Generically?
Hm. I'll take a crack at this.
Look for signs of scratching along sliding surfaces - frame to slide, barrel to slide, galling with stainless parts, etc., and find what caused it. Smooth even wear that removes a bit of blueing or polishes stainless steel is good and expected.
It is hard to damage a barrel by cleaning from the rear. Look at the muzzle for signs of damage to the barrel. The lands and grooves at the muzzle should be even and sharp. You especially DON"T want rounded lands/grooves on one side of the barrel and sharp on the other, a sign of poor cleaning. Not intuitively, the one piece steel rods are best as they do not imbed grit that can scour the barrel, especially compared to segmented aluminum rods. They say the polymer coated steel rods are even better than bare steel WRT to barrel damage due to cleaning.
A little dirt in the action is OK, as long as it is not corrosive and comes from firing the ammo, not dirt as in rough feild conditions. I would be more concerned with over cleaning than undercleaning. Plenty of good oil goes a long way. If you can prevent rusting and poor lube wear you are 90% there.
Don't strip the frame down to bare parts unless you have to. This will minimize stretching springs, losing parts, and reversing/rotating pins and things that have worn in and smoothed out.
My opinion, FWWIW. I am finally building or fixing more guns than I have ruined so I have a bit of experience here. Gotta learn somehow.