If the Archangel Gabriel comes down while you're driving away and personally urinates in the eyes of the driver following you, and you get away - then the situation was a win. However it happens, no physical fight or tussle means you won. Egos have to take a back seat sometimes.
You have to tightly define what a good outcome is, and however messed up it gets in getting to it - it's a win regardless of how you felt things could have been handled better.
Someone who suggested having OC made a good one, you always have to have a less-than-lethal option. Here's my little story.
I was working an offduty and out-of-jurisdiction security job at an organized rave. Forget that it was stupid, policy is against it for many reasons, but I did it anyway.
It's 0400, I'm outside waiting with two young female patrons, they've called a taxi, and as soon as it gets there I'm back inside.
A car comes through the parking lot, out jumps an absolutely huge fat guy, over six feet and over 300 pounds. He says, 'What the f**k did you call me?'. I've never seen the guy, clearly it was something they've been cruising waiting to find a victim for.
So, carload of males - ugly big one confronting me. I've got my glock in a fanny pack, but nothing else. I say nothing, I never do when in that situation - it's not that it makes things worse - it's that it makes no difference, the language you use doesn't make any difference to today's thug. They're going to attack you no matter what you say, so nothing works for me.
I'm pretty upset I don't have OC, pulling my gun is starting to make a little sense - but the last thing I want is an inquiry as to what I was doing down there at 0400. Besides, right or wrong, if I have to shoot someone nobody wins.
What ends up happening is that one of the teenagers has her head about her, and she comes on to the guy, telling him to forget about me and offering him her phone number.
It works.
Did I want to do something to him? Yep! Was I out of sorts about it for a LONG time, Yep! But it represents a win in the sense that nothing bad happened to ANYBODY.
Don't sweat it when the bad guys don't get some kind of punishment, they will eventually - just not tonight.