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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:35:37 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:36:03 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:37:35 PM EDT
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Yes I always do.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:37:45 PM EDT
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First two posts covered it.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:38:42 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:39:25 PM EDT
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Yeah, I'd pay for their meal.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:39:52 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? send them home |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:40:38 PM EDT
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Quoted: Quoted: Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? Either tell them they're not welcome or pony up for their meal. "Sorry, maybe next time." |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:40:45 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. Nobody's kid is just going to jump in my car and say "I'm going to dinner with you". |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:41:20 PM EDT
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Pay and send your kids to hang out at their house next weekend....or not. I am generous like that.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:42:03 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. This unless there parents gave me money up front. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:42:18 PM EDT
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They can't invite themselves if you don't let them. You're the adult. If you want them to come along, pay for them.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:42:47 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. This. You invited them right? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:43:28 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? You can't stand up for yourself and tell them it's a family dinner? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:44:26 PM EDT
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Id just pay for them. It is the decent thing to do. Kids that young dont generally think of money.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:45:03 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? You can't stand up for yourself and tell them it's a family dinner? This is what I was wondering. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:46:48 PM EDT
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Pay up
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:47:29 PM EDT
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Quoted: Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. If another adult entrusts their children with me, to be cared for through a meal period, I understand that it becomes my responsibility to provide food for the children. Of course, I do ask if there are any special instructions or plans for their future meals... wherein my friends will normally provide a few bucks to defray the cost... or the food... etc. If my plan involves eating out, then those meals are covered just the same as my own children (if I had any). If the next meal outing happens at a greater interval, then so be it.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:51:48 PM EDT
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Quoted: Quoted: Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? ...then maybe they'll offer to pay their own way. But don't count on it. You can say, "Sorry kids, we're having a family outing. See you later." Or, you can decide to take them along and cover their costs. If you decide to include them, be prepared to pay their way. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:54:01 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:56:12 PM EDT
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We took a friend of our kids to dinner and she tried to pay her own way. She was our guest that day but her parents sure raised her right.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:58:21 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 3:59:53 PM EDT
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If you bring them along then you pay for them.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:01:03 PM EDT
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damn, i thought i was cheap. kids are with you. feedem
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:01:52 PM EDT
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If you bring them along then you pay for them. ok. so at what age should they pay for themselves?? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:05:37 PM EDT
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If you bring them along then you pay for them. ok. so at what age should they pay for themselves?? When they have jobs. Did you grow up on an island? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:06:04 PM EDT
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If you bring them along then you pay for them. ok. so at what age should they pay for themselves?? If you agree to take your kids friends you always pay. Period. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:08:04 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. 
Why is this even a question? __________________________________________________________________ Cross-platform gun database/electronic bound book (v1.3.2) (and the original thread). Libertardians: maximizing libertarian losses since 2008. «nolite confidere in principibus, in filiis hominum quibus non est salus» |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:09:07 PM EDT
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Let them work off the debt in the coal mines.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:09:44 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. First post nails it. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:09:53 PM EDT
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Yes I always do.
Me too. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:10:38 PM EDT
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If the children are under my watch, of course I pay.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:11:12 PM EDT
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Kids I'd pay for.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:11:59 PM EDT
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Don't agree to take the kids to dinner if you're not willing to pay. ok, let say if they invited themselves. Am i still expected to pay for them?or send them home? Not sure about the details of the invitation, but... View it as an opportunity to evaluate the kids your kids are hanging out with. Much can be deduced about a person's character and upbringing by their behavior at dinner. Granted, that they "invited themselves" is a huge negative mark. But, aside from that, take advantage of the situation. You should use it as an opportunity to demonstrate to your children how not to be a douche bag, and probably identify kids with whom they're not allowed to associate. __________________________________________________________________ Cross-platform gun database/electronic bound book (v1.3.2) (and the original thread). Libertardians: maximizing libertarian losses since 2008. «nolite confidere in principibus, in filiis hominum quibus non est salus» |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:12:05 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. This is the only answer. 
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:12:53 PM EDT
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You invite you pay. Your kids invite, you kick their ass.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:13:10 PM EDT
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If you bring them along then you pay for them. ok. so at what age should they pay for themselves?? Never. If they are friends of your kids and you are taking your kids out to dinner, just pay for the damn meal. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:15:11 PM EDT
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If I invite you, I pay regardless of age or gender.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:16:08 PM EDT
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Paying for the kids? Absolutely, that's the proper thing to do. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:16:45 PM EDT
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You invite you pay. Your kids invite, you kick their ass. excellent answer |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:17:31 PM EDT
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Yes I always do. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:17:41 PM EDT
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Are you really this concerned with paying for a couple of kids? If it's a dollars and cents/personal finances issue, you probably shouldn't be going out at all.
Otherwise, they're just kids, pay up. Later, you can have a talk with your kids about inviting friends along to family dinner outings; do's and don'ts Quoted:
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If you bring them along then you pay for them. ok. so at what age should they pay for themselves?? |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:17:47 PM EDT
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Quoted: Let them work off the debt in the coal mines. Or wash my truck, mow my lawn, pick up the dog shit, etc. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:21:41 PM EDT
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Always pay for the meal. Your kids will respect you more.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:32:53 PM EDT
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Depends if you can afford it or not.
If you can, then hell yes. If you can't then explain why. If done right it it is a good lesson in economics. The kids themselves understand, as long as you are not trying to keep up with some of their parents for the sake of appearances. You never can go wrong by just being honest in your situation. GM GM |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 4:41:29 PM EDT
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Every time, for me its just the right thing to do. Then again most of my children's friends are like family to me, so that could have a lot to do with it.
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Posted: 11/23/2012 5:13:05 PM EDT
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You invite you pay. Your kids invite, you kick their ass. excellent answer Are you actually a parent ?
If so, how old are you? You said that the kids - who are 12 and 14 - invited themselves. So at that point you have two choices ... 1. Tell the kids that they need to go home and eat supper with their own family. or 2. Take them out to eat with your family and *you* pay for their meal. You're seriously asking about whether or not you should make a twelve year old pay his or her own way at a sit-down restaurant ... ? 
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Posted: 11/23/2012 5:27:21 PM EDT
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I'm glad we have many here that understand how it's done.
If you don't want to pay, you don't bring them. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 5:34:07 PM EDT
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My 16 year old has a job and is expected to pay his own way.
The 13 year old usually earns enough money during the week to do whatever he wants. If I take his friends with me to dinner, I pay. The friends parents, if they take my son to dinner, pay. It is usually a wash and not worth worrying about. They're good kids, I like having them around. The laughs are worth the price of the occasional meal. |
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Posted: 11/23/2012 5:37:57 PM EDT
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Let them work off the debt in the coal acid mines. There ya go lol Op is a cheapskate |
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