My personal carry gun is the G-29 Glock, the subcompact 10mm.
Beats the heck out of .40 Short&Weak.
As far as I know, the only semi auto pistols that will hold up to a 10 for a long time are the Glock and the Bren, (the Bren being almost extinct). I have owned the S&W 610, but the moon clips were a pain in the arsch.
Colt refused to honor their warranty on the Delta Elite 10 because the slides kept blowing off of them, I heard.
I have put over 5,000 rounds through my little Glock without a hiccup.
We reload for it, and with Norma brass, we were able to get the loads close to .41 Mag specs.
As far as recoil...I have little hands, and have never had any problem holding this tiger down.
The men that whine about it being "OOOOO, too heavy a recoil" are wimps, I think. BTW, my bed gun is a Model 29 Smith...I *like* recoil.
I have no problem with second shot acquisition, it snaps up, and comes right back down where I want it.
10mm is a wonderful cartridge, not obsolete at all, and my choice to defeat almost anything that runs at me, from Bad Guys in Kevlar, to angry bears.
Long live 10mm!