User Panel
User Panel
User Panel
|
Posted: 9/17/2005 9:36:15 AM EDT
I posted this in the general forum and was informed to try and post it here. My question needs a female point of view. What are your definitrions of "love" and "in love". Your answers will help me a lot. Thanks
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/17/2005 10:10:24 AM EDT
[#1]
Unanswerable. Love is mysterious as is the concept of being "in love". Some will say "in love" is lust and love is more sturdy. I'm not convinced one is any stronger than the other, but it is likely that it depends on the person, their age, and their sex. Humans are imperfect; our love is imperfect; yet we love in ways that are sometimes extraordinary. Unanswerable.
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/17/2005 11:19:59 AM EDT
[#2]
going with daydreamer's thought
if "in love" is the lust and giddiness that comes at the beginning of a relationship, "love" is committment--the always and forever part |
|
|
|
Posted: 9/18/2005 6:27:29 AM EDT
[#3]
That rolling, sickening, almost nauseating feeling you get in your stomach and chest, is the 'In Love"? Only been there once really. I would say 'Love' is when you put the other person's needs wants and desires ahead of your own, without ever mentioning it. Real love wants only the best for the other person, even if it is never returned. "Love suffers long and is kind; Love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up (arrogant); does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails......" I Cor. 13:4-8 NKJ I may not BE a SmARt woMan, bUt I Know whAt Love Is nOT. It certainly is not a man/woman that finds fault with every movement and or decision, or does not trust, or takes the time to hurt physically or emotionally. No jelousy!! |
||
|
|
|
Posted: 9/21/2005 4:42:01 AM EDT
[#4]
What is your definition of "Real Love" and "In Love"?
There are many Definitions. Mona |
|
|
|
Posted: 9/21/2005 5:15:48 AM EDT
[#5]
I think the more appropriate words to use is LOVE and LUST. Lust would be the desire - not necessarily sexual, but obviously attraction but the desire to be with another person is lust. LOVE is the unconditional commitment one succumbs too.
A good comparison is the feeling you have towards your parents. Even those who have challenged relationships with their parents there is a love there that is undeniable. The feeling you have early on in a relationship with a man or a woman is fun, exciting but your mind is able to discern judgment. Patty *ETA* Where's DRAKE? |
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 7:57:47 AM EDT
[#6]
Very good answers for me. Thanks, so with those answers, how is it that women fall out of love?
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 8:00:30 AM EDT
[#7]
puke.......
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 8:02:49 AM EDT
[#8]
No one falls out of love. Even my ex husband is someone very important to me. Granted I would rather stick screw drivers in my eye sockets then spend time with him but it would sadden me to know end to have him hurt. Patty |
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 10:43:35 AM EDT
[#9]
Straight up, I don't know, but... humans aren't always easy to live with and sometimes it's even harder to live up to their expectations. |
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 4:28:18 PM EDT
[#10]
people dont fall out of love
love is not everyday all day fireworks, roses and hot sex love is remaining committed , even when the rainbows arent around every day currently, some people choose not to honor that committment, blame others for their issues, act selfishly and must have instant gratification |
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 5:23:36 PM EDT
[#11]
|
||
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 10:40:06 PM EDT
[#12]
Patty, you must be a saint, and I an evil bad word.  |
|
|
|
|
Posted: 9/22/2005 11:12:53 PM EDT
[#13]
Love is a sentimental connection, a bond. Can be based on sex, on passion, on friendship, companionship or whatever it is that welds to personalities together.
And, like all bonds, it not unique and it can be broken. I resent the idea that love is forever, because it allows for excusing crappy behavior. Love isn't forever, it's a house that is built with teamwork, commitment and affection. Stop maintaning it, and it falls apart. Love, like a house, can fall into disrepair and eventually it isn't a house anymore, but a devotion to something that USED to be. |
|
|
|
Posted: 9/23/2005 6:37:02 AM EDT
[#14]
To me, there is a world of difference between the two. I have loved many people in my life, but have only been 'in love' with one.
Love is a basic emotion. To love someone is to care about them being a part of your life. The dictionary states that love is "To have a deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person". That's pretty much how I feel about it. Being IN love with someone is a completely different ball game... It's the explosion of electricity when they touch you; the feeling of absolute needing them in your life, and you can't possibly imagine the rest of your life without them in it; it's the way you smile and are overcome with emotion whenever they walk into a room; it's wanting to be a better person because of the effect they have on you; it's not just knowing, but feeling, that your souls are connected in a way that most people will never understand; it's being able to have a conversation without even having to say a word...an understood look, a smile; it's the feeling that your heart will absolutely stop beating if they were to ever NOT be in your life; it's the raw emotion that is tapped b/c of them...You feel like this person is an extension of yourself. |
|
|
Win a FREE Membership!
Sign up for the ARFCOM weekly newsletter and be entered to win a free ARFCOM membership. One new winner* is announced every week!
You will receive an email every Friday morning featuring the latest chatter from the hottest topics, breaking news surrounding legislation, as well as exclusive deals only available to ARFCOM email subscribers.
AR15.COM is the world's largest firearm community and is a gathering place for firearm enthusiasts of all types.
From hunters and military members, to competition shooters and general firearm enthusiasts, we welcome anyone who values and respects the way of the firearm.
Subscribe to our monthly Newsletter to receive firearm news, product discounts from your favorite Industry Partners, and more.
Copyright © 1996-2024 AR15.COM LLC. All Rights Reserved.
Any use of this content without express written consent is prohibited.
AR15.Com reserves the right to overwrite or replace any affiliate, commercial, or monetizable links, posted by users, with our own.
