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One woman poster named JenC writes:I don't even know where to start or if this will even make sense. My DH works in a profession where he is really really good at what he does. He's a mechanic, and he has both the professional training and the mechanical knack for it. He HATES the environment though. And he's paid comission, so if he has a bad week, we get a bad check. It's a high stress place to work
Summer of 03 we had a job offer in Arizona (we're in Indiana). Looked good, sounded good on paper. Went out to check it out - was ok, but not quite what we were looking for. Didn't seem to quite be what we were led to believe. We both had mixed emotions about possibly moving - we're adventureous, but all our family is around here, and we're close to everyone. Anyway, when we returned back from AZ, we decided together to turn the job down. (After me seriously saying that if we go, we go now before I change my mind)
Fast foward to now. The last few weeks have been tough for him. I do my best to let him relax when he does get home. Usually have dinner ready and I know he needs his unwind time on the computer (Ebay and car forum addict), so I give him time to unwind by himself.
Part of him regrets not going to AZ (all the what if's). The time we did spend together last night he blamed me for us not going. Boy did that get a rise out of me! I not so nicely remided him that it was a choice that WE made together, and I told him to stop taking all the crap at work and get the guts together to get out and get a new job where they treat you with some amount of respect. (yeah, I know...really supporting your husband there. But I was HOT!)
He can't leave a bad day at work at work. He brings it home and takes it out on me or ignores me all night to relax. Doesn't want to play games, watch movie, or anything.
Just hang out in front of the computer....all night. That doesn't fly with me -
I NEED some communication and attention. It's been like this all stinkin week. Why can't he just either learn to leave his stupid job and work or get the guts to get a better one? It's not fair that he relaxes in front of the computer for a few hours and then goes to bed without hardly a word to me..........night after night, just because he's had a bad day at work! I desperately NEED time with him...
Sounds like another case of AR15.com addiction and bored housewife.