I use a torque wrench. You can get them at an auto parts store for $20 or so. You want somewhere between 31 and 80 pounds of torque.
You will need a punch to get the little pin that hold the gas tube. It can sometimes be a PITA to get the pin back in, so make sure everything is lined up perfectly. It helps to have a set of specialized punches for the job that Brownells sells.
Be sure your Moly does not have graphite in it. A lot of commerical antisieze does.
If you have a tough time getting the nut off, stick the upper in the freezer overnight.
Getting the gas tube off can sometimes be tough. I have not found a perfect solution, but just apply CLP and wiggle it.
When you get the gas tube back on, stick the bolt carrier in the reciever to make sure the gas tube is not a little torqued and nicking the carrier.