if you're happy with the way you are, who cares????If not, you may have to work on your communication skills. I can usually go to a party and find something in common to talk about. Sports, jobs, where you live, where you grew up, common interests (guns, motorcycles) are all conversation topics. When the family across the street were building their new house, I went over and introduced myself. I had them over for coffee later and Randy saw some Masonic items in the family room. He said he always wanted to join, but didn't know any Masons, and didn't know how to go about joining. About a year later (and once i got to know him) I was a signer on his petition. Now he's joined my lodge, we go motorcycling, and he also hunts. Sometimes you have to be a little outgoing. To have a friend, be a friend...