What brand lower?
A heavier buffer will not fix the problem. It is commonly due to the buffer retaining hole being slightly too far back from where it should be.
The buffer is supposed to contact the carrier, which holds it back from the retaining pin. If the hole is too far back, the buffer is striking the retaining pin rather than the carrier.
An easy fix is to cut a piece of material (doesn't matter much what it is made of as long as it doesn't break/shatter/crack and it can be securely glued to the face of the buffer).
I've used a small piece of lead sheeting, commonly available as roof flashing. This is about 1/16" thick, which is fine unless the hole is really buggered. Cut a small circle about 1/2-5/8" in diameter. This will be smaller than the face of the buffer. You want to build up the center area where the carrier contacts the buffer, not the edges. You have to make sure that the edges where the retaining pin contacts the buffer are not covered by this piece, otherwise you'll just end up with the same problem.
Securely attach the piece to the center of the buffer. A good contact cement or super glue should work nicely. You don't want it to come off and jam up your firecontrol parts. Put the buffer back in the lower and turn it to make sure that the retaining pin doesn't touch this material. When you close the upper, you should see the carrier contact the buffer and push it slightly back into the tube and hold it back so that it doesn't strike the retaining pin. Pull the charging handle and release it to let the bolt fly foward. Open it up again to make sure there are no new indents around the edge of the buffer. If there are, cut another piece and glue it over the 1st piece and try again. Any more than this and you've got a hole that is so far off that if it is a commercial product, return it. If its something you made yourself, you can keep adding layers until the problem disappears (within reason). It won't bother or hurt anything.
Besides lead, you can use a piece of aluminum, or even a small piece of rubber. I like the lead as it adds a little more weight to the buffer than other materials. Don't use plastic, glass, ceramic or anything that will break or crack. Cardboard (not corrogated) can be used, but it tends to get eaten up and shreads requiring frequent replacement, not to mention the paper fibers fouling up your fire control parts.