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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:16:44 AM EDT
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They will be married within a couple of months.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:18:09 AM EDT
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And divorced a few months after she gets pregnant.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:18:15 AM EDT
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And divorced a year later. And it will be messy. -Troy |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:19:50 AM EDT
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Retirement plan for her, an 18-year sentence for him.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:21:56 AM EDT
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A good friend of mine was with his same girlfriend for almost 20 years, lived together for over 10 years, And then they got married. One year later they were divorced. What is with people that this stuff happens? Is it that they think getting married will improve a relationship and when it doesn't they get all disappointed? |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:23:07 AM EDT
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Good for her.
She's not getting what she is looking for in the relationship, and I bet he has been. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:24:17 AM EDT
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Women want a wedding, not a marriage.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:28:22 AM EDT
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+1 |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:31:56 AM EDT
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What's a "promise ring"? That bought him another year? I would think she'd have to be pretty gullible for that to work.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:32:22 AM EDT
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There's no "Groom" magazine. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:32:49 AM EDT
[#11]
your BL is a smart man... I'll leave it at that
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:34:19 AM EDT
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And then he will be paying for his and her kids child support from the previous one...
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:34:53 AM EDT
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As a three timer... I have to say.. that you guys hit the nail on the head.... 
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:36:26 AM EDT
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Good for her.
My Sister-In-Law was happily living with "The love of her life" and had a child with him. They were wonderfully content and happy together. Then he was killed in a tragic traffic accident. His will had not been updated, nor his life insurance. Nor the name on the mortgage, that she was helping to pay. Now his sister is taking everything, except what the baby is entitled to through Soc Security. They have hired an attorney that specialized in probate matters, but it will likely be very trying on my Sister-In-Law before it is all said and done. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:37:29 AM EDT
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:37:53 AM EDT
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Now there is a quote that saved me from hell with my first fiance. Once I realized that, I ran with the wind and never looked back. Weddings ruin a lot of marriages....... 
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:40:17 AM EDT
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:40:17 AM EDT
[#18]
Tell him he should marry her but make her sign a prenup. If that is a dealbreaker for her then you know her real motivations.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:43:11 AM EDT
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Once again Troy proves he knows absolutely everything. 
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:47:46 AM EDT
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Patty, you are so atypical (in a good way  ) compared to 80% of the women that exist out there it's easy to see why you'd think that.My ex wife was one of those. We knew each other for several years, talked until we were blue in the face about what we wanted from our lives, THOUGHT we saw eye-to-eye and then got married. Didn't mean squat. She REALLY wanted the wedding and the "happily ever after". |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:50:03 AM EDT
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Awesome new avatar. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:52:30 AM EDT
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She'll be 4mo pregnant (soup needed a little stock )
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Posted: 3/20/2006 10:56:42 AM EDT
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That doesn't work for everyone. I, for instance, would never get married if a prenup was involved. Even though I make more than my SO, I would never agree to sign a prenup prior to marriage. Why? The lack of dedication. When I get married, I'm going to share everything, which means I'm not going to say "until death do us part" lightly. If the consequences aren't taken seriously, neither will the decision. In other words, if she rejects the prenup, it could very well be because she sees it as a lack of trust, faith, and dedication, not because she's looking for a goldmine. Divorce should hurt. -James |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:00:24 AM EDT
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:01:47 AM EDT
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Never been divorced before I assume? |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:02:22 AM EDT
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For most cases, if a relationship goes beyond 2 years without marriage being in the works then you can take that as a big sign that it won't work out. Either one of the two isn't ready or one of the two isn't committed. In this case it sounds like the guy wasn't ready or sure and the girl showed that they "until death" actually meant until she got tired of his crap because if she was really in love with him she would have found a way to make things work. Why is it the one's demanding marriage and commitment are the one's that always walk out first? That doesn't make any sense.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:08:33 AM EDT
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they should hurt? ok, then why should they only hurt the male financialy & emotionaly(not being able to see his kids). your point of view is very honorable, but it just will not hold up with how society views marriage these days. Are there some out there who will keep to the "death do us part", sure. but there are a whole lot of others out there who would much rather give up and get a divorce. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:15:32 AM EDT
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Trust, but verify. You could have your whole heart and soul into it but if she changes her mind you'll be the one getting fooked.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:20:05 AM EDT
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Thanks. You can't really see it but Cartman is mooning on the t-shirt!  Airwolf thank you for the compliment. I tell you if I didn't have children I would never marry. I wouldn't shack up either. I don't think men or women know what they want anymore. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 11:23:21 AM EDT
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He's right.. Beat me to it. A significant proportion of unmarried women will conveniently forget that the wedding lasts a day and the marriage a good deal longer than that if things go right. It's to the point where it is considered common and normal for the bride to go through a vicious fit of depression after the wedding as she realizes that the fairy tale portion of the program is in fact over, and everything from here on out is unlikely to require a retinue of formal servants, an excess of lace, and a catering bill capable of launching a small satellite. Most men you see, realize that the honeymoon is over about twelve seconds before they hand a jeweler a wad of greenbacks for an upscale pebble. Patty, realize I certainly don't mean to chastise you. The fact that you don't see the world that way is very much to your credit. ETA- Meta4, one very GOOD reason for a prenup would be you or your spouse being involved in a financial partnership with others. While a divorce should be painful, the financial burden of one should not spill outside the divorcing parties. I understand your point and agree with the concept, but complicated realities might not make that a good way of doing things. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 12:04:04 PM EDT
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we have a winner, I tend to agree... |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 1:27:51 PM EDT
[#32]
Promise ring: A promise that you won't get married.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 2:22:30 PM EDT
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I prefer the term, 'mergers and aquisitions'. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:07:05 PM EDT
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Well she gave it away for free, at least street hookers get paid for it. If you give it away for nothing then it has no value.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:09:38 PM EDT
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I think women in relationships end up getting paid way more than hookers when you figure it out. 
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:11:14 PM EDT
[#36]
 ...so true, there is no good reason for man to get married. Tons of good reasons for a woman to get married.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:16:41 PM EDT
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If she isn't getting what she wants or needs out of the relationship than she should walk....just the same for the guy.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:23:13 PM EDT
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said as only someone who hasent had their heart ripped out and shit on more than once by someone they married can say it. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:37:56 PM EDT
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+2 |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:42:29 PM EDT
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+1 BC |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 3:50:17 PM EDT
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Posted: 3/20/2006 4:00:23 PM EDT
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Fixed it for ya. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 4:04:21 PM EDT
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Woman see marriage as security . Even if it's only an illusion . If this wasn't true then you would see more of men bitching because a woman wouldn't marry them |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 6:30:56 PM EDT
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UPDATE Okay, so now after just a few days of his GF walking out on him after four years together, he's contacted a girl he used to date before this one and he's going to meet up with her. Oh jeez is he on a big rebound.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 6:39:56 PM EDT
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Why buy the cow when you're gettin' the milk for free?
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Posted: 3/20/2006 6:52:58 PM EDT
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WHY BUY THE COW WHEN YOU ARE GETTING THE MILK FOR FREE!
I don't blame her for walking. ETA: Txgp17 beat me by 13 minutes 
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Posted: 3/20/2006 7:00:55 PM EDT
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Oh jeez.
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Posted: 3/20/2006 7:23:59 PM EDT
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This thread beggs the question............
WHY GET MARRIED PERIOD??? I mean......a couple is a couple is a couple. Why should marriage change a damn thing? Didn't change anything in my relationship. Didn't get better, didn't get worse. It is/was the same. If you expect a marriage to make your life somehow blissfull and happy all the time, you are wrong. I got married because it was a necessity to be with her (which I wanted then, and still want now). But if I had not needed to marry her, I wouldn't have. Marriage's time is over. You can thank the female population for that. If us guys wouldn't get dragged through the concertina wire during a divorce, we would probably get married more often and not get worried about the always dubious "commitment issues" you women are so famous for blaming us for. If you really look at it....our "committment issues" are really "probability of financial loss" issues stemming from a draconian system for punishing men for kicking women out, which was based upon a time when women didn't work, couldn't hold a career, etc. Women nowadays can do all that stuff, so why should us guys still get bitch slapped in a marriage? Go figure. 2 rules about marriage every guy should consider. 1. No marriage without prenup 2. If she won't sign, then remember that there are lots of women out there, and if she won't agree to be on equal footing in your financial relationship.........then she is trying to take advantage of you. |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 7:29:35 PM EDT
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Well being on the rebound is a lot better than agreeing to marry the girl he's been dating for 4 years but never felt right with. Sounds like a step in the right direction. Now he just needs to keep moving away from the old relationship, grow up a little bit, take a couple months and then try things again with someone new. |
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