Posted: 5/2/2011 4:40:41 PM EDT
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I told my wife that a looooong time ago - even before we were married...
Sex is something to be given FREELY to your spouse - and this applies to both of us. It's an expression of love, and to deliberately deny your spouse of your love and affection is to deny your relationship, deny your marriage, deny your vows, and deny yourself. The only reasons we should have to 'deny' love, sex, and affection to one another is due to extenuating circumstances such as illness, exhaustion after a long & laborious day, etc...
If either one of us ever decided to withold sex, or use sex as some sort of bargaining 'chip' in order to get something in return that would be akin to prostitution, blackmail, extortion, and is inherently wrong & manipulative!
Doing so would mean losing ANY respect one has for the other, and would be a breach of your marriage vows.
If sex is temporarily out of the question due to headache, nausea, illness, or other circumstances then alternative forms of affection must be offered freely.
That is what I thought and understood when the wife and I got married. That is what it is supposed to be. What an idiot I was to actually believe in something like that!
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