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Posted: 8/7/2005 2:52:51 PM EDT

Well this is very embarrassing but it has been a on and off problem for a little while now, It seemed like everything was going great and me and my GF were getting along great and having great sex, well about 2 weeks ago i started having a really hard time holding out during sex. This lead to a great deal of frustration for both of us, she was especially dissapointed because everytime she would get close to climaxing I had to stop.

Well this kept happening and just when i thought things couldn't get any worse, i started having problems getting it up and keeping it up. things will be going great and then we both are thinking WTF happened???

Its hard to explain how dissapointed both of us are, we get along great and I am very much in love with her. She thinks i dont find her attractive anymore and also that I dont love her

Its opened up a few other problems because we were so comfortable with each other and now we are both on edge.

I am really confused I am only 22 and the problem is all me, I am seriously considering getting some viagra and anything because of how bad things have become.

Posted: 8/7/2005 2:54:07 PM EDT

[#1]

induce whiskey dick

Posted: 8/7/2005 2:55:24 PM EDT

[#2]

Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

Posted: 8/7/2005 2:57:12 PM EDT

[#3]

If you have ED problems at 22 you should see a doctor. You should be able to drive nails at that age.

Posted: 8/7/2005 2:59:19 PM EDT

[#4]

Aren't you a ROTC Cadet?

Try better utilising your 8 troop leading steps and write up a thorough Op Order before sex. Focus on execution and stress the desired end state. Give your girl friend a good 'commander's intent', she needs to understand where this is supposed to be going.

If you try all that, and it's still not working, have a Sergeant get the job done for you.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:00:35 PM EDT

[#5]

Perhaps the most important thing is to back off. No matter how much we love the old "in out, in out",
even the most enthusiastic man can only do so much.

You're probably just getting too much and it's becoming routine.

You and your girl should try taking a few days off and then after that, don't do it every day. Twice a
week, maybe three times.

And not too many sessions per night, too! One good one is better than three that are just going through the motions.

CJ

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:01:44 PM EDT

[#6]

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If you have ED problems at 22 you should see a doctor. You should be able to drive nails at that age.

Yup. Definitely go see a doc. The only help we can provide is cheap shot jokes... and you know they are coming. No pun intended.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:02:42 PM EDT

[#7]

Preperation H on the crank.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:03:51 PM EDT

[#8]

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Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

No drugs, no smoking i am not obese and am in good shape. Stress, maybe but come on no amount of stress should cause this.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:05:25 PM EDT

[#9]

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Perhaps the most important thing is to back off. No matter how much we love the old "in out, in out",
even the most enthusiastic man can only do so much.

You're probably just getting too much and it's becoming routine.

You and your girl should try taking a few days off and then after that, don't do it every day. Twice a
week, maybe three times.

And not too many sessions per night, too! One good one is better than three that are just going through the motions.

CJ

Yeah that could be it it has been multiple times a day for a while, but we tried taking a week off and we only made it to day 2, and the problem still happened.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:06:37 PM EDT

[#10]

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Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

No drugs, no smoking i am not obese and am in good shape. Stress, maybe but come on no amount of stress should cause this.

Must be mental, your spidey senses bugging you about this girl?

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:08:41 PM EDT

[#11]

Just think about another girl while your having sex and that should cure it.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:08:41 PM EDT

[#12]

what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:10:03 PM EDT

[#13]

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Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

No drugs, no smoking i am not obese and am in good shape. Stress, maybe but come on no amount of stress should cause this.

Must be mental, your spidey senses bugging you about this girl?

no she is great and great looking thats what i dont get, i feel like i am going to ruin a good thing.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:12:08 PM EDT

[#14]

If you can rule out stress or some type of relationship problem
you either have a medical problem or are turning gay...........
Good luck

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:12:09 PM EDT

[#15]

...!

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:12:13 PM EDT

[#16]

just take a break from sex and everything will work out

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:12:16 PM EDT

[#17]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:12:53 PM EDT

[#18]

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:17:08 PM EDT

[#19]

Maybe you just need more variety?

Different positions may help. So might a different partner, but that option may pose EXTREME hazards.

CJ

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:17:49 PM EDT

[#20]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:19:53 PM EDT

[#21]

I would vote to see a doc also. Maybe this a symptom of something else that is wrong. You shouldn't be having those problems at such a young age.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:20:51 PM EDT

[#22]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:22:11 PM EDT

[#23]

I think buying a new rifle will put you back on track.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:23:14 PM EDT

[#24]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

I really dont think so, i had a very normal childhood, normal family no real problems. Only thing i can think of is going to christian school and their distorted views of sex.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:23:49 PM EDT

[#25]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

Could be a "trust" issue..........

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:24:27 PM EDT

[#26]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

I really dont think so, i had a very normal childhood, normal family no real problems. Only thing i can think of is going to christian school and their distorted views of sex.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm we MIGHT be on to something here........... Tell me more

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:25:44 PM EDT

[#27]

its just you know how they are, try to say horrible things will happen to you if you have sex before you get married.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:27:17 PM EDT

[#28]

I'll send you a vial of my blood. About once a month, two folks in lab coats visit and take some, out which they make the pill known as Viagra.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:27:41 PM EDT

[#29]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

I really dont think so, i had a very normal childhood, normal family no real problems. Only thing i can think of is going to christian school and their distorted views of sex.

I was talking about the girl. Maybe deep inside something is setting off a warning signal to your brain, causing the problem. I know you said you loved her, but is it really love? I hear SOME guys actually have to have an emotional attachment to a woman in order to do the deed.

Some.

I don't know any, but I heard about it. Maybe it was in one of those 'Urban Legends' books...Hmmm....

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:29:01 PM EDT

[#30]

system messege.....

moved to the MY PECKER DOESN'T WORK ANYMORE FORUM
seriously, why do some flks feel the need to ask such questions on a FIREARMS community. seek proffesional medical help or try dr ruth.com

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:32:19 PM EDT

[#31]

seriously, why do some flks feel the need to ask such questions on a FIREARMS community. seek proffesional medical help or try dr ruth.com

LOL!

Because that would be too much like thinking...

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:32:37 PM EDT

[#32]

Everybody has a batting slump.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:34:33 PM EDT

[#33]

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system messege.....

moved to the MY PECKER DOESN'T WORK ANYMORE FORUM
seriously, why do some flks feel the need to ask such questions on a FIREARMS community. seek proffesional medical help or try dr ruth.com

Mmmm....because this is GD not a tech forum?

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:34:43 PM EDT

[#34]

For a short term solution, avoid the Viagra and try something meant for stamina. My roommate got these pills called Staminex or something along those lines. They are meant to get you at full attention and stay there. Being the curious guy I am, I asked for a few and tried them out. They work pretty well. Just pop two, take a nap for an hour or so so youre well rested and get ready for some fun.

Although this may be caused from fear of ending too soon like you said you have been experiencing. I suggest trying new things and get a position thats not too stimulating for you but just as fun for her. I would suggest her on top. Good luck to ya.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:36:44 PM EDT

[#35]

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seriously, why do some flks feel the need to ask such questions on a FIREARMS community. seek proffesional medical help or try dr ruth.com

I dunno... but of all the things I'd call barfcom, a "firearms community" is low on my list

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:37:36 PM EDT

[#36]

where a really thick condom. less friction, = you last longer

and an additional plus. its safer

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:38:01 PM EDT

[#37]

Dude...
The way I figure is that: (a.) something is wrong with your body..in which case you need to see a Doc or (b.) Something is wrong with your state of mind (be it something about the girl you don't find too attractive, to some sort of fear, or maybe that this chick just aint you're ticket, and you should try a different type or age of a girl)

(I'd rather not think of the third possibility...just stay away from Lord Trader and Beer Slayer..better safe than sorry)

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:41:11 PM EDT

[#38]

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where a really thick condom. less friction, = you last longer

and an additional plus. its safer

well that was my first thought then I started having trouble keeping it up so now I cant seem to stay hard, which is worse than the original problme

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:46:41 PM EDT

[#39]

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damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Usage of multiple troll accounts?

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:47:33 PM EDT

[#40]

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what would be the harm in ordering some viagra on the internet just to get back in the swing of things?

Because you shouldn't NEED viagra at your age. There's an underlying problem here, be it psychological or physiological. I agree with MrClean...is your spidey sense sending you a red flag? If not, then maybe you should see a doc.

damn what kind of psychological problem would cause this?

Maybe something that happened in your childhood.........

I really dont think so, i had a very normal childhood, normal family no real problems. Only thing i can think of is going to christian school and their distorted views of sex.

I was talking about the girl. Maybe deep inside something is setting off a warning signal to your brain, causing the problem. I know you said you loved her, but is it really love? I hear SOME guys actually have to have an emotional attachment to a woman in order to do the deed.

Some.

I don't know any, but I heard about it. Maybe it was in one of those 'Urban Legends' books...Hmmm....

I'm one of them. Last girl I was with...well, I was kinda pressured to be with her. She was hot, but a little bit...um, pushy to say the least. I had problems like what Greg is having (and i'm 20 right now, this was when I was 18). I actually feel dirty if I'm with someone I don't love (go ahead, flame away

. If you don't have anything stressful going on (my problem was undoubtedly stress related) and this is still going on, might be time to see a doctor. It's not you, and it's not something to be ashamed over, this kind of shit happens, just get it taken care of and everything will be fine.

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:52:10 PM EDT

[#41]

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Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

Or you can be in conflict with what your heart tells you what is right and your penis telling you what it wants.

The few times I couldn't get it up was because I knew I was doing something I wasn't supposted to be doing.

Sgat1r5

Posted: 8/7/2005 3:55:10 PM EDT

[#42]

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Or you can be in conflict with what your heart tells you what is right and your penis telling you what it wants.

The few times I couldn't get it up was because I knew I was doing something I wasn't supposted to be doing.

Sgat1r5

Exactly. Well put, Sarge.

Posted: 8/7/2005 4:00:35 PM EDT

[#43]

Any issues masturbating?

Posted: 8/7/2005 4:00:57 PM EDT

[#44]

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Aren't you a ROTC Cadet?

Try better utilising your 8 troop leading steps and write up a thorough Op Order before sex. Focus on execution and stress the desired end state. Give your girl friend a good 'commander's intent', she needs to understand where this is supposed to be going.

If you try all that, and it's still not working, have a Sergeant get the job done for ou.

HAHAHAH! whew. I'm a dot and i just got done with an exercise in futility this past weekend at drill. Thanks for the comic relief!

Posted: 8/7/2005 4:09:27 PM EDT

[#45]

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Any issues masturbating?

no, but i have had no reason to.

Posted: 8/7/2005 4:10:23 PM EDT

[#46]

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Smoking, drinking,drugs and obesity are the main causes. Stress doesn't help it either.

Or you could be ghey

Or you can be in conflict with what your heart tells you what is right and your penis telling you what it wants.

The few times I couldn't get it up was because I knew I was doing something I wasn't supposted to be doing.

Sgat1r5

hmm interesting, I really care about this girl though. I thought i really loved her.