new barmaid at my place is hot as all hell.  Not Britney Spears hot but more like Fox news babe hot.  I flirt with her and try to lighten the mood and get her smiling.  So she wants to shoot!  Never fired a gun before!  She's late 20's, divorced, no BF, no kids, paralegal, did I mention gorgeous?  She worked her 3rd night tonight with me.  She wants me to teach her to shoot.  Now I'm entering dangerous waters here, even though my wife and I are contemplating a divorce this girl makes me weak in the knees.  Killer smile, awesome body.  Cool as hell.  This is the third chic in 2 weeks that has caught my eye and although she hasn't yet the others have pretty much made flagrant passes at me.  The other 2 are beautiful also.  haven't had this many coming at me in a long while.  Will try to save the marriage but I can't help but think about taking this girl to thew range.  I think she digs me a bit but is afraid because she knows I'm married.  You single fucks don't know how good you have it sometimes!

Greta Van Susteren hot....[lol]

No, think Dara Brown or Natalie Morales from MSNBC.

How new is she to there?
Not to pee in your coffe but I smell a trap.



I KNOW my wife would try to pull something like this, get another woman to come on to you and as soon as you act on it bust you and take EVERYTHING

No, everyone is new as is the bar, I'm the night manager and she's a relative of one of our beer reps.  I wish you guys could see this girl.

If you really want to try and save your marriage you might want to hold off or maybe string her along a little and keep her in the bullpen. If you have had it with your marriage and want a divorce or you know it's over, go for it.

My Grandpa once gave me a piece of advice, which I follow:  "Never get your pussy and your paycheck at the same place."  'Nuff said, and no judgment offered should you not wish to take it.

I don't know if I want to string anyone along.  I have my marriage 1st in mind, although it seems we are nearing the end.  As for going for it, I probabky could but even if I did at this point I'm still in dark waters.  This chic is smart and I don't think she would deal with being strung along.  We opened up to each other pretty quick, talking about our personal lives and partners.  So she has already given me some trust in that and even as an employee I am not gonna toss that down the drain to get into her pants.  The main problem is that she is, or seems to be, very receptive to my flirtatious nature which caught me off guard for once.  As her boss I also have influence over her in a weird way and in any other situation she might not be so trusting.  Like I said I've spent less than 15 hours with the girl and we know each others basic relationship history.  She has conceeded to go shooting with me if I would have her.  So I don't want to run with the ball for the sake of doing it.

Ok, Valkyrie you'r going to have to give up the name of the bar.

I'll have to come by, and check her out. You know, make sure she ok for you.

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Never get your bread and your meat at the same store.

No matter how hot any chick is, remember: some guy, somewhere is sick of her shit

I hit it!

Since when did Take Her Shooting=Fucking/Fooling Around?

Still I wouldn't go with her by myself. Take several people so it wont be like a date. Try to make it more guys than girls too. Also keep in mind that a paralegal has smarts enough to know that if she wants to she can put a sexual harrasment lawsuit on you with ease.

Better just shine this one on brother.

Dude draw the line in the sand right now.  Just be honest and tell her that you think the best thing for you is to try and save your marriage.  Then do everything you can to save it.  Pray, get good counseling and advice, everything you can.  Tell bar chick straight up that if it doesn't work out, you would be happy to take her and show her your gun at that point but not before.  If she has any class, she will appreciate your honesty and your stock will rise like a rocket....you will be invincible in her eyes for two reasons: 1. You are dead nuts honest, and 2. You are serious about commitment.  She will be wet 24/7 just thinking about it.  

If you do the right thing, and your marriage works out, then life is GOOD.  If it doesn't, and you did all you could, your guilt feelings about it will be severely limited and by that time the bar chick will have thought about getting with you for so long that when you CAN give her the green light she'll be on you like rioters on Reginald Denny.  At that point, I would advise her that as her boss you would love to jump in but you can't until she finds a different (read higher paying) job.  And she will.  Life is then GOOD!  And finally, if she says f*** you then....you definately don't need to be involved with her low-class ass anyway.  Life is still GOOD.

My Dad gave me a great piece of advice after his third divorce had totally freed him of any and all illusions regarding women.

"When it comes to girls, just use them and dump them - because that's exactly what they're gonna do to you".

CKMorley

tell her you need to take pics of her to post on an internet message board [:O]

This is by far the best advice given in this thread.. BUT...

I'd hit it and
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do the right thing, keep it professional, or leave it alone, make the marriage with the wife work, remember the vows...

any guy can run off with some hot chick, but it takes a real man of honor, and integrity to make the marriage what it should be

Bravo!  Well spoken sir.  Please remember Valkyrie that there is a world of difference between contemplating divorce and being divorced; and until then, you have sworn to forsake all other women.  From the tone of your postings, you strike me as an honorable man.  I trust you will do the right thing.

Paging Mr. Clinton, Mr. Bill Clinton, to the "clue desk".

I'm sure you're a real charming fella [url=http://www.valkyriearms.com]Valkyrie[/url] but you're married (for better or for worse) [b]AND[/b] you're her boss. There's not a lot of fiscal incentive for her to tell you to f off.

Women are like buses, stand on a corner and one will be along every ten minutes. Besides, if you play the "I'm trying to work my marriage problems out" card right you'll still be able to hit it once you're free...and working somewhere else.

As one bar manager to another, dood, step back, it's a trap.

Of course, my whole opinion might change if you'd post a picture of this supposed hot bar maid. [}:D]

I can't read your mind or see into your heart but after reading what you have written here.....

I don't think you have any desire at all to save your marrige.

I hope there are no children involved.

Don't stick your pen in the office ink.

The plot thickens.  A 20 year old chicky barmaid is all googly eyed at me.  Wants to rent a porno and watch it with me after work.  Yes she's good looking.  She's the prim and proper, upperclass country club upbringing, doe-eyed cute.  She has a naughty side so I have found!  

Why do barmaids always want to bang their boss?  Happens at every place I've worked and with at least 60% of my girls.  Some psychological thing or what?  Don't get me wrong I enjoy the advances they are flatering but it is mind boggling sometimes as better looking guys than I go down in flames night after night after night!

Never worked in a bar I see.

V - to be on the safe side take her, and another girl shooting. Kinda keeps a lid on things, and yet if things do go wild, well you were outnumbered.

Oh - while at the range, take a POLL as to where a checkbook and credit cards should be stored...

If you are going to cheat on your wife and screw up your marriage, why bother to post all the details here?

It's pretty obvious what you intend to do. Taking the bar job just about guaranteed the destruction of you failing union. The "checkbook/ my wife is psycho" post was lame.

"My wife is controling and doesn't trust me."

Big surprise.

As you continue to post the sad saga of your failing marriage and impending divorce in the attempt to garner validation and sympathy, try to be a little more truthfull. The thread title was a good start, but you need to be more honest with us. Skip the "I'm a victim" bullshit.

It's not like we're married to you.

"Never get your honey where you get your money"

BRUTAL.

I vote to take both young wimmens shooting, then watch the porno movie.
Ask your wife if she wants to join y'all. [;D]
That'll get everything out in the open.

Does working in a bar relieve you of the necessity to be trustworthy, loyal, gentlemanly, civil.....?

Are you using the excuse that you work in a bar so you have to fuck the help? Man you are a walking, talking advertisement for how to get your ass sued for sexual harrasment.

If you came here with your post to lose the respect of your peers it looks like your getting what you wanted.

Funny how everyone here thinks I am bagging my marriage!  I am not going to go do anything with any of these women, I think about it, like any guy would but doing it is  out of the question.  Will I still be married in a year?  I hope but neither of us has high expectations as past baggage is weighing us down.  Guys, I'm just posting what I have been approached with by a few of my girls.  I find it flattering, fun and entertaining.  BTW this is standard fare and anyone who has worked in a bar/club will tell you the same.  My wife bartends one or two nights a week at another place for the same owner and is well aware how barmaids can be.  She finds these stories funny and I enjoy hers.  It comes with the territory so to speak.  Do either of us get jealous?  Not really.  I doubt many of your marriages would stand our jobs and such.  We both are surrounded by temptation, me more than her as a bar is my full-time gig and we have both remained faithful with ease.  The stuff at work is not the issue(s) that's the problem although by what I have posted it can be concluded that I am at fault.

Beleive me I do not want a divorce and want to stay married to my wife.  There is a private past that we both endured where we treated each other badly and it haunts our relationship.  I've talked about it some here in previous threads.  If you guys want to beleive that I am willing to toss what I have down the drain for a quick fuck or blowjob in a bar bathroom then you don't know me in any sense.