I personally think these type of threads are very healthy; they make us think about moderating and let members air gripes. I started one about two years ago right before I became a mod- it was a doozy.
With that said, I think the subjective nature of [i]voluntary[/i] moderating will always be rife with calls that don't sit well with ppl. However, the alternative is unacceptable. Rigid moderating based on detailed rules of procedure would stifle, not expand, the discussions on this board.
I will tell you this, we talk a lot in the mod forum, on the phone, and via email about decisions we make. We're not rogue mods, we work as a team. Unfortunately, we will never please everyone.
So far as ArLady, she was not moderating in the BB thread and so I think the comments made about her are irrelevant and misplaced in this thread. When we are not moderating, we're just members.
If you have a problem, email a mod with whom the problem exists; we will listen and try and respond reasonably.