One of the few times I wrote off a friend was with a high school friend I thought would be a lifetime buddy. We used to go fishing, camping, and hunting, and generally hang out and have a good time. His older brother was a major drughead, and introduced him to drugs. I thought "no problem, it doesn't involve me." Eventually, it became a problem for me. I never did any illegal drugs and never really cared to, but my friend was also selling drugs, and looked alot like his older brother and sometimes people would mistake him for his brother. When I was in college I was still living at home, there were people calling my parent's house, looking for him. He gave them my parent's number! Last thing I'd want to happen was get them involved in his drug dealing BS. Another problem with him looking like his older brother was when we'd go to a bar to play darts, shoot pool, or pick up girls. Some a-hole would come up to us, was really sure he was his brother, and wanted to kick his ass because his older brother screwed the guy over or owed him money. He was pretty careless regarding who he sold drugs to as well. At this point, my radar was going off, but still it was "not my problem, he
s still a friend." I let him know I felt uncomfortable when that kind of stuff happened, because I didnt' feel like getting beaten, shot, or stabbed because of something he or his brother did. The idea of getting pulled over leaving a bar and having drugs found in my car didn't appeal to me either. I told him if we're going to hang out, I dont' want the stuff near me.
I stopped hanging around with him, then he comes over saying he's stopped selling drugs and has cut down on the weed, and there shouldn't be any further problems. The next day I head out to the bar, then find him in the parking lot "sampling" the product with a coule customers, same shit, different day. I let it go, no big deal. Then I ask him if he wants to tag along when I was going to the mall. He tells me he's avoiding that area, because someone there gave him some money to buy some drugs, then the guys he was buying from stuck a gun to his head and took his money. Again, not another time I'd want him riding with me.
Last straw: I get a call from him at another high school buddy's house. They're hainging out, talking about the good old days, and thought about me. I head over there, and as soon as I entered the door, I'm looking down the barrel of an H&R 12guage. Another guy there was f'd up really bad, paranoid, and was playing with a shotgun. My friend was pretty wasted too, but told me the gun wasn't loaded. When the guy put the shotgun down and left the room, I took the gun and broke open the barrel. The damn gun was loaded! Turns out they were dropping acid, and they were all out of their minds. Right then I said, "that's it, I'm tired of this f*cking bullshit." I took the shotgun with me left. A couple days later my friend calls and asks me if I seen his shotgun. He didn't recall anything that happened that night. I told him what happened, and how that was the scariest day in my life, and I was tired of this bullshit. Our friendship has ended. I told him not to come by or call me again unless he gets his act together. It's been about 8-9 years, and I've run into him maybe twice, and he's pretty much gone downhill since. He has to ride a bicycle to work because he was DUI with a big bag of weed sitting on his truck seat. I have no regrets keeping my distance from him.