You might look at a CZ 100 - first it may be under sprung as far as the recoil spring goes - and this gives it an easy rack - second - if you feel it is still too stout, it has a protuberence - on the top of the slide that can serve as a "catch" so that you can hold the gun muzzle down, engage this area against an edge of a table or other object and push down to cycle the slide. It is my understanding that this was designed this way for the Czech police so they can cycle the gun with one hand if the other is not free- I don't think they carry one in the tube. I have the 40 cal version, and with this spring in it the brass does fly - I'd get the 9mm. Be forwarned, however that the CZ 100 has an incredibily long trigger pull - revolver like, and it cannot redone to shorten it in any appreciably way.
If you want a 380, look at a Beretta model 87 - it has a tilt up barrel, Load the mag, insert; place another round in the barrel, engage the barrel. takes essentially no arm strength.