Bolt, you sound pretty bitter. If you shut your self off the bad ones win. I was married twice before I found the love of my life. Both ex's were quite insane in their own ways, and mean as cat shit.
My lovely wife is my best friend. I have a few male acquaintances, but if I've got time, I want to spend it with her. She's sexy, fun to be with, and smart as a whip.
Before we met:
She had never shot firearms. Now she is an NRA certified firearms instructor, and IPSC competition shooter. She loves bowling pin shoots, falling plate matches, and NRA action pistol. We'll be going to the IPSC shoot this weekend. She shoots a S&W 686 six inch. She's not real fast, but it surprizes me that her raw target scores frequently are higher than the guys in grand master class. Bedtime reading for her is First Freedom or American Handguner. There's a stack of 'em on her side of the bed. Needless to say that she is a vigorous Second Amendment advocate.
She was not politically active. Now she is an absolute tigress for Bush. We have been out for the last three weekends leafleting parking lots for Bush and other Republican candidates. Saturday we will shoot IPSC, Sunday we're already commited to leafleting again. She made me stand in line for five hours this past Tuesday so she could shake the Presidents hand when he was here in Colorado Springs. She is a leader in our county Republican Party.
She is a patriot and loves America. I could go on until you got sick of listening to me.
Here's the point; You've got to be open to the possibilities in life. Examine yourself. Are you the kind of man a good woman would want to be with? If not, change your ways, if you are, then there is always room for improvement.
When you find her spend some time every day thinking of new ways to please her. With the right woman, you will not believe the payback.
Good Luck