For you guys and ladies with step children:
When your step children act up, cop an attitude, pitch fits, smart mouth you and act like little turdlings in general does your spouse (their Mom/Dad) usually find a way to blame their behavior on your bungling or mishandling of the situation in the beginning?
In other words, you are told that the kiddies would not have been so bad had you handled it right to begin with.
My wife, God love her, has this annoying, infuriating way of blaming all of her son's shortcomings and general pissy attitude on me.
Oh yeah, he acts fine with her (not really) because she waits on him hand and foot. I, I am the bad guy who tries to make him buck it up pretty often and since he is "sensitive" and easily offended (bawls at the drop of a hat) I am bad. Can't ask anything of the kid cause if it remotely requires him to try, e squalls
This has nearly cost us our marriage.
As, David Lee Roth once said [b]"I been to the edge, you know I stood and looked down.....You know I lost a lot of friends their baby....ain't got no time to fool around"[/b], thats us.
I am trying my dead level damdest best to not be sucked into their disfunctional relationship and have been doing better than ever before. Still, once in a while I up-set junior and mama bear eats my arse and I steer clear for a few days till the dust settles.
My question is where is the median? How do you find a way to either work with your difficult step child or not give a shit?
And, how do you find a way to deal with your irrational, blind spouse.
I know divorce destroys the natural order of things and personally I think male children suffer the most. Just as the games male animals play in the wild determine their social structure and their overall hierarchy we human males are very similar.
My wife is dominated by a sub-adolescent male and he has always been her surrogate husband.
Where is the middle road?