Dumb question on children disipline. Went down to P. Rico to visit my girlfriends best friend, who has 3 children. Children had recieved about 15 presents from both of us in trhee days with a super squirter yet to be given out (I bought this myself). I was in our bedroom (thier house) on the phone with work in a serious discussion, when two of the children came into the room becuase they heard from my girlfriend that "there was somthing "special" in the beach bag (we were going to the beach that day). Girl was 8, boy was 5 1/2 yrs old. While on the phone, they were making a commotion in the room trying to figure out what was in the bag. I asked the children to leave because "I had an important phone call", but they saw the "gun" and went ballistacally happy. I told them that if they left for a little while, I would then give them the gun. Well, about two minutes later they burst back into the room (I closed the door), and they went "ballistic" agian, telling me they wanted the gun. Well, I lost my temper and told them that since they didn't listen to me they wouldn't get the "gun" that day. Well, all hell broke loose with thier mother. The boy refused to go to the beach, and the mother was really upset. I informed her of why I did what I did, and she said "it wasn't fair". The boy then went up to me in the living room and physically hit me numerous times (of course no harm to me), but the mother didn't say or do anything to the boy. I told the boy my father would tell me "listen, you're going to "get it now" for that behavior (hitting an adult), and you can take it one of two ways, standing like a man, or running around with a chicken like his head cut off (he had the notorious grandfathers mining belt, which was about 6" wide!) Well, the mother went nuts. The husband and my girlfriend had "twisted" my arm to give the boy the gun, which I really didn't want to do. We ended up leaving the country yesterday (5 days short of our planned trip) because the wife really gave my girlfriend a hard time on my behavior, and thankful enough my girlfriend whole hartedly agreed with my actions (we even did go to the beach that day and everybody did have a good time, except the mother who stayed home because she was 5 months pregnant). My point was the the children had already gotten numerous presents, and the mother was "caving in" to a 5 year olds demands (since he wasn't getting the gun, he was going to throw a tantrum and not go to the beach). What ticks me off even more is that the husband told me in the car on the way to the beach is that he understood what and why I did, but that I should apologize to his wife becuse she felt that "I threatend her child rearing techniuqes". On top of that, the five days that we were down there, both my girlfriend and myself paid for the entire families lunch and dinners (for 4 days, and no cheap restaurants) and a hotel room for the family and us when we dove to the other side of the island. Both my girlfirend and myself are in our 30's, never married and no children, so were not adept to child rearing "techniques", but if anything good came out of this, we both agree that we feel that thier children lack disipline (I mentioned to my girlfriend that if that boy would of been mine, and I saw him hitting an adult for no reason other than a "tantrum", I would of yanked his arm out of his socket. Please, for any parents out there, what would you of done? I don't think I was wrong.