So you were in a long term relationship that ended, then within 1 month you got into a serious relationship?
No flame meant, but I think you need some time alone and learn to be by yourself for a while. Otherwise you will repeat the same mistakes made the first time and be divorced again. The reason this new girl was able to blow thru all your barriers is because you dated again to early and were vulnerable. This is very common.
What is it that you really want out of a relationship? These are questions that need a honest answer. If it's marriage then she can wait, if its sex then move down the road. Is this the only lady you have dated since the ddivorce? If it is, then you probably are just happy not being alone and she fills that void and nothing more.
Like I said, no flame meant. But you need to learn to be happy with out a woman before you can learn to be truly happy with a woman.
Remember...you asked.
Sgtar15