I was kinda the kid in this story in 2002.
Had a bad family life, two kids, in debt up to my ears, playing the part of stay at home father and then my house burned down and my wife left me and the kids.
Luckily, we still had renters insurance, so we used most of our insurance money to delet the debt, and it left me alittle to take care of me and the kids while I tried to find a job.
But I had to move in with my mum and step dad because things were really tough. I tried like hell to find a job and not be a drain on their household. I put as much financially into the house as I could, but it never seemed to be enough.
To top it all off, besides getting over a pretty bad emotional slump caused by my wife leaving, it took me a year and a half to actually find a job, and during that time, my wife tricked me into giving her the kids (under the guise that we would all be getting back together) and then I got his with a retarded restraining order, child support even though she hadn't paid shit for our kids during the 15 months that I had my kids, and now I live alone, not able to see my kids because she has the court system wrapped around her little finger due to the political correctness that has invaded the court system, paying child support, only allowed to talk to the two lights of my life on the phone every other day that I raised from babies as a stay at home dad, trying to make ends meet and without a single firearm due to the damn restraining order.
Luckily I was able to move out from my mum and step-dads place, and I just got a job working for the feds at the Puget Sound Naval Shipyard, and the restraining order dies a natural death in October(it had a one year shelf life), and I have seen enough specialists and whatnot to counter my wifes lies about my mental state that I will be hopefully picking my life up again in a couple of months.
I made some pretty stupid decisions when I was younger and when I was married, so I know what your stepson is going through. I just hope he is as consciencious as I am in trying to stay out of peoples hair and give to the household and expresses his gratitude for being given the opportunity to stay there and recoup from his life as he tries to put things back together.
I still have allot of payback to give to my mum and step-dad for their kindness over that two year stint when I lived there and for the 15 months my children were there.
Life can suck, but sometimes the help of a caring family can really make a difference in a persons life.
Chris