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online.wsj.com/article_email/0,,SB112441653792117457-IZjf4Nklad4m5ynbXuHca6Hm4,00.htmlBowling (and Living) Alone
August 19, 2005; Page W11
Like tear stains on old love letters, reports from the Census Bureau often cause pangs of nostalgia and regret. The bureau's report released Tuesday, "Examining American Household Composition: 1990 and 2000," does that by pointing to the "growing complexity" of our living arrangements. In particular, it says that at the turn of the century the nuclear family setup of two parents and their children was no longer the most common living arrangement in the U.S. In its place at the No. 1 spot are so-called "single-adult" households.
The relatively good news is that "single adult" does not refer to homes with a single parent raising children. Although the number of such homes rose between 1990 and 2000, the Census Bureau calculates that of the nation's 105,480,101 households, only about 12% now qualify as "households with children but without a partner." By contrast, 52% of households were married couples, the bulk of them living with their children, making the categories of couples with and without children in the home Nos. 2 and 3 among most-common household types.
The strange new truth, according to census figures, is that the single largest chunk of American households now consists of people who live alone. No spouse or partner, no kids or other relatives, no roommate or boarder. Alone.
Who they are, and how or why they became "sole occupants," is not explored in the report. Yet we can be certain that as Americans live longer, the number of older citizens increases as a percentage of the whole; and seniors are more likely to be widows or widowers, for instance, living on their own. Experts reviewing the report have noted that the category of roughly 27 million Americans who live by themselves also includes the usual crop of young people who have not yet settled down.
Yet a list-topping surge to 27 million separate little cocoons is still disconcerting. Among other things, it suggests a demographic bulge of lonely souls. Even if you discount the college graduates who paint the town every night before crashing happily at their first pad, you're left with a huge number of people who have found companionship and lost it or are still looking for someone to share their life with. They may not be miserable or call themselves lonely, although many senior citizens do use those words. But most probably are missing something, and we don't mean the better health and the longevity boost that scientists have associated with marriage and other forms of intimate living.
The urge to find a partner, which generally means someone to live with, is fairly universal and pretty relentless. Why else would all those TV reality shows focus on pairing people up -- in theory anyway?
We've long worried about trends, including single parenthood, that seemed to threaten the well-being of children. But 27 million lonely grown-ups probably isn't great for society either.