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I am embarassed to admit this, but the same thing happened to me, only (and I can only drop to my worthless knees and thank Almighty God for it) the outcome was nowhere near as bad.
Several months ago I went to the local supermarket with my father-in-law and my daughter. She was strapped in her car seat.
We got to the store, got out, and proceeded to shop for about 20-25 minutes. When we came back to the car and were loading the groceries into the trunk, my blood ran cold...
My daughter was crying, still strapped in her car seat!
I have never dropped what I had in my hands, run around a car, opened a door, and pulled my kid out of the seat as I did in that instant.
Mind you, this was in the Florida Keys. As I said above, my only recourse is to thank God that it was early morning, that it was (relatively) cool outside, and that we were inside for only a short period.
I admit I completely forgot she was there. My father-in-law claims he never knew she was there. I refuse to comment on his position because he never saw me put her in, and, regardless, it is I who was ultimately responsible.
While cradling her in my arms and running inside to get her some cold water, I have never felt such embarassment, shame, guilt, or sorrow. Nothing happened, and she's perfectly fine, but I will NEVER forget that day nor forgive myself for it.
My point here? I used to believe the same as you guys above, HOW CAN YOU FORGET YOUR KID?
Well, you can.
The primary difference between me and this scumbag is that, God forbid, my daughter had fried to death, I would not be making excuses. I would plead no contest, ask for no mercy, and accept whatever they threw at me. (Anything would be better then having to face my wife!)
I think the incident finally woke me up to the magnitude of the responsibilities of fatherhood. I'll admit I was slow on the uptake, but boy did that scare wake me up.
All the incidents of kids recently disappearing and/or being murdered has only made it worse.
Well, I guess I'll complete my confession now. No, my wife doesn't know. I've wanted to tell her, if only to come clean, but my father-in-law has told me point-blank never to speak of the incident to her. I will eventually, but I'm not sure when.
In the meantime, I can assure you that the lesson has been well-learned.
This all being said, I stand ready to be beaten by you guys as I so richly deserve. [stick]