I thought I would post this here as I have been following this board for a while and most of the members of this board seem pretty level headed. This is the first time I have signed on however.


Recently my shooting buddy divulged to me that he is having an affair with another woman. He is married with two kids a house etc. etc.

He also informed me that the woman he is having an affair with is married, has two kids, a house etc.etc.

Well here comes the clincher........ he called her pager,which she had changed the access code to, and checked to see if she had any messages. Now my buddy is pretty clever and he was able to figure out the new access code. So he tells me he heard a message that was from another man that was very sexually explicit but it was not him or her husband. Then when he asked her about it she denies it!!

Now here is the question

Should the guy let his girlfriend know that he figured out the access code or should he just play along with it to see where it goes.

He should keep his dick in his pants, shut up and go the hell home. If he's not happy, tell him to get a divorce first, then he can dip his wick into whatever will hold still long enough.

It never ceases to amaze me how some fool (either man or woman) will cheat with someone who is, in turn, cheating on their spouse.  Then, they get pissed when they get cheated on!!

What do you expect? If a woman will cheat on her spouse with you, she'll cheat on you with some other fool.  Works both ways.

Flame suit on.

Wrong question, Tikka.

Question should be: "Is this in any way, shape or form, any of my business; and should I in any manner give it a minute's thought?"

And the answer is no.

The guy should drop his "girlfriend" and go back to his wife...case closed.

The more he gets involved with this girl, the larger hole he is going to dig himself.  What happens if he does challenge his mistress about the guy?  Is he going to threaten her, perhaps say he'll tell the husband about the affair?  What occurs next is a grudge war b/w the lovers in which your friend's wife becomes informed of her own husband's infidelity, and each couple faces incredible hardship, not to mention the children.

If your buddy screws up, he faces losing his wife, his house, custody of his children, not to mention his dignity and self-respect.  I'm not saying he should or should not mention the affair to his spouse - that is his own decision that he will eventually make on his own accord.  What he needs to do is get out of this triangle of lovers and mistresses, and concentrate on his own marriage, because he obviously has problems there if he needs another woman.  There's no good sense in getting fucked by two scenarios, so my solemn advice is to kick his harem girl to the curb and fix the relationship with his family.

If not for any other reason, tell him to
[i]Do it for the Children[/i]

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If she doesn't tell her husband about your friend, what makes you thinks she'll tell your friend about some other guy.

I'd hate to have to explain to my wife how I contracted a STD.

He should back away obviously, but he should do it tactfully without pissing her off.  He has already given her the power to destroy his world as he knows it.  Don't give her motive as well.  

He should call it a mistake and get on with life.

Post from Stealth -

I've heard from pretty reliable sources that approx. 20% of the population of the US has one type of STD or another. That's one in five, baby!

So you gotta ask yourself [i][b]'Do you feel lucky today, punk, well, do you?'?[/b][/i]

And so long as there are minor children involved in both of the affected marriages, your friend is 'worse than an infidel' for him to break up [b]the childrens' home[/b] simply in order for him to satisfy his own lustful nature! Studies have shown the deleterious effects of even an 'amicable' divorce on the children of a failed marriage.

Eric The(JustSayNo!ToStrangePoon)Hun[>]:)]

Tell him to use the information to blackmail her into a threesome with her and the wife.

THIS is what happens when you or I start thinking we are smarter than God (as He reveleals Himself in His Bible) and start breaking His laws, thinking we'll not get burned.

If you can't obey the Bible because you don't believe in "religion" then obey the Bible out of pure self-interest. Its STILL the best / safest / happiest way to live.

Dump your "friend" because your wife may be next
on his HIT Parade, maybe your daughter!

The irony of it all; the cheater being cheated
on and being upset.
You got a real WEINER for a "friend."

Don't you just love this stuff?!?

What you really need to do is tell me this woman's pager number.  [spank]

Oh, don't be silly...I've been doing the neighbor's wife for years and not a single soul knows about...ooops.

Imbroglio could take his cell phone's speed dial off of 911 if you would pass that pager # his way.

Sorry to inform you man but your friend is a [size=6]POS![/size=6]
I know how hard it can be to keep it in your pants at times,but what ever happened to COMMITMENT!DAMN IT.I could never betray of
wife and child in that manner,I guess I'm old fashion.He's got my vote for[b]DAD OF THE YEAR!
NOT![/b]

The "other woman" is a scum.  Your friend is a scum and a fool.  His wife and family deserve better.