Bloody hell, guys. My wife presents none of these difficulties. If she wants something, she asks for it directly. If she is mad at me about something she will say so. We have never had an argument where we raised voices at each other and I could not begin to contemplate what would happen if we had an argument where she got really upset with me (sends me to sleep on couch).
By and large we hold the same views on things. None of our views are so different where we disagree that we cannot discuss things reasonably.
Do I think I would survive cheating on her? Hell no. She would be waiting for me in the front yard having borrowed a weapon from the unit and cut me off at the knees and then leave me to bleed out on the front lawn (she would probably only be able to find ammo for the SAW, not the M2, she was the SAW gunners assistant before her promotion).
The only things that I find mysterious about my wife are what turns her on. When she is on the pill she sorta indifferent about sex. But when she is not . . . she will go through cycles where things just don't quit. Like when I got back from BCT this summer . . .