I've never understood why so many people have trouble with this.
It takes me about 20 seconds to install the pivot pin (and that includes dipping a pipe cleaner in clp and swabbing out the hole first to make sure it's clean).
-insert the spring (yes, I'm using the correct spring)
-insert the detent pin
-hold the pin (sleightly depressed) with your left thumb and index finger
-with the pivot pin in your right hand, use it to depress the detent the rest of the way (keep your thumb and index finger there to keep the spring and detent from launching), insert the pivot pin
-move it in and out a few times to make sure the it works properly
For me, this part of the build is really simple.
I have more trouble with the damn trigger guard roll pin...
For the Original Poster:
Make sure your hole is clean.
The spring should be all the way inside the hole. I'm kinda confused on how you ruined the spring.. ? If anything, you should have lost the detent pin and spring..
It might help you if you do the assembly inside of a large zip lock bag. That way if you launch anything, it won't go very far.
Good luck,
Gene