so the spring coils are not stacking and binding. There are a few ways to check this out.
2. Sounds like you have a Springco guide rod. With the Springco, you can go down in recoil spring weight. By changing the recoil spring weight, it affects the feel of recoil. I am using an 11lb recoil spring on the .40 STI and guys have gone down to a 9lb spring on theirs. I use a shock buff. I know you probably have a .45 but the recoil spring weight works with them too. If you go too light, you might experience failure to feed. Just experiment and see.
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