I didnt want to post this in GD because its kind of a sensitive subject and story. But Id like to get some other peoples perspective on this.
A guy I work with has been in what I call a 'funkified' mood last few months. So today, he's being extremely quiet and solitude. Me being me, I say to him jokingly, "Come on XXX, you been in a shit mood forever, whats bothering you. Tell your uncle Hank. He'll listen to ya".
I then picked up my paper and started to read it when he just starts talking. Literally talked for 15-20min straight without pausing. All this time he's just looking down at the ground and talking. No gibberish, but actually expressing himself about his life, girls, his carrer. I didnt think he had that many words in his vocabulary. But the part that gets to me is how he views himself. He blames all his problems on his lack of confidence. He evn told me what the reason for it, which I REALLY dont want to mention, ever. But I could see how something like that would strip a man of his confidence.
Hearing about how his last girl even told him she thinks he's a nice guy but the lack of confidence is such a turnoff. I know his ex and I remember asking her what went wrong( Im a noseybody sometimes) and she told me how he 'needs to grow up'. I took it as he must of just been a little immature around her. Im the same way sometimes. Now i'm not the most confident person either but I do know girls dont want some spineless jellyfish for a man.
So at the end of his soliloquy, he tells me, ' Bet you never expected that huh?', got up and went back to work, not saying a word all day. I couldnt say anything to him. I had the biggest lump in my throat after hearing him out. I wouldnt even know waht to say. It's not like he's my best friend, or even a friend. I know him from work and thats it. He never says ANYTHING. He is what i would call anti-social.
What the hell do I do? Part of me (the sarcastic side) wants to tell him to man the f up. Stop being a whiney bitch, grab your balls and be a damn man. But I think its way more complicated than that. By his accounts , this has been going on for his entire life. How the hell do tell someone how to be confident? I never really thought about it until now. Im lost. I dont know what to tell him when I see him next week at work.
WWJWD?