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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:39:15 AM EDT
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The fact that she wants you to come to a family gathering is a GOOD sign, not a bad one. Why not compromise, tell her you will go, but you'd like to leave early enough to go out to a movie/few drinks/whatever with her afterwards since you haven't seen her for a while.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:42:25 AM EDT
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hint: listen to the women, they know how the others think. Its like a borg thing or a hive-mind. Really go to the thing, don't be so short with her, the point is to spend time with her, not get dinner or see a movie, plus she probably doesn't want to go, and feels obligated so make it better for her by being some good companty, then get her drunk on margaritas..... |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:42:37 AM EDT
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oh what the hell...
STUFF IT IN HER POOPER AND POST PICS! |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:42:59 AM EDT
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You don't really think anyone around here knows the answer to this question, do you?
 Give it a little more time and see what happens. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:43:35 AM EDT
[#5]
 IT'S A TRAP!!! |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:43:37 AM EDT
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Yes, those relatio-thingies are hard. One thing I've learned over time:
If you love something... Set it free. If one night it hangs a slaughtered pig with a love haiku engraved on it's stomach outside of your bedroom window... It was meant to be. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:45:33 AM EDT
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1. You are over analyzing the situation.
2. There will be plenty of time for you to be "together" after the party. 3. If you have any intentions of getting married or having a long term relationship, be prepared to go lots of places you don't want to go, and do lots of things you don't want to do. 4. Women cut men off in conversations and insist on having their way. It's what they do. The sooner that you accecpt items 1-4, the sooner you will be able to go back to getting laid on a regular basis. 
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:46:06 AM EDT
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GOD is that you?!?! |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:46:52 AM EDT
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It is easy to deal with women.
Throw all logic out the window and make all decisions based on emotion and feelings alone, knowing "me, now" is all that matters. Think like a democrat.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:47:29 AM EDT
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YOU OWE ME A NEW KEYBOARD AND A TEE SHIRT! I shot grap juice out of my nose when I read this post!!! 
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:53:04 AM EDT
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I think your spending to much time with her. Spending every night with her when you've only been dating a month and a half sounds kinda clingy
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:53:29 AM EDT
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Well, if it was me, I'd talk to her and tell her it sounded like she got pissed when you wanted to be alone with her. I'd ask her to expain what happened and how she felt. Then again, I don't know squat about relationships. Good luck. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:55:38 AM EDT
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Women are nuts.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:57:19 AM EDT
[#14]
only a month. Just move on and think like a Republican
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:58:39 AM EDT
[#15]
this is a good point. and even considering the idea of moving in together that early is really a bad idea. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 11:58:44 AM EDT
[#16]
This thread is actually turning out better than I expected.....yes, they're nuts, yes, they're frustrating, yes, it's all their fault,
<----soaking up all the good advice. <--especially "If you love something, set it free". |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 12:03:13 PM EDT
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if you ever need advice on how to piss them off, then and only then will i be qualified to help you out.............
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Posted: 8/20/2004 12:06:59 PM EDT
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That's life kid! Work on her or move on. Take your pick. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 12:50:41 PM EDT
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The problem I see here is that women have ALL the pussy.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 12:54:44 PM EDT
[#20]
If she HAS TO GO to a family event, she has to go - what's so hard to understand about that? Maybe she doesn't even want to go, and I agree with others that it's a good sign that she wants you to be around her family. Stop being so selfish. A relationship isn't about just YOU and what you want. Just my opinion - since you asked. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:01:11 PM EDT
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seriously, man, she just invited you to see some of her family. thats a nice thing and can be fun to. youve already spent alot of alone time with her so what the hell is so hard about going and hanging out with her and some of her relatives for awhile? she probably thinks you are afraid to meet her family or something. open yourself up some more, have a good time with her family, and dont worry so much. take a chill pill-and its allgood
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:10:45 PM EDT
[#22]
Besides, go to this, and you could get some PIE!!! Seriously she might make you dessert or something. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:12:03 PM EDT
[#23]
Don't jump to any conclusions. Act like you don't need her.......she will be all over you.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:19:52 PM EDT
[#24]
Ayup. If you want to go, go. If not, don't. The needier you are, the more indecisive you are, the clinger and more willing you are, the less you get. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:22:56 PM EDT
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:29:15 PM EDT
[#26]
Um....I think the 'has to go' wasn't referring to the family event, but the phone conversation. You know, the typical (of both sexes) 'I don't want to deal with this right now and don't want to get into why I don't want to deal with this so I'm just going to say I've got to go and hang up the phone shutting down the conversation' thing. I tend to agree with the overall assessment, though......I don't think he was being THAT selfish, but relationships are about two people, and about compromising together. Guy would have been much better off expressing interest in going and perhaps working on a compromise like suggested earlier in the thread. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:37:56 PM EDT
[#27]
I think you are my brother. No offense, you asked for opinions. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:38:56 PM EDT
[#28]
Never give an inch. I had two years of a wonderful relationship...... and then I told her I loved her. It was like flipping a switch. She turned into an evil manipulative bee-otch.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:39:18 PM EDT
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:43:00 PM EDT
[#30]
+1. This is the only truth in this thread so far. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:44:40 PM EDT
[#31]
Well if you cant win either way, try to make her happy by going and hanging with her and her family. You sitting at home pouting isnt gonna do either of you any good.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:46:28 PM EDT
[#32]
 You're making this way harder than it has to be. I don't see where she said that the 2 of you were spending the entire day and night with her family, it's just a party. If you can not compromise with her, then the relationship is doomed anyway.
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Posted: 8/20/2004 1:46:44 PM EDT
[#33]
Never say "I love you " first. Maintain at least a 5 to 1 "I love you" ratio as well. When she says it, it DOES NOT mean that you have to parrot it back to her. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:00:54 PM EDT
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It's one thing to go along and do something that she wants, it's another when she suddenly changes plans, tells you what she wants you to do, and then get's all pissy about when you don't do exactly like she told you. You did the right thing by suggesting something else. You are seeing who true personality come out and she is a control freak. Tell her she can go to the party and you'll see her on a different night. That is unless you preferr to be dominated and controlled by a woman who will throw a fit everytime you ideas disagree with what she wants you to do. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:05:31 PM EDT
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Doing something she wants to do is not being controlled by the woman. Being clingy and paranoid is being controlled by your penis(its called pussy-whipped). Go to the party. Get laid. Enjoy. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:08:53 PM EDT
[#36]
Don't take things too seriously. A lot of people act different when relatives or friends are around. This may be what is going on now. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to spend time alone with her. However, I see her inviting you to a family event as a good thing. Who knows, it may have led to some alone time.
 Stop worrying about being controlled and enjoy the relationship.BTW, if you find out what makes relationships so hard, please let me know! |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:11:24 PM EDT
[#37]
That's exactly why I was frustrated. We made plans yesterday for a quiet night between us and it seems like she wanted to get a rise out of me. We hadn't seen each other all week and she said she missed me so I suggested the dinner thing. Come to think of it, I'm not wrong. But that still dosen't mean I won't go to the party. hinking.gif |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:25:57 PM EDT
[#38]
Here's what you do:
Go to the party to shut her up. Then when you get bored, tell her "We're going". If she pipes up, then you backhand her. It's either that or let go of this neandrethal concept you have of maintaining your pride. Frankly, I don't see why you wouldn't want to go to this party. It's a free meal, couple of beers and a probably a piece of ass afterwards. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:31:48 PM EDT
[#39]
As a general rule:
1. Women are crazy, and 2. In any situation in which sacrifice is not guaranteed to produce a satisfying emotional high and/or enhance their status, they are selfish. Sometimes I do not believe that we and they are members of the same species. I sometimes think that through some colossal mixup the ova of actual human women (i.e. females of our species) were implanted in attractive but eerily erratic, oblivious, and irrational space aliens. Can you tell it's been a tough couple of days at Maison FLAL1A? |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 2:32:11 PM EDT
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Because they involve women. I don't know what to tell you, bud. My wife just talks to me like a normal person and doesn't require me to decode some secret estrogen language. She knows that men hate that shit and that it damages the relationship rather than strengthens it. If your girl prefers to play mindgames, perhaps you'd prefer to be with someone else. I know I would. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:00:08 PM EDT
[#41]
Allright guys, she called and we are going to dinner. htI have to compromise but it seems as if she dosen't care one way or another.
I even said, "It's not my intention to keep you away from your family". Then I asked her if she still wanted to go to dinner. She said "it's up to you". Damn, have a friggin opinion! Oh well, at least I'll have a couple of cold ones tonight. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:03:30 PM EDT
[#42]
So, you want her to have opinions, but you get pissed off and think she's a control-freak when she wants things that are different from what you want?  ... just playing devil's advocate with you - but you might want to consider that you may be coming across as somewhat unreasonable and inflexible from her side of the table. Enjoy the cold ones, because that'll probably be the only thing you're getting tonight!
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:17:50 PM EDT
[#43]
That's cold. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:19:35 PM EDT
[#44]
hehe - asking relationship advice on ar15.com is a dangerous thing 
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:22:32 PM EDT
[#45]
Congradulations! You passed up a free meal, probably some free beers, an opportunity to let her have her way (which goes far with women), and you get to look like a selfish hardass. 
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:23:38 PM EDT
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:28:28 PM EDT
[#47]
Danger, Will Robinson! I can never tell when those words meant "I'm testing your reaction" or when they meant "I don't want to make a decision." |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:28:48 PM EDT
[#48]
This sounds like a problem for Doc Love!
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:37:55 PM EDT
[#49]
A month! Whatever you do don't move in.
SLOW DOWN! You will not know this girl until you have dated a year AND have had a few rough times. Then start making decesions about the future. |
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Posted: 8/20/2004 3:41:52 PM EDT
[#50]
There is no such as "fair" when it comes down to the relationship between a man and a woman. I've come to realize that, in America especially it is true. Since I have Asian background this is very apparent to me.
Doesn't mean this is bad, but just expressing my opinion. |
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