I never lied to her about anything and she knows it. She knew what she was getting into from the start; heck, I even showed her pics of my kids.
One thing she did misunderstand was the part that I had to be "on call" for my job. I had to tell my ex this since I only had New Years Day off and my house is a very long drive from where I work. I was suppose to have my kids for New Years day, but driving home for one day and then turning right back around and fly the next day is somewhat draining. It's not like my work place is right across town....it's hundreds of miles a way (one way). What I was worried about was my ex-wife.....she has a way of turning this sort of stuff around to make me look like "the bad Dad". I have 50% physical and joint custody of them (she hates me for this), I have them 26% more of the time than she does while they are awake (she hates that), my attorney found a way for me to bypass the required overnights with the kids (she hates us both for that one, plus my job keeps me away from home 5 nights out of 7), and my child support payments to her border on being pitiful (and I know she hates me for this one). She hates it because for a divorce, I walked away smelling as good as a guy could; she didn't/couldn't take the kids from me (even though she and her attorney tried like hell), I have the kids all the time and we have a great time together, and property wise and financially I walked away with way more than my 50%........because my attorney (who is blood), kicked their ass.
I guess the point I was trying to make is that I needed a day to relax, have a day where I didn't spend 5-6 hours of driving on the road, to kick back and do nothing......and the only way to do that, without the ex jotting it down in her journal (and I'm sure she has one on me) that "I didn't want to face my responsibilty of raising the kids, etc.), was to tell her I was "on call". And if a flight would have come up, hell, I would have went on it to boot, so I was gambling on that one as well.
Where the hell was I going with all of this? Oh yeah.....I think my new friend just thought I should have been a little more upfront on my schedule and communication skills....and she's 100% right.
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