a23n has a good point (although I forget who you are on SP, sorry girl
). There's also a lot of information on SparkPeople, it's free and she could also find a group of older folks. The information from an external source, no offense but sometimes when it's our fella saying something would just get obstinate, could help her accept who she is right now.
I know about the buying bigger sizes just so they'll cover your legs and it stinks! It can also keep her from feeling like she's making progress. Does she enjoy wearing skirts? Maybe compliment her when she wears them and maybe she'll gravitate to those more. I find I can get away with smaller sizes in most modest styles of skirt.
As to the pictures, they're brutal.
I have recently seen that the camera is a very unforgiving eye. I've known some who don't know how to accept a compliment but she
is hearing you. Keep them up but not to the point of sounding fake.
Keep the picture that she responded negatively to and if she loses more weight you might show her that and tell her how far she's come from the body she didn't want anymore.
Just my suggestions. I have no idea if they'll work.
Oh, and good on you.
Not only for losing weight with her but caring enough to ask for advice. You could even join SparkPeople with her. There's even a place for the guys to hang out there. It's a very positive and supporting community that won't let you set goals that are harmful and has immensely improved my success as compared with previous weight loss attempts.