OK, couple of things
-You should have threatened your realtor. I find that these people typically respond best to threats of physical violence. If he thought you were going to hurt him, he never would have done what he did. Remember, your realtor's cut comes out of the price of the house, which means that it's in your own realtor's best interests to drive up the price. Also, if the deal falls through, he gets shit, so he's going to do whatever he can to make sure it goes through, and as quickly as possible. He does not have your best interests at heart. The game is stacked for him to be on the seller's side. I could go on and on just on this point alone.
-"Seller contributions" are bullshit. It's just allowing you to finance the closing costs. That $4500 that they're "giving" you is going to cost you 5 times that at least over the life of your loan. If you're not going to have to come up with $13000, then I don't see the benefit of it.
-Screwed is as screwed does. If you really want this particular house right now, the you'll pay whatever you have to and put the added $7500 on credit cards. Personally, I'd walk away from this and tell all these crooks and theives to sod off, but that's just me. I never go into any deal that I'm not willing to walk away from. Nothing is worth me getting screwed.