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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:11:24 PM EDT
I was sitting on the couch watching tv last night and my fiancee got home and said she needed to talk to me about something. So naturally I started going over all the things I've done wrong in my head in a wild panic. She tells me it's her tutor she wants to talk about. Thank god! She then goes on tell me that he has been acting "odd" and he kinda sorta asked her out. She shows me some texts where he says he can't wait to see her and how he enjoys spending time with her. Last night I guess he asked if she wanted to go grab a drink with him after their session.
 (she said no way you know I'm getting married soon.
I trust her completely and knew she had a dude tutor this whole time. I've never seen or met the guy but I've known about him. She asked me what I want her to do about it and hell, idk. I don't wanna be that guy that demands she never sees him again but I also kinda worry about some little college fucker trying to make a move. So do I shit on his head and assert maximum dominance? Let it go and trust her (where I'm leaning)? Or what? In for GD lulz and "wisdom". 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:12:52 PM EDT
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I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:13:13 PM EDT
[#2]
Sounds like she's the one that needs to take care of the problem...not you. His advances should bother her as much as they bother you.....if they don't, you have bigger problems on your hands.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:13:43 PM EDT
[#3]
Well shit.
This should be fun Seejay.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:13:54 PM EDT
[#4]
Let it go.
She should be allowed to spend ample amounts of time with another male, that is trying to convince her he is a better choice than you. If she can't recognize the problem and the correct solution and you can't either, I am not sure either of you will make good decisions. If you permit temptation to continually occur, do not be surprised when one acts upon it. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:13:58 PM EDT
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Has she told him she's already in a relationship? If she has a he is continuing to be disrepectful I think asking her to find a new tutor is not out of the question..... if she will not find a new one, shit on tutors head to establish dominance.
ETA: if she doesn't feel uncomfortable enough to make the change on her own, you should start thinking about her decision making skills. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:13:59 PM EDT
[#6]
Personally
I would let my wife handle it and make sure he knows his limits. It would be up to her if she wants to continue with him or not. This is an option because I trust her. If she talked to him, and his actions continued, I would talk to him. Then he would find a new client |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:14:06 PM EDT
[#7]
Sign up for tutoring with him and then do nothing but clean your shotgun the whole time. That will teach him.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:14:26 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF She's hot, he's posted before |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:14:50 PM EDT
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Is the tutor also female?
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:14:58 PM EDT
[#10]
It's not harmless anymore. She needs to find another tutor since this one has overstepped the obvious boundaries. Find another!
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:15:01 PM EDT
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Sounds like she's the one that needs to take care of the problem...not you. His advances should bother her as much as they bother you.....if they don't, you have bigger problems on your hands. THIS RIGHT HERE... If she just accepts the advances and does not stop the behavior, it's her fault as well. Been there recently. I put an end to that and got it right out in the open and it made sense to her... |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:15:29 PM EDT
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I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF This is the only way to see if I also have a crush on her. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:15:56 PM EDT
[#13]
She has to deal with it
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:12 PM EDT
[#14]
You're going to need to mark your territory before her next tutoring session. May I suggest a pearl necklace?
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:13 PM EDT
[#15]
She wasn't sure how to handle it, so she came to you. That's an excellent sign.. She trusts you enough to tell you what is going on.
You picked a good one 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:29 PM EDT
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Sounds like she's the one that needs to take care of the problem...not you. His advances should bother her as much as they bother you.....if they don't, you have bigger problems on your hands. Her mentioning it to OP would seems to satisfy this. I agree with your post though |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:38 PM EDT
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I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF She's much better looking than Seejay |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:52 PM EDT
[#18]
Why don't the three of you go out for drinks?
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:16:54 PM EDT
[#19]
depends on what hes tutoring her for.... we need details...
english? math? pole dancing? |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:17:00 PM EDT
[#20]
Did you even pee on his leg yet?
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:17:06 PM EDT
[#21]
Dude I told her to invite you, she said you'd kill the mood.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:17:07 PM EDT
[#22]
She asked you what you wanted, you won't be the "guy that demands she never sees him again"...she wants you to tell her to tell him to get lost.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:17:07 PM EDT
[#23]
Go with her next time and call him on it.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:17:51 PM EDT
[#24]
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Sign up for tutoring with him and then do nothing but clean your shotgun the whole time. That will teach him. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:18:09 PM EDT
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Sign up for tutoring with him and then do nothing but clean your shotgun the whole time. That will teach him. Winning 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:18:11 PM EDT
[#26]
Keep some paper plates handy.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:18:39 PM EDT
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Has she told him she's already in a relationship? If she has a he is continuing to be disrepectful I think asking her to find a new tutor is not out of the question..... if she will not find a new one, shit on tutors head to establish dominance.
ETA: if she doesn't feel uncomfortable enough to make the change on her own, you should start thinking about her decision making skills. Yeah she told. In texts and in person. Like I said, I trust her %100 percent and she has plenty of dude friends she hangs out with. He's not being aggressive or Anything yet.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:18:44 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Sounds like she's the one that needs to take care of the problem...not you. His advances should bother her as much as they bother you.....if they don't, you have bigger problems on your hands. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:18:45 PM EDT
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This is the only way to see if I also have a crush on her. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF This is the only way to see if I also have a crush on her. pretty much my thoughts
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:19:10 PM EDT
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She wasn't sure how to handle it, so she came to you. That's an excellent sign.. She trusts you enough to tell you what is going on. You picked a good one This. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:19:16 PM EDT
[#31]
In no uncertain terms she should bust his bubble and insist he proceed on a professional and adult level
No friendsies either. 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:19:19 PM EDT
[#32]
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I was sitting on the couch watching tv last night and my fiancee got home and said she needed to talk to me about something. So naturally I started going over all the things I've done wrong in my head in a wild panic. She tells me it's her tutor she wants to talk about. Thank god! She then goes on tell me that he has been acting "odd" and he kinda sorta asked her out. She shows me some texts where he says he can't wait to see her and how he enjoys spending time with her. Last night I guess he asked if she wanted to go grab a drink with him after their session. (she said no way you know I'm getting married soon.
I trust her completely and knew she had a dude tutor this whole time. I've never seen or met the guy but I've known about him. She asked me what I want her to do about it and hell, idk. I don't wanna be that guy that demands she never sees him again but I also kinda worry about some little college fucker trying to make a move. So do I shit on his head and assert maximum dominance? Let it go and trust her (where I'm leaning)? Or what? In for GD lulz and "wisdom". If your fiance is attractive you will always be dealing with these sort of situations. You need to let her handle it. Any "advice" you offer which comes off as a request or demand will just come off wrong. Just my .02 |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:19:47 PM EDT
[#33]
Let her go out with her tutor. Maybe he'll teach her a few things that she can put to good use on your honeymoon.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:19:55 PM EDT
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Go with her next time and call him on it. This, film and post video of his reaction here. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:20:10 PM EDT
[#35]
Quote HistoryQuoted:
Let it go. She should be allowed to spend ample amounts of time with another male, that is trying to convince her he is a better choice than you. If she can't recognize the problem and the correct solution and you can't either, I am not sure either of you will make good decisions. If you permit temptation to continually occur, do not be surprised when one acts upon it. This sums it up. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:20:22 PM EDT
[#36]
set the date up then you fo instead
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:20:40 PM EDT
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In for the after devil's threesome report
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:20:57 PM EDT
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Go with her next time and call him on itsit in the corner not saying a word giving him a wolf stare during the whole session. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:21:12 PM EDT
[#39]
She should accept his offer to go out. She brings you along. Women tend to do those things to crush a guy.
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:21:49 PM EDT
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Her mentioning it to OP would seems to satisfy this. I agree with your post though Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Sounds like she's the one that needs to take care of the problem...not you. His advances should bother her as much as they bother you.....if they don't, you have bigger problems on your hands. Her mentioning it to OP would seems to satisfy this. I agree with your post though Yeah I saw texts wher she shut him down. And it does/did bother her so she told me. 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:22:21 PM EDT
[#41]
I'm gonna need pics of gf for research purposes.
It's the only way. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:24:49 PM EDT
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Let her go out with her tutor. Maybe he'll teach her a few things that she can put to good use on your honeymoon. I found the tutor...... Seejay!
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:24:59 PM EDT
[#43]
I'd suggest she finds another tutor as her situation is going to undermine her work as the tutor is clearly being distracted by her and not offering her the most value for her time.
OP don't be beta, don't let some Alpha walk all over you. It's a bad thing to do nothing. It's also bad to over-react. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:25:31 PM EDT
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Dude I told her to invite you, she said you'd kill the mood. Well played. 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:25:54 PM EDT
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It's not harmless anymore. She needs to find another tutor since this one has overstepped the obvious boundaries. Find another! This. If he cannot contain his emotions and focus on his task (tutoring) then what is the quality of the help he is supposed to be providing her? |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:26:16 PM EDT
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I have no opinion until I see a pic of the GF +1. Come on OP |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:26:33 PM EDT
[#47]
Clearly the only answer is to rub yourself all over the fiancee and piss on her in order to get your scent on her.
Then send her off to the tutor so he will smell you on her and realize she is spoken for. If he does not back off than you battle. Oh and if the fiancee does not seek out another tutor after this you need to eject and quickly. |
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:26:51 PM EDT
[#48]
Or give him my address and tell the guy to come in my back gate at night saying she'll meet him there
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:26:54 PM EDT
[#49]
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depends on what hes tutoring her for.... we need details... english? math? pole dancing? Organic chemistry. 
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Posted: 8/31/2015 1:27:23 PM EDT
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Her telling you was a way of her finding out what way to deal with this that would appease you. Tell her how you feel, and let her do it. It is laying a good foundation for the future.
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