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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:40:13 AM EDT
[#1]
Got married at 25 (same age as my dad did, oddly enough) and 9 years later we're still hanging in there.
Edited because I forgot to tell you that she was 24. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:40:16 AM EDT
[#2]
I still have freedom.
I shudder when I think what would happen to my vintage Mustangs and muscle cars and firearms if a woman ever got her claws into me. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:40:30 AM EDT
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Married in 1998 and still together. I was 29, she was 31.
Don't rush. It's not worth making a mistake! -BK |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:45:55 AM EDT
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Quoted: How old was she? Are you still together? How long? Just trying to get some background information to see if I should even be concerning myself with this now. I'm 25. 30. 30. No. 11 years. Don't rush it. Being single is FAR better than being in a marriage that isn't working. Mine was good for about 7 years, then started a decline that neither of us seemed to be able to do anything about despite our best efforts, outside help, etc. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:46:41 AM EDT
[#5]
Married in 1995, we were both thirty. Still married. Been the happiest two years of my life;)
Don't do it. You'll regret it. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:47:40 AM EDT
[#6]
Got married in 1990 at 24 years old. We are sill happy and will celebrate our 11th year this July. I don't suggest rushing into anything. If it is meant to last, it will do so either way. Give it time till you are both sure and ready.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:49:54 AM EDT
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First time, 18/19/5 years
Second time 32/20/6 years This time 42/41/11 years so far. If you're gonna do it right, it takes practice, like everything else. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:51:44 AM EDT
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I was 30. She was 25. We've been married almost 7 years and together 10. I'm as happy as a man can be...
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:56:11 AM EDT
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i maried at 19 she was 21 still together for 8 years..looks like its going to be a lifetime... dont rush it we dated for 5 years before marring young but most marriges dont last now-a-days because its just for looks and sex....looks never stay the same and sex is everywhere as long you look for it.. unless your willing to comit 100% its not worth it if you want to see other people or sleep with other people dont get married if not i say go for it.just my .02
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Posted: 6/4/2001 8:58:24 AM EDT
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I was 33, she was 36. We're coming up on our 6th anniversary. It is my first and only marriage, it is her second. She got married the first time at 19.
I waited until I was mature enough to handle it. That took awhile. There is only one rule to make a marriage work - your job is to keep your partner happy. As long as you both work at your jobs, you will have a happy marriage. If one of you stops, you're in trouble. If both of you stop, it's over. Neither one of you can be immature. Immaturity comes out as "my needs are more important than your needs" in a relationship. People can live together and even be legally married when one person controls the other completely, but in my opinion that's not "marriage", that's chattle slavery. I'm not interested in owning somebody. The other extreme is violent screaming matches where the two parties try to make life hell for the other. I'd rather get a root canal without novocaine. If you're serious about someone, ask yourself some serious questions: Can I dedicate my life to making this person happy. Will she do the same for me? Do we want the same things? Is there anything that we fundamentally disagree about? (Children are the biggest question here. Religion holds a close second.) Are we honest to each other? (If you lie to her about little s**t, she's not the right one or you aren't ready yet.) Finally, if there is any question about whether or not she'll say "yes" when you ask the question - you're asking the WRONG WOMAN. You'll both know the answer before the question gets asked. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:00:21 AM EDT
[#11]
Got married when I was 25, she was 23, after living together for 2 years. Still together after more than 10 years and 3 kids and love her more everyday.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:04:34 AM EDT
[#12]
Quoted: I still have freedom. I shudder when I think what would happen to my vintage Mustangs and muscle cars and firearms if a woman ever got her claws into me. That's odd. My wife bought me a Ruger 10/22 for Father's Day the first year we were married (I married into instant family), and at a car show two years later when I came upon my dream '67 big-block fastback Mustang she said "It's for sale, do you want to buy it?" I've bought at least one gun every year we've been married, and I'm accumulating parts to hot-rod the Mustang. She has no problems with it. You need to meet some better women. And maybe grow up a little? [sniper] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:05:43 AM EDT
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I was 20, she was 18. Lasted 5 years. We were too young but we have a beautiful daughter who just made me a grandfather 2 months ago. My ex and I have divorced 26 years and are still good friends. It was worth it due to our daughter and our friendship. She is my longest term friend and we talk at least once a week. I haven't done it again for 2 reasons:
1. I have had too much fun being single. 2. The crap I have seen friends, both male and female, go through in marriages and relationships. Too much crap,too many games, and too much pain. I have had several relationships but nothing ever got that serious. I love women, just don't want to ever get married again. Might live with a woman, but right now that is not a prospect due to my career with 100 percent travel. Per KBaker's post, I am not prepared to put that much work into a relationship anymore. Too old and set in my ways. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:10:55 AM EDT
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I was 23, so was she. It was last year, we've almost been married one year. Dated for 4 years off and on before that.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:12:55 AM EDT
[#15]
Dec 17th,1969
I was 21,she turned 20 that day. That makes: 31 1/2 yrs. A woman is like wine. If you marry the right "grape", as she matures she will mellow and sweeten,and your marriage will acquire body.... under the right conditions, of course. The problem is that the man must meet the same pre-requisite,and if he is not from a "good year",he will make the relationship sour. Moral of the story? Get a good woman and be a good man,or things will not go right.[:)] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:13:56 AM EDT
[#16]
Age 35.....Hey that's 2yrs from now.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:16:13 AM EDT
[#17]
#1: I was 21, she was 18, lasted 13 years.
#2: I was 36, she was 35, still going strong after 16 years. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:17:34 AM EDT
[#18]
Not.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:17:48 AM EDT
[#19]
Married at 25 She was 24.
Married on 1/27/96 Started dating in 1991 lived together for 2 years before getting married.(very important!) Still very happily married! I have seen a lot of my buddies over the years get married after dating for 6 months to a year...all have gotten divorced since. My best advice is to live with her before you commit.... John |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:18:05 AM EDT
[#20]
Quoted: Dec 17th,1969 I was 21,she turned 20 that day. That makes: 31 1/2 yrs. A woman is like wine. If you marry the right "grape", as she matures she will mellow and sweeten,and your marriage will acquire body.... under the right conditions, of course. The problem is that the man must meet the same pre-requisite,and if he is not from a "good year",he will make the relationship sour. Moral of the story? Get a good woman and be a good man,or things will not go right.[:)] And now that good woman is going to kick your butt for revealing her age! [;)] Ed, you said in one sentence what it took me an entire paragraph to say. "Be a good man". That's your job. [sniper] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:18:56 AM EDT
[#21]
19.She was 19.Been 6 years and it ain't gonna stop. My wife is wonderful.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:19:39 AM EDT
[#22]
1st Marriage- I was 28, she was 25. We lasted five years and then drifted apart as our lives went different routes.
2nd Marriage- I was 37, she was 33. Been two years, we just had a daughter in March. Don't let any of the guys sounding off here about their guns and cars and other toys fool you. Although being married may not make you happy, toys will NEVER make you happy. Material things can be amusing for a while, but they are not a substitute for having a life. I guess the world needs its share of bitter, eccentric old bachelors who die and leave their vast collections of stuff to other people's kids, though. There is no item in this whole world...no gun, no car, no gadget, nothing...that compares to my baby girl's smile when I pick her up and hold her. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:21:40 AM EDT
[#23]
I married at 45 and my wife is 36. Before that, I got a hell of a good time. Why quit? Getting old I guess and a need to settle down.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:33:55 AM EDT
[#24]
I was 21, she was 22
going on 5 years. It's been good with the normal ups and downs. I recommend waiting until you are in your late 20's or early 30's. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:36:46 AM EDT
[#25]
Married Aug. 12, 1975
I was 18. She was 16. No, there was no child on the way. Unusual circumstances (disfunctional families-both of us). We are approaching our 26th anniversary. I love her more today than I ever have. We are best of friends and "family". Lawdog |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 9:50:46 AM EDT
[#26]
I was 30 and she was 23 and we been married for 7 years now and looking forward to 70 more. We had our share of "difficult" times together in the beginning but we have managed to work through it all and made our marrage stronger.
She and I both knew we were going to get married only about 6 weeks after we started to date. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:02:05 AM EDT
[#27]
Don't do it!! [whacko] I think we were both around 25, and I think I've been married 20 yrs. [:E] I've suffered drain bammage from it [BD] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:05:27 AM EDT
[#28]
SWIRE, I know the feeling. I'm 28 and am dating a very special woman (she's 32) who seems like a keeper. But before that I wondered if I was getting too old to meet any good women. Sometimes it seems like all the good ones are taken, especially as you get older.
I'm very glad I waited until I was 28 to get serious about considering marriage. I know I'm a lot more mature than I was at 22 or 23. And so is she. It makes the whole relationship a lot easier. We both know who we are and what we want in life and aren't building our concept of ourselves based on what the other person thinks. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:10:17 AM EDT
[#29]
I was 28, she was 22.. Married for 14 years and counting...
Rick |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:22:45 AM EDT
[#30]
Quoted: .. Married for 14 years and counting... ....Do you mean like 1 through 10 to keep from getting angry? [:)] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:38:32 AM EDT
[#31]
I was 21 and she was 20. I married the "girl next door" but we didn't begin dating until after highschool. Been married just under 20 years now. We're still together after all these years.
We've had our moments but anything worth keeping is worth fighting for... I must admit that we've wasted some time fighting over silly stuff but when we put our heads together against a common enemy, we are unbeatable. We'll be renewing our vows later next year! "I Still Do" |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 10:55:19 AM EDT
[#32]
I was 21, she was 23.
Been married 11 yrs. Till death do her part. [:D] |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:17:23 AM EDT
[#33]
i was 25, she was 22. got divorced in '93 when i was 28. the marriage was 3.5 years, we lived together for 3 years prior to that.
don't rush it- got married because i thought it was the right thing to do as we were living together. there some serious problems with her mentally - but i thought it would work out over time. WRONG! she would hate anything that took attention away from her. she was anti-gun (except during the la riots) and would beat my cat. looking back on it - now that i really understand how people function - she was really messed up. so being the "good husband" i supported her for 6.5 years making 90% of the income. right before she was to graduate as a court reporter and i could finally take a break from my burner job- she announces that she cannot be married to me any longer and is moving back in with her mom (mega psycho!) last i heard she is living in chico calif. and now has a kid - i wish her only the best and i hope she has figured herself out. steve |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:24:51 AM EDT
[#34]
I was 18 she was 19 back in 93 been with her since 91 [sniper]
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:28:39 AM EDT
[#35]
She was 17, I was 18. Her mom didn't want us to get married. Celebrating 25 years now. Mom got used to me. Don't rush anything just because of your age.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:30:09 AM EDT
[#36]
Quoted: ....Do you mean like 1 through 10 to keep from getting angry? [:)] LOL.. yeah at times.. but I wouldn't trade her for any other.. She puts up with me so she's a keeper. Rick |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:34:45 AM EDT
[#37]
I'm 22; no marriages or even interesting dates as of yet.
BUT, when I talk with friends, relatives, and other folks who are married/divorced/etc., I've learned a bit. 1. Wait. Date for at least three years, and do the whole engagement thing for a year. 2. GET TO KNOW THE PERSON VERY WELL. (No, get your mind outta the gutter.) 3. Differences are okay, but look out for the major ones. Childrearing is a biggie. Religion can be important. If you're a true gun-nut, make sure she'll at least tolerate your hobby. (This also goes for other hobbies; if she hates gardening and has allergies and you garden and love havign the windows open, compromises will need to be made.) 4. Never look at marriage as getting. See it as giving. Each person should only worry about giving to the other. If this works, you're all good. 5. Remember the "grape" analogy as proposed by Ed Avila, Sr. :D Mike |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 11:43:35 AM EDT
[#38]
Me 27, her 24.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 12:04:36 PM EDT
[#39]
36, 28, yes, 17 years.
Norm |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 12:12:33 PM EDT
[#40]
I was 27, she was 26, still married, 27 years.
A lasting marriage requires a lot of patience and understanding, but more than anything else, LUCK! |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 12:17:31 PM EDT
[#41]
Just got married in May. I’m 27, she’s 24 (or is it 25? ......Just kidding). No complaints so far. I really believe I finally found the right one. Just thinking about her as I type makes me smile. Sorry, didn’t mean to get sappy.
Plus there are twins on the way expected in August. No option but marriage. Had no choice really, had to do the right thing. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 12:40:45 PM EDT
[#42]
She had just turned 22. I was 28 and we have been married 21 plus years. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 12:45:51 PM EDT
[#43]
I was 22
She was 20 Still together today!(and still happy) |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 1:27:34 PM EDT
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I'm 39, she's 34, been married 2 months. First marriage for both of us. I met her when she was 29 and she was a virgin. How often do you see that? :)
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Posted: 6/4/2001 2:30:42 PM EDT
[#45]
Which time?
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Posted: 6/4/2001 2:43:10 PM EDT
[#46]
26 but,played house since 19 iwillbe 30 in august she is agood girl for putting up with me she just turned 31.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 2:53:15 PM EDT
[#47]
I was 21, she was 20. We are still married 18 years later. Things are ok. Been better and worse.
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Posted: 6/4/2001 2:55:38 PM EDT
[#48]
We were both 21 still going strong after 13.5 years...not to mention 2 great kids aged 11 and 8 ( oh and the whole family shoots together!!)
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Posted: 6/4/2001 3:08:27 PM EDT
[#49]
I was 22. He was 23. Latest almost 4 years.
Funny thing.. it cost $25 to get married. He used to joke about our marriage certificate being his "receipt" for me. Cost me [i]thousands[/i] to buy myself back. I still believe in marriage but I am incredibly cautious now about committments. |
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Posted: 6/4/2001 3:20:00 PM EDT
[#50]
Originally Posted By Miss Magnum: I was 22. He was 23. Latest almost 4 years. Funny thing.. it cost $25 to get married. He used to joke about our marriage certificate being his "receipt" for me. Cost me [i]thousands[/i] to buy myself back. Property appreciation. I'm sure you're worth every penny! [8D] |
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